Women 18-20, would you date a guy that is 29 and 5'6 in height?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

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[Avicenna]

The truth is that most of them probably won't. But handwringing over that is a waste of your time- you only need one woman willing to date you. You also are not approaching this with the right mindset- you asking if they'll do you a favor by dating you rather than explaining what positive things a woman would get if she does date you.

[Asker]

As you know, I seek a woman without a romantic past, so the younger, the more likely. Also, I am considering traveling abroad one day to find a wife if all else fails.

[Avicenna]

As I have told you more than once recently, if you insist on a woman without a romantic past, you're still not going to find one at 18-20 unless she suffers from mental illness or severe physical disability. One who is focused on her studies and therefore never had a serious boyfriend is not going to want to be distracted from them to partner off with you.

One thing you will usually find overseas is that women's families are going to be fully involved in what foreign guy they partner up with, especially young women without a romantic past. And they will not just accept any guy because he's a US citizen.

[Asker]

I have to keep looking. I really don't want to end up alone the rest of my life.

[Asker]

What about Mexico?

[Avicenna]

Unless she's from the poorest region of the country and you can lavish a bunch of money on her and her family, I very much doubt you'd get a woman from there and have a sustainable relationship. More to the point, the chances of her meeting your "no romantic experience" requirement are zero.

Your best shot for accomplishing what you're trying to do is to become a Muslim, get a good education and make a very good salary so you will be acceptable to the family of a young woman with no romantic past. And the chances of that being successful are also extremely low- almost zero.

[Asker]

Why are you so adamant I will not find a woman that has never had a boyfriend or romantic bond?

[Avicenna]

What makes you think you will be able to find one?

[Asker]

Because I want to have that hope. I am crying because that is truly what I desire in life. I always wanted to fall in love ever since I was a kid. I seek a woman without a romantic past where we can be each other's first real relationship and only. I have to find her.

[Avicenna]

Well, you're deceiving yourself. First of all, you are deceiving yourself that finding a girlfriend is going to solve your problems in life. Second of all, you're deceiving yourself that you need to find a woman without a romantic past. Third, you're deceiving yourself that you can.

You might think you're giving yourself hope by deceiving yourself like this, but you're just making things worse.

Go see a therapist and find someone who can be a life coach for you. Straighten your life out first.

[Shortcel]

Why does he need only one woman to date him? No one wants only one person for their entire life.

[Avicenna]

@Shortcel: He only needs one woman to be willing to date him to get a girlfriend. And he wants a wife. Don't complicate this for him.

[Apple1996]

I'm seriously worried about your mental health. You seem obsessed with finding the perfect girl. Like it's fine to worry about love but this seems to be a bit much. Relationships are really hard work so enjoy your time being single. The right girl will eventually come along and if she doesn't then make the best of the single life

[Asker]

I am so isolated from the world. I have been jobless for 3 months, broke, been stuck inside the house, and I have been single my whole life.

[Asker]

What am I supposed to do, live my entire life never making love?

[Apple1996]

That sounds really shitty. I know you looked into truck driving for work. Do you plan on going to truck driving school?

[Apple1996]

You might not make love but worrying isn't gonna make things better

[Asker]

My mother and my friends are discouraging me from going into truck driving. I am not too fond of it either tbh. I don't know what I am going to do with my life. I feel like a fucking failure. I don't want to live my entire life alone never being able to make love. I have always wanted to fall in love ever since I was a kid.

[Asker]

I am crying because this is what I truly want.

[Apple1996]

Have you ever thought about going older? Finding a sugar mama?

[Apple1996]

Sorry to hear all this😕 I hope you work on yourself find a job and a woman in the future

[Asker]

No, I would really like a younger woman who would be my everything

[Apple1996]

But if you got a sugar mama you wouldn't have to work

[Asker]

I am not attracted to older women. I LOVE younger girls. Early to mid 20s is fine. Even 18. I just seek a woman without a romantic past where we can be each other's first real relationship and only. A woman without a romantic past.

[Apple1996]

But why limit yourself?

[Asker]

Because of many reasons. That is what I am really wanting. I want to be her first love while she will be my very first relationship.

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’7 so definitely not

[Asker]

You have baggage likely and a romantic past anyways, so I would reject you too.

[Opinion Owner]

You want a women with no romantic past and that attitude? No wonder you’re always on here crying about finding a partner, nobody wants you.

[Asker]

I might eventually travel abroad to find a wife anyways. Western women are horrifying now.

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t worry they’ll reject you too.

[Avicenna]

It's not like ones overseas are willing to take any guy either

[Asker]

You are so pissy because you know you are another man's leftovers.

[Opinion Owner]

@avicenna he’s too busy living in a world of fantasy to take your advice lol

[Opinion Owner]

Pissy? Sir I am married☺️ sorry you can’t say the same!

[Avicenna]

Yeah, you're right, he's completely clueless. Sad thing is, if he dropped his stupid requirement and worked on himself, he might find a partner.