Would you date someone who cares about you but is emotionally unavailable?

[Anonymous]

[midnightmoon05]

If you have time to waste… and have the energy to deal with drama… go for it.
I perfect someone who cares for me as well.
for example…I dated a guy who was not able to be a 💯 partner…I got to know him… and I moved on… I learned my lesson…

if you need to learn a life lesson go for it.

[Anonymous]

No. It’s exhausting and I’m too old for that.

[Asker]

I'm older

[Opinion Owner]

True. That being said, since you’re an older guy I’d expect you to have worked on your emotional unavailability-ness. Even if I’m only looking for a friends with benefits situation, I’d want someone who is emotionally available as a friend still

[Asker]

I'm fine, I have a friend who is emotionally unavailable. I'm trying to understand more about her situation

[Opinion Owner]

Tbh I’d stay away from emotionally unavailable people especially if they’re a proper adult. They’ll drain you… that is unless you’re an emotionally unavailable person yourself, then you’d have your perfect partner.

I feel like being with an emotionally available is like owning reptiles. You feed them, take care of them, clean up after them but they will never love you back bcs they’re just simply incapable of it. They care about you bcs you feed them but they won’t bat an eye even if you disappear all of a sudden.

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope. Too much emotional babysitting. Been there, done that. Not interested in trying it again.

[hahahmm]

No. And most likely they are looking for someone else to be available to.

[Account]

Imagine two emotionally unavailable people together, well, that could certainly be a recipe for disaster wouldn't it? 💭🤔


(Why would I?)

[Serkee]

I would, yeah. I'd just prepare myself for the time it would take to get past that wall. I'm pretty emotionally unavailable, and it's something that I've been trying to work on for a while. I've been hurt pretty badly in the past when my emotions kept being used as a weapon against me, so it's hard for me to expose that weak point to someone again. I'm really grateful to my girlfriend for being patient and understanding with me in that regard. Honestly, the fact that she's not pushy about it makes it a lot easier for me to open up to her.

[HappyWoman34]

What is emotionally unavailable? Do you mean they feel lukewarm about you?

[Asker]

It simply means She has too much emotional issues.

[HappyWoman34]

Give an example then. Is she carrying too much baggage?

[DishLady]

It’s basically impossible to do because the other person will make it impossible to maintain the relationship. It’s the equivalent of trying to climb up a greased slide.

[Emmytexrex]

Nope if they are emotionally unavailable that means they don't love you and they don't care about your emotions and that is bad

[bannacookies]

If you want a hookup it is great. Or like a f*ck buddy. If someone does not want that, it probably won't work out.

[Jay0102]

How can you care for someone but be emotionally unavailable?

[montherobaidat]

Depends on how that makes you feel. I believe its going to be hard

[Anonymous]

No, I mean of your emotionally unavailable then you don’t care about me. Not wanting to connect with me on an emotional level or even trying to would just be draining. There’d be no point.

[LazerBean]

Nope. It's a waste of time to do stuff like that

[Asker]

not even if there open on short terms?

[LazerBean]

Nah.

[Asker]

What, I'm trying to say. Not even if they are open with friends with benefits

[LazerBean]

I wouldn't date someone who thought friends with benefits was a good idea anyway

[Asker]

Agreed

[Booklover_90]

Nooo. Work out your issues and then we can talk.

[DreamLife7]

At your big age think. If you have a brain think? I swear something mentally wrong with a lot of you here. Did u even read this before posting?

[Dongie]

No, not after a few get together. Maybe be friends.

[CrabCakes11]

No. What a waste of time

[Blueeyes81]

No. That's just asking for a heartbreak.

[exitseven]

Yes, but I would not get too serious about it.

[Anonymous]

Nope she's toxic if she said that. Bye!

[virtualwasp]

no, thats a friend.

[thegreenyogi]

Probably not.