recently i was invited to a wedding, by someone who I guess is still somewhat interested.
Did go, did cater etc. I know i'm not in a good spot for anything with anyone.. and.. there is more weight on the shoulders if you are a guy in general on that.
Seen woman get into relationships from a standpoint of weakness that would never work out for me and most other men.
one of those subtle differences...
so, for a woman, she can be in the quite low and would still be a boon to a guy. not so much the other way around.
but really depends what the not in a good place entails.. can't fix things you absolutely need to work through on your own by going into a relationship.
Reject him is a big word. Your not in a good place... it is not that you not like him/her. Just say you can't commit because of the " bad" your in. Maybe you can talk about it.
And maybe he/she put their arms around you talk to you in the most soft way that they understand. Surprise he/she can actually pull you out of that place and put you in a good place.
I tell them straight up that I’m not interested, not in a good place, not looking and he’ll find someone else better and will actually date him. But it’s not going to be me. Which I have done a few times. I have tried to matchmake them to my friends 🤣. Two of them eventually got married thanks to me
If I'm interested I'll try to figure out my issues while attempting to date them.
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You could also work on your issues in parallel.
It depends on the guy. The way you described yourself here, he's likely going to notice that you are a bit special. It will be up to him if he wants to date you anyway.
A man who wants to be with a woman needs a certain tolerance to female craziness either way.
" If you’re not in a good place for a relationship, would it be better to be straight up?"
Of course - why wouldn't you be? Why would you even consider lying about it for either of your sakes?
" And would you encourage them to find someone else?"
I wouldn't even bring it up. For one thing, that's not your concern. For another, the person might actually take that as subliminal challenge to pursue you and convince you that you're wrong.
I wouldn't reject them; but I'd explain the situation and see if they are still. willing to proceed.
In fairness reject and if so inclined explain why.
you should tell them whats going on, and keep things open
Nah i still dated my current boyfriend despite not being in a good place.
Don’t lead them on
Of course, but do it nicely
Just tell them the truth
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