Falled in love to a coworker?

[Anonymous]

Like the title says... plus she is already in relationship. We have gotten close, have admited each other pretty personal stuff and she have said she wants out of her relationship since she is miserable in it and have said she can't wait till her kid gets 18 ... We have hanged out and she have said "we should hang out for some more" but when i tell her to hangout then always she is too busy. But AT work she invites me for smoke and coffee in the workplace kitchen. Sometimes i just have feeling she just use me for ego boost, since i get lot of attention from coworkers. What should i do? Tell her how i feel about her? Or what?

[artgorgeous]

She says that she is miserable in her relationship, but what makes you feel that she won't be miserable with you then after some period of time? When you tell her to hang out, then she is too busy... I see the only person here who benefits from this is her. When she needs you, you must always be there, but when you need it - she is busy. If you have that feeling that she is using you, then trust that feeling.

[Asker]

We are working together so how should i pull away from her without looking like a bitch who got offended?

[artgorgeous]

If I was in such situation, I would probably tell her that I need to move on and such relationships will lead to nowhere. It will ruin her current life and family, create a lot of stress for both of you, etc. Do you really want to go through all this? Try to find yourself a different woman who is single.

[Daniela1982]

I agree with this. She is just getting a charge that someone else is interested in her. And it probably is no more than that. You are just a work friend. But since she is married you need to back off some. As far as you know, all that she tells you could be BS.

[Flatmanlewis]

She’s likes your attention and she’s feeding you enough to keep giving it to her. She’s not going to detail her life for you though. In short, you’re being used. Move on. When you try she will feed you a little more to get you back on the hook. It will be a cycle for a while until she gets bored or you cowboy the fuck up and walk on her. The moment you do, she will fade away.

[Asker]

But if i would tell her how i feel would not make her stop her to dicking me around? If she pushes me away then she can't ask me to give her attention no longer?

[In_Trance]

Don't try to fuck your coworkers. You're old enough to know better

[Anonymous]

You will regret this.

[Asker]

how?

[Anonymous]

Dude, move on and stop wasting your time.