How do I get the spark?

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl in my frjend group last year as we were getting on really well, flirted a lot and clearly liked eachother. However when we began dating it was a mess. I cared about her a lot more than anyone I've ever dated, whereas she was still scarred by her last relationship, and so she thought I was suffocating and needy and I thought she was inconsiderate and cold.

As we're in the same friend group we started chatting again and have recently become really close friends. We care about eachother a lot and all the "dating" issues we had are over. I'm a lot more confident now and am very unneedy and she has gotten over the ex and is ready to date again. The issue is, I've thought about it and while we get on great now as friends, I'm open to trying to date one more time just so we know fully and nobody grows to regret it.

She however, said she loves me and likes me, but because we get on really well as friends and our only negative interactions were when we were dating, she doesn't want to date again and fall out and sees it as a sign which I get. She said she agrees with my point but is scared and while she said she'll be more open to the idea and gets my point, she feels as though she doesn't see me that way anymore because of how tight our friendship is.

I'm hoping for actual answers here and not "move on" etc which is fine. I was just curious what would be ways to get her to see me in a more sexual desired or romantic way rather than friends? Is going distant and making her put jn the effort a way to do it? I would love genuine help on this, because we are very close and I'm worried one of us will find someone else and the other will regret it, so I just want her to see me sexually again just so we know for a fact and don't waste what could potentially be

[Guy13]

You don’t get the spark. The spark finds you when she walks into the room. Go out and about.