What’s the best way to turn someone down when they express interest in going out?

[BarryLiverstone]

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Even if nothing is urgent?

[Guy13]

For me, leading one on or keeping them in a state of confusion is a much worse kind of hurt.

"I am flattered, however, I do not have that sort of vibe with you." At this point, one can not approach her again but one can wave and behave in a way in which she does not feel like a pyorrhea. And, if she approaches you again then recognize you might have a crushing friend for awhile.

[AmyHew1tt]

Honesty. It may hurt in the moment, but at least it shows you're respecting that person. I would probably be able to tell if it was an excuse, and just feel pathetic.

[HollyK21]

Excuses lol saying I’m busy, already have plans or something of that sort.

[BarryLiverstone]

So that’s better than the truth and will not hurt?

[HollyK21]

Of course the truth is always better, and I think it depends on the nature of the situation as well. Like if you’re always making excuses with them then it’ll be obvious you’re being avoidant and don’t want to hang out with them. But if it’s just here and there, then I don’t think it’s so bad to take the “easy” way out lol. Used sparingly of course!

[anon1903]

@HollyK21 many people don't take a friggin hint.

[HollyK21]

@anon1903 that’s up there on my list of biggest pet peeves lol

[TacosRAwesome]

Saw that she's the sister of a friend and I guess you can use the bro code excuse, unless you're not into her but would totally date another sister of another friend. Then just say you're not interested.

[jms78]

politely tell them that you’re not looking to go on any dates with them. If its just a friend wanting to go out socially tell them you’re not in the mood to go out and feel you need a night to yourself?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep I did try that but she says because I’m single and she’s curious we should hang out

[BarryLiverstone]

Can I say I need a night to myself? And she will not feel rejected or sad

[slatyb]

How well do they know you? In any case be kind.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sister of a friend

[fredaarhin]

U can say that u really wanted to go but something urgent came up and u would like to do that some other time

[BarryLiverstone]

Even if nothing is urgent?

[fredaarhin]

Yeah

[fredaarhin]

It's better than telling her the truth which would let her feel bad about herself

[slatyb]

@fredaarhin that's not a great idea because it's not a clear no. She should understand that it's a "no" but she may not, just as many men wouldn't. He should politely decline with a vague reason like "That's very sweet but I don't think it would work."

[fredaarhin]

@slatyb If u say so

[LindsayR07]

Just say no Thank-you, like they offered you a glass of water.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Tell them you're not interested and don't see them that way as respectfully as possible.

[Caramelpie]

Just be honest about it and tell the truth in a polite way.

[Anonymous]

Just say your not interested. Unless someone else is on your mind. Then its better to lie.

[anon1903]

I'm sorry but I'm not interested.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Not interested. That's it.