How Do You Reject Someone Who Approaches You That You’re Not Interested In?

[Aphrodite801]

Would really love to know what guys do 🤔 I know a lot of women are giving fake phone numbers nowadays. We shouldn’t even have to do that. Honestly I decided to just tell guys that I have a boyfriend. Unless I’m in like a club or party then I’m just gonna straight up reject them.

I give them a fake phone number

I simply reject them

I tell them I’m in a relationship

I do something else

[Rei13]

In the past I went two different routes. If I knew the guy personally I would reject them both firmly but kindly. The way I’d worded it depended on the person, but it would go over well. I didn’t want them to think they had a chance later, but didn’t want to tear them down either. If it was someone I didn’t know I generally just lied and told them I had a boyfriend when I didn’t. It made it easier to shut it down without having to go into more detail. The scummy ones would keep trying. Now that I actually have a boyfriend it isn’t a lie anymore lol

[Anonymous]

When i was single i just lied and said im with someone. Its easier and quicker. You dont need an explanation and doesn't give (most) guys an opportunity to persuade you. Now i have a boyfriend i dont have to lie anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh if it was a guy i already knew, i just tell them im not looking to date. Its lying but no one’s feelings gets hurt.

[Aphrodite801]

Right it’s much quicker and I think most guys would go away faster that way

[Opinion Owner]

Oh definitely lol, most guys at least, i met an acquaintance once (a friend of my friend) who tried to make me “cheat” on my fake boyfriend with him lol. Told me no one needed to know😆

[KBird]

I mean, typically Ill tell them that Im flattered but Im not looking for something at the moment (whether that means a relationship or something casual). And usually that seems to work.

But sometimes, if I feel creeped out or theyre really persistent, and they ask if I have a boyfriend, Ill just say yes. Adds like a false level of protection.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

I JUST REJECT. Idon'tKNOW I'm bad with introductions and giving out my number because I don't know him! I I I I I I I even think of my social media as my phone number, I can't even give that up. I DONT KNOW YOU, I DONT GIVE IT. EVEN IF I LIKE YOU IT IS NOT HAPPENING

[Starrrboy]

I just reply with really short answers and don't maintain a proper eye contact and they usually get the message... if they don't or if someone is like flat out asking you " can I get your number " or something , just go with the classic " I have a boyfriend / I'm taken " ... might be lame but it will do the job lol 👍

[OfMiceandMen]

I usually say I am flattered, however, I am with someone (which has been the case most of the time when someone's approached me).

I may add, if things change though perhaps we will meet each other again when it is a more opportune moment for the two of us.

[Lisia]

before my relationship, I just said I wanted to be friends instead.

[Aphrodite801]

To random guys?

[Lisia]

To random guys from school or my class that confessed.. most of the time they did it without really knowing me.. if they already were my friend I'd just say I wanted to stay friends

[Aphrodite801]

Has a guy ever acted aggressive towards you after rejection?

[Lisia]

No, maybe because I gave them false hope by friend-zoning because most of them think they still got a chance but yeah

[Aphrodite801]

I mean did you really friend zone them or did you just say you wanted to be friends to make them go away lmao

[Aphrodite801]

Just because you say y’all are friends doesn’t mean y’all are actually friends

[Lisia]

To make them go away

[Bobbybopeep]

I have a guy a fake number once in high school and still feel bad. It wasn’t even because I didn’t like him but I just didn’t date at that time.

toughen up and just say you’re not interest. Blah.

[Aphrodite801]

Do women not get attacked for that? It’s not about “toughening” up it’s about safety

[Bobbybopeep]

No, but I definitely feel bad. I didn’t realize guys had feelings until my early 20s. Now I get flashbacks of it and just think I should’ve acted differently.

[gxddess_]

I just walk fast like I didn't hear anything or say I have a boyfriend. I did the fake number thing but wouldn't recommend that. 🤣

[thegreenyogi]

Just be honest and tell them plainly you're not interested.

[Aphrodite801]

And the many girls that have been hurt or killed for doing what you just said?

[artgorgeous]

I say that I'm married. Which is true. It's that simple. But you can always lie.

[Aphrodite801]

So random women have approached you before?

[artgorgeous]

sorry, I'm married.

[Aphrodite801]

Ok it’s obvious you’re an unattractive troll now. You’ve probably never had a woman approach you in your life 💀 sad you want to pretend so badly

[artgorgeous]

Yes, I am an unattractive married troll. Please, dont approach me.

[Aphrodite801]

No one’s approaching you. You will never know what that’s like 💀 neither will you know what being married is like

[artgorgeous]

Yes, yes, you are right. I am a 35 yo ugly fat virgin living in a basement of my mother's home.

[soulOnDisplay]

@Aphrodite801 Just deal with the rejection mang.

[Malwi93]

carrying a 2nd fake phone i found very helpful

[LiamJHayden]

Unless I was dating someone at the time, I have never flat-out rejected a girl who had the courage to approach.

[lilBigPotato]

I simply reject and if they are persistent I tell them that I'm taken.

Fake numbers is stupid. Easy to notice right away, causes more problems than it solves

[Aphrodite801]

And if they attack you because you rejected them?

[lilBigPotato]

Don't know let's hope that doesn't happen

[Aphrodite801]

SMH, don’t even have a defense plan but are saying fake numbers are stupid. At least it helps women make it home safe.

[lilBigPotato]

Lol you think their reaction is better if they find out that you lied to them? 🤦‍♀️ Pretty much every guy I've given a number is calling it right away so I get their number in return. So giving a fake one is absolutely a stupid move to do.
And if you live in an area where you need to fear your life when rejecting a person then you should move away from there asap. Oh wait you live in the country of endless freedom I'm sure you have a fun with you to defend yourself and will be perfectly safe 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[douride2]

Simply be honest & reject them.

[Aphrodite801]

Do women not get attacked for that?

[douride2]

I would imagine it happens. Just remember though guys reject women all the time to.

[Aphrodite801]

You know it happens. And yeah but we’re not guys.

[Aphrodite801]

What are you gonna do if a man attacks you for rejecting them?

[douride2]

I will most likely ignore him & walk away.

[Ava1993]

I tell them i’m marrow which is true.

[ᴅᴀʀᴋ_ᴋɴɪɢʜᴛ_]

I stay away without breaking your heart.