All the signs are there that she likes me, but she won't admit it, WHY?

[Anonymous]

I'm really crazy about this woman I work with. All the signs are there that she likes me...we flirt, compliment each other, she's often nervous around me, etc. I think she likes me but I'm not sure. I told her how I felt and wanted to know how she feels, but she doesn't want to tell me. WHY? She is a single mother with a baby, and lots of relationship baggage. I'm a single father with lots of baggage too. So maybe that's why? Please help...this is driving me crazy!

[Anonymous]

Don't think that's it. There's a girl I'm crazy about at work. We flirt, talk, share personal stories, have each other's numbers, email etc. I've asked her out numerous times, she's always said yes but always backs out. She's a single mom. She has baggage. I don't have any kids and have considerably less baggage. She shows the signs of liking me, but don't know why we can't go out. I make her laugh (often too loud for work), make her blush, walk into walls. Just dunno.

[Asker]

Yeah, it sounds like she likes you for sure. Do you think the woman I'm interested in likes me, even though she doesn't want to tell me?

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like she might be interested, especially if she's interested in talking to you more, especially about more personal things that are not work related. She might be just emotionally unavailable though because of the baggage. Any situations you two have been in that might reveal her interest more? I realized the girl I like at work likes me too, at least a little, when she came and found me at a work party and spent the whole time with me there and got physically close to me.

[akmccoy]

As a single mom sometimes we put ourselves on the back burner and make the kids priority, which they are. I'm not saying putting ourselves on the back burner is right but it happens sometimes without us even realizing it. Pull her aside and say "Look I know you are a single mom, and that you have more to consider when dating someone. I just want you to know I respect that because that's how it should be. I'm feeling you and I know you are feeling me. Just know that I find you to be an awesome woman which means you must have an awesome child at home and I'd like to get to know you better, if its OK with you that is, but at your own pace and when you are ready. I just wanted to let you know that and just walk away. I'l send you a paypal invoice later LOL

[Anonymous]

She may like you, but the reason she isn't admitting It may not be you at all... when kids are involved there's a whole lot more to be cautious about.

[Asker]

Yeah, no doubt. I have two girls, so she's got that to consider too, not to mention we've only known each other for a couple months. Maybe I'm coming on too strong...but she asks me questions all the time like she wants to get to know me, personal stuff too. Even stuff like, "do you still live with your ex?" I thought she sounded interested. I work with her, so hopefully it won't be awkward now. Thanks for the input.

[akmccoy]

Totally agree. I am in that situation now. He has shown his attraction but I have stayed away. As a parent you do consider a lot of things. There may be a lot of fear and caution there. But all you have to do is pull away a little and she will respond. Give her an opportunity to come around. The fact that you made it clear how you felt may have been kind of soon for her. When you are a single mom with common sense you don't jump off into anything without much thought to the ramifications across the board. Don't rush her and move a little slower give her a little space. The guy I like came at me full throttle initially which was a little off putting as I didn't realize he was liking me til much late, r thought he was just a nice guy. I started liking him a little later after putting 2 and 2 together. I felt like if he knew I really liked him he may be too much to handle ie. try to move WAY to fast. Single dads may move a little fast for single moms. Just slow down and give her time.