Ladies: She tells me she loves me but then pulls away.

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I've been dating this girl for about 5 months now and things seemed to be going really really well. We've been hanging out a lot, going on trips together, she introduces me to her family and everyone refers me to her as her boyfriend. About 3 weeks ago she tells me while having sex that she loves me. It makes me think that this girl wants to start a relationship with me, but then a week after she says to me that she doesn't know if she does love me, and now I'm more confused than ever.

When we first started talking she told me that she was dating someone about a year back who tragically passed away. I didn't want to do anything to upset her so I took it slow and let it develop gradually. But, the more we hung out, she said, the more she was falling for me. This led me to believe that we could start something great. So I let my guard down and let her in to my heart. We'd talk all the time, make time for each other, you name it. Well, like I said she then tells me that she loves me. To be honest it did kinda throw me off guard but after thinking about it, I was really starting to fall for her too so I told her I loved her back. But then a week went by and after telling her that I loved her she said that she doesn't know if she loves me yet. She says that she cares about me a lot and that she loves being with me but because she still thinks about her previous boyfriend she doesn't know how she feels.

Now the only times that I hear from her is if I send her a text or call her, she barely sends me anything and says that she is busy (she has been hanging out with her friends a lot more now that the weather is getting nicer). I am starting to feel like I'm stalking her because I try to talk to her so much.

The other day I talked to her about what is going on and asked her where I stood in her life. She tells me that she really does care for me a lot and that she really happy that I'm apart of her life but that she is scared. She says that we're still dating and that she could see us being together and that she is not dating anyone else. Whether or not she's lying to me because I put her on the spot, I couldn't tell you, but I really want to believe her and trust that was she's saying is true. But now I feel like I'm pushing her away because it seems like I'm clearly falling for her.

The only reason why I'm acting this way is because she dropped the Love Bomb on me but then retracts it. It seem like things were going great, like we really clicked with one another and that she really does love me but now I don't know what to do? I don't want to smother her by calling her all the time and being all over her. Ladies, I really want to be with this girl but I'm afraid I'm going to lose her if I keep acting this way. But at the same time, I might lose her if I keep my distance. I'm completely confused on what do to, if you ladies have any advice for me I really need it. I'm really starting to fall in love with her.
Ladies: She tells me she loves me but then pulls away.
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