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Anonymous
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Stay with me on this one: dogs love affection. They love to be petted and belly rubs and for you to shower them with attention but have you ever tried to hug a dog for a little too long? They get sketched out and eventually try to worm themselves free from your grasp.
I love hugs, kisses, and cuddling like the next person, but I don't need it every single second of the day because then it looses its magic. It's not special anymore. It's too much of a good thing which is true of just about everything we love in life. You need a break every once in a while to really appreciate and want more of it. I find a lot of the people that fall into the constant need for affection category often never got much of it in their own lives in either parental or other types of relationships so they tend to desperately cling to those around them to try to literally hold on to them and keep them close forever----I can't be that person. I need a bit of physical independence from someone in a relationship.
I don't mind, I need that myself. BUT as long as he is emotionally, mentally and psychologically healthy and don't have any issues that require professional help, it can be worked through. What matters is that he has something to offer he knows what's expected of him and is ready to be an EQUAL and not have my as his mommy. That's all I ask.
wow so people who seek therapy which are millions, are not good enough for u princess you sound very selfish, I feel bad for men who get involve with you
People need to be healed. It has nothing to do with who is a princess or not. I have more than my own problems. I believe God heals all. And if that doesn't understand that, then it's not me, it's them. Maybe your the one who needs to stop making it so personal. Because I can sound selfish, but at least I'm not. They need God. Not me. I am not God. Everybody needs an equal. And of you can't do it, stay single. Thats it. Everybody can seek therapy but it comes to a point of how long and how bad. If people don't want Jesus for healing that's why there is none.
If you have to seek therapy, be in therapy. NOT a relationship. Until your in order then you can be ready for a relationship I never dated for my personal reasons. You don't see me emotionally trapping men for a relationship because of attachment issues. God is more important than a man or a relationship. So stop mocking and bullying mister.
Two unhealthy people cannot help each other, and an unhealthy person will God forbid drag the other down. That's why time for one self is important. Because your responsible for your own happiness. Seek God. A human being can it do but so much.
I rather be a friend. But I cannot be a LOVER. I suffered enough abuse and growing up with people with up diagnosed mental illness. So the one being selfish is you, not me.
Well at the start is great the cuddles the affection and hugs etc... then u find out she always needs you, calls you sad when u're in job and she wants you right now and you're busy , u try to tell her but she sometimes get angry , thinks you are bored of her... or you're cheating her... ufff the sex might be great and the affection but the constant needynes makes you feel that your throat is opresing you , eventually or she will get mad about not being 24/7 for her or you will break up because u can't breath a bit
I don't have time to constantly validate someone, they should be able to do that themselves. If they can't then they shouldn't be dating in my opinion. Constantly relying on someone else to validate you isn't an attractive quality and just screams "clingy" in my book
People that insecure don't need a relationship, they need to find out why they're that dependent on others for attention and affection before getting into a relationship. Otherwise the other person is basically coddling or "babysitting" said partner... which is NOT a healthy or sustainable relationship to be in.
@Anoniemus because she is jumping to conclusions. someone who needs a lot of love and is a bit clingy can be cute and the usually give the most love back. she immediately assumed something unhealthy
@PurpleStorm the asker stated in the question, "... Maybe he/she suffers from mental illness"
In that circumstance, they do NOT need to be a relationship! At least until they figure out why they're that way and how to deal with it in a healthy manner.
What's going to happen if they're single, or their partner leaves them? They'll be so codependent they won't be able to thrive on their own.
@PurpleStorm I think we can both agree to disagree on this matter. You have your opinion; I have mine.
As I said before, the truth isn't always nice. Nonetheless, I respect people whom have the patience to deal with clingy and needy partners. I sure wouldn't!
Yeah I don't know why méntal illness was even addd.. liking physical affection just means it’s a primary love language... doesn’t even mean you are clingy. Hugs release endorphins 🤷♀️
If they were also working on their issues and trying to grow as a person - instead of using their need for affection as an unhealthy handicap - then absolutely.
I too need a lot of affection. I don't have the greatest past. Attention and affection really help to alleviate my anxiety and depression. However, I try not to rely on the people around me. I try to not be an energy vampire and I am working hard with my therapist to heal some of my mental scars.
I would expect the person to be doing the same if I was dating them: help each other get the attention and affection we need, while also supporting each other as we heal, combat, and grow from our trauma or mental illnesses. ^.^
I will not date someone who needs constant affection instead I will reger tgem to a Therapist to work on their Issues so they can have a Healthy Sustainable Relationship in the Future and also learn about Apropriate Boundaries how to set them and honor them.
As in a Stage 4 Clinger? No. Not into men like that. There's nothing wrong with wanting affection, being touched all the time, being near the person. But to the point of paranoia or they're wondering where I am (anxiety)? No thanks.
I feel people need to get their issues worked out first or be in the process of working on them before they enter into a relationship.
liking physical affection is healthy I don't know what constant refers to you didn’t specify so it depends really
physical affection is simply one form of affection. it doesn’t mean you need love more, it just means you like being touched...
I don't know why everyone is running on an idea of their partner being psychotic and phoning them all day... I don’t see what that has to do with wanting physical affection
Like they will basically brag about not like hugs Bc they are “independent and need their space”, while boasting they had a 72 hour sex marathon crusty sheets and All. 🤦♀️
I did and it was hell. I ended up breaking up with her because it was so stressful for me. She came over for three days straight then the next day I talked to her for over an hour then the next day I had work literally the entire day so I didn't message her because I couldnt and she told me she felt like I was ignoring her, and she told our friends that I got angry at her whenever she wanted to vent (which wad a complete lie, I can't count the amount of times I comforted her for 3 hours straight). I couldn't deal with her wanting to be around me literally 24/7 and I ended up breaking up with her.
Even now she still wants to be friends and I get so stressed everytime I see her.
Not constant affection like every second of the day to the point where you lose your own individual self, but 65 percent affection and the rest you can leave me the fuck alone to be my own independent self. But each person is different.
This is me in my relationship 😅 constantly want to snuggle and kiss with my boyfriend. Think he finds it annoying at times but also cute and makes him happy to know im comfortable enough with him to constantly want to be affectionate with him as im not like that with many others.
Now whenever i want snuggles i ask in a big deep manly voice to make him laugh.
i couldnt do that. i need my space at times. sure affection is nice, but there's a time and place for it. too much affection is going to come off as clingy and i am not into that
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Anonymous
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I am dating a guy like this ATM he’s driving me nuts I would have dumped him ages ago but he lives far away so he’s not around all the time. I honestly don’t know what to do as he will jump through hoops to see me so whether I need to learn to tolerate the neediness or dump him is a hard decision
been there, and nope, they're usually just lonely and using you for some form of validation or to help them.. i need my space so its fine if they do too, i need someone who cares for me like i do them (not happened before) but not giving me space is selfish i can't always give them constant affection, but i make sure everyone im with knows i care about them despite them not doing the same for me.
And that’s why before u fall for somebody tell them their habits, weaknesses, and mental issues so they know what they walking into and educate themselves. Some people can’t just handle certain things. Honesty is the best policy.
Maybe you're emotionally closed off. We only have your perspective to go off, so we can't say for sure. But saying there's some kind of damage or illness to explain it belittles the human need to be loved.
No, I need to have time to do the things I want to do so I can do my job in a professional environment, workout, paint, code, design, etc. I'd rather much have someone who is much more mature and can handle time a part
It depends. As long as it wasn’t suffocating then why not. Having had a affectionless marriage with my late husband, i didn’t realize how much I missed a simple hug, kiss, hand holding etc Now I crave it.
Me too, and than I go away but than I need it again and it sucks when the person knows it and use it against i and withhold affection to be in control because of his or hers insecurity and control issues. I just don’t get it. Can people be fucking real for once and learn to express their feelings md desires! World would be much happier place.
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