What do you do if you are married but have fallen in love with another person where you work?

[Wonderlove]

Sneak off to have secret "meetings."

Stand your ground. Infatuation is temporary, marriage is forever.

Start to see where this thing can go with the other person. Slowly build a relationship.

Find anther job ASAP.

[shaysh87]

Reality is, there will always be someone better looking, cooler, more exciting, than your spouse. If you are constantly looking for someone better, you will never be able to hold onto a marriage. This is the same reason why I would never marry an American , americans are constantly on the lookout for someone better, allowing "feelings" to lead their actions rather than to hold onto family values. When you have a family and 3 kids relying on you for food and a huge mortgage under you and your wife's name, it is really not the right time to start thinking about cheating or breaking up the family. When you have a family, it is an enormous responsibility.

Its one of the reasons why I would never be able to trust an American man to be my husband. If I have been a stay home mother for 8 years to 3 children under 10 years old. Then suddenly my husband cheats or wants to leave me for another woman, I would be left with no job, no home, no way of paying for the 3 kids. These guys just do what fulfills their selfish needs, they have no remorse they just broke up a family. Everything is about hot sex, exciting romance, looks, and never about family values.

[cryscrys1]

The problem here is that the questions clearly says - but have fallen in love-
Right here I stoped reading the questions and took a 1 min of silence for you OP!


You love this other guy !! Love is such a huge word you didn’t say you like him or find him attractive or some low key description.


If you love this guy , are you able to sleep at night quietly? Do you still LOVE your husband?
That’s a problem !!
If this guy at your job is single see if you can do some serious talk with him about you getting divorced. If not and you still love your husband then stay away from him. If you don’t love your husband then get divorced. Easy.


I don’t recommend cheating. I believe universe sees us you can end up paying for it somehow. Why live with regrets and fear etc just get divorced so your husband finds Someone who loves him too. Just like you love this other guy.


Good luck ,

[Staximus]

You stop thinking with your dick or vagina and get your ass back to work. If there's something wrong with your marriage that can't be fixed, then it's understandable. If there's no problems with your marriage, then just stop being a piece of shit because there's no reason to put a knife in your husband or wife's heart.

[mobiusforniner]

I did this so i have firsthand experience. Thought i could be "friends" with her. Even had her meet my wife. But Holy shit, the feelings, the tension, the passion and the insecurities... i ended it, but the pain still hurts. She quit after the breakup. Was not pretty. Dont ever do it

[OlderAndWiser]

When you are married, you should avoid temptation instead of flirting with danger. You've already screwed up. Minimizes your losses by finding another job now!

[20yearsolder]

Obviously you're not happily married or you wouldn't even be contemplating messing around with this guy. Your options are to end the marriage you're in and pursue the guy at work. Tell the guy at work that this can't happen because you're married. Or cheat on your spouse

[BobSansMal]

I would lean more towards the "stand your ground" answer except that the question posits that you've already "fallen in love" which means it's already gone too far to stay there.

[ElementoP]

Just fuck the guy behind your husband's back, and by the time he finds out, you'll realize you only love your husband, but he'll get sick at the sight of you and divorce you and you'll end up with no one

[Googlemyahoo]

None of the above.

If you’ve fallen in love something must have happened between you. Therefore your current relationship is in question and if thats not working out why not end it? Instead of being deceitful.

[pizzalovershouse]

Well you should really think about why you dont live your husband an if its cuz he doesn't show he cares o doesn't give you encourage you to chase your dreams then you married the wrong guy an time for devirce

[Anonymous]

you should avoid and stop it thats a sin and not good to your image and your self, are you both married? what is your worl both of you? do you work together or co workers? has your both spouses knows each other?

[Opinion Owner]

its a sin and not good for people, do you have kids with your spouser and how long you marrier with your each spouses?

[Opinion Owner]

dont be a home wrecker and have respect bot of you for your self

[Opinion Owner]

dont be a home wrecker and have respect both of you of yourself

[sheikalana]

I would have to question and re-question my feelings and see if this is just a phase or if there's no turning back.

[slatyb]

It’s complex. People do leave marriages for other people, and it may be best.

[Charrow56]

Are you sure you've fallen in love? I would just avoid this other person if I really love my husband

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are female, you divorce rape your husband, damage your children, than run off with the new guy.

[OddBeMe]

E. Find out why you're seeking out “love” or “intimacy” elsewhere instead of your marriage.

[Lenell]

Find another job.

[OnlyOneMe34]

Sin or no sin get your head outta your ass!

[SolitarySolace]

Stay faithful or get a divorce.

[monkeynutts]

Haha that's hilarious.

[vald9inches]

Depends on your chemistry with them i suppose