What should or can you do if you are married.. and in love with someone else?

[msc545]

[DizzyDesii]

If they are in love with someone else, I’m assuming they already cheated UNLESS they meant they that already loved someone else but settled for their partner. Either way, I’d admit it to the partner to see if we should end things or try to work things through and restore our interest in solely one another

[Agape93]

Divorce.

[OfMiceandMen]

You should not do anything with other person till you tell your spouse that it is over. Some people think it is a great idea to start the other relationship while they are still married and planning to leave, but that's a pretty crappy thing to do to your spouse, and it says a lot about one's character.

[RealMarek]

I think what should be done depends on the circumstances. What one should not do is think it justifies cheating.

[DermalPunch]

If you are married and in love with someone else... you've already messed up. I don't know.

[RavVid]

First realize an infatuation is not love and then stop having those feelings.

[exitseven]

The deal was until death us do part.

[msc545]

For some people things change - then what?

[exitseven]

things change but a promise is a promise. Why say it if you dont mean it.

[msc545]

People can change their minds. They might mean it when they say it and later feel differently. Then what?

[exitseven]

what if everyone was like that. How screwed up would the world be then. What if you borrowed money from somebody and promised to pay it back. Then changed your mind. What about joining the Army. You join for 4 years but halfway through boot camp you decide it is not as much fun as you thought it would be, Would Uncle Sam just let you go back home?

[msc545]

What if you stuck around in a horrible marriage just because you made a promise? Would that be good for anyone?

[exitseven]

The first time things get bad they want to get divorced. I went to a friend's wedding and afterwards a bunch of us guys were just hanging out talking and this kid just says "if it doesn;t work out I can always just get divorced." All I could think of was that was the worst attitude I ever saw. I don;t think the marriage lasted a year.

[msc545]

Some people also stick it out in misery for years and then finally leave. That is hardly "the first time". You are postulating a hypothetical and extreme case to try to make your point, and that doesn't work.

[Nikki1989]

You get a divorce.

[On_cloud_wine]

MSC.. wahhhh I’m in love with a married man.

[msc545]

sorry

[On_cloud_wine]

I’m a horrible person. I’m fantasizing and I don’t know if I can trust myself. I feel so lost

[On_cloud_wine]

He doesn’t make it easy at all. Shame on him. I’d never trust him if I was in a relationship with him.

[On_cloud_wine]

Actually, I can’t be in a relationship with someone I don’t trust. So there’s that.

[On_cloud_wine]

Marriage is not complicated. If you’re married and made those vows, you don’t mess around, you stay with that person and remain loyal no matter what. Otherwise don’t get married. So I've been googling Muslim men.. and what it’s like to date a Muslim man, and that’s what this dude is.. a Muslim.. they take marriage seriously or when they’re courting someone, it’s for the sole purpose to settle down and apparently they move fast. That’s probably the problem.

[On_cloud_wine]

You don’t take that next step with someone else unless you divorce. That just defeats the whole purpose of marriage.

[KrakenAttackin]

@On_cloud_wine You are not "in love", you are in LUST. You say you would never trust him, which is saying you can't love him. He is a Chad and you want him balls deep in you.

[On_cloud_wine]

@KrakenAttackin correct. I really need someone to scream that to me before work at the top of their lungs

[KrakenAttackin]

@On_cloud_wine. How hard is that for a woman to find?

[msc545]

Me?//

[On_cloud_wine]

Hmmm?