I am married, we have kids and have been together 10 years. It’s turned into a very toxic marriage. I just keep getting hurt.
He belittles me, calls me a pathetic mother, says I need cosmetic surgery, has cheated on me.
I know I need to leave but I come from a broken home and I’m scared. I’m scared for my kids. That money will be tough.
I met someone, it’s just talking so far but god he is kind and makes me happy.
how does this work? Anyone left someone for another?
hope the next dude is rich because this will be a very rocky road for you and your kids... your kids will deal with it tough too. i dealt with my parents divorcing young and i'm still not over it and never will be at this point. but then again, your husband treats you awful and i just hope that the kids don't hear what he says to you because that can also be very damaging. you are in a very tough spot here.
as for the new dude, he needs to know everything. don't introduce your kids to him until you guys have been dating for quite awhile. a long while. this has to be a long term relationship because you don't want your kids to feel even more unstable as you go through guy to guy. i know there's no way to tell, but you need to make it clear you need something serious and long term and someone who knows how to deal with a single mom that will be going through a divorce, which is a lengthy process and comes with a lot of baggage.
i'm not completely sure you should instantly go into another relationship, tho... i think you need to really work on healing yourself first and make sure your kids are okay. they will get child support from him. and you'll likely get alimony, if you didn't sign a prenup. so you won't be completely torn from being able to live.
I understand the struggle you're going through. I was married with three children for over 18 years. finally got my full divorce 6 months ago. It took over a year for it to be finalized. It was difficult breaking my three children away. Don't know how many kids you have involved
Well first of all if this man you’re talking to has any sense he’d steer clear of you. You have a lot of issues that need to be taken care of as far as your marriage, divorce, kids, etc. Can you honestly say you’d be ok w brining all this drama to a man who you say is kind and makes you happy? To put that responsibility on him? I know ultimately it’s his choice to take that on, but do you think you should give him that option knowing how much it is to deal w? You’re thinking more about yourself here. Not his well being or that if your kids really. Kids may not like you for taking them from their dad even if dad is a POS.
It's not unusual to develop feelings for someone else in a troubled
marriage. Your situation is challenging, and you should prioritize your
well-being and your children's. Seek support from friends, family, or a
therapist. Consider legal advice, financial planning, and ensuring your
children's well-being. Leaving a toxic relationship can be tough but is a
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Never been through this but you definitely need to leave if he's cheated. It's not worth staying together anymore
Being together for 10 years is a long time to throw away. Do you ever think about the impact that it might have on the kids. With the cheating part I definitely understand where you're coming from. But as far as the cosmetic surgery you're probably a beautiful woman. What is your family's thought on this whole process
Have you been nagging and disrespectful to your husband? I doubt he suddenly changed into an asshole. Don't use. your own bad behavior to justify cheating.
What are some of the toxic things that caused the relationship to fail
Yeah, have you ever tried to work it out with your husband? for the sake of your children. I know cheating is a hard thing to get over. But do you still love him or not
Have you thought about divorcing your husband?
Be careful, seek safety
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