Understanding the shy guy

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I know this is not a question but I though I would shed some light on the shy guy to both help my fellow shy guy out and any girls who might be wondering about that guy that keeps looking at her from across the room but won't talk to her. Part of my inspiration for doing this is my recent struggle with asking a certain girl out and the hope that she might be patient enough to give me a chance at a date.

First off why we are shy.

Every guy is different but there can be several reason or a combination of them.

1. He has been hurt in the past or has faced constant rejection despite his efforts.

2. He is not experienced in dating, the older he is the worse this is going to be.

3. It could just be part of his personality. For example I am naturally introverted and it is the way I have always been.

4. There are also different levels of shyness. Some are shy and need to be coaxed through everything. Others (like me) will warm up to you after a while especially if we know that you like us.

If a shy guy likes you here are something he is going to do.

1. He is going to steal glances at you anytime he can. You might catch him staring for a while but if he sees you looking at him he will look away and pretend as if nothing happened.

2. He will "ignore" you. If you talk to him he will probably answer your questions or make brief conversation but will not initiate and may even walk off only a short time after talking. An example might be if you are with a group and stand next to him he will probably not say a word to you but might try to steal glances.

3. He will exhibit the opposite behavior of a non shy guy with respects to most indicators of interest except for looking at you.

5. We might "avoid" you. I once sat two chairs away from this girl I like eventhough the chair next to her was empty.

What to if you like a shy guy

1. The key thing is to be patient if we like you we will come around...Eventually.

2. The more people that are around the worse we are going to be especially among your friends, so if you want to talk to us try to alone.

3. We tend to over think things and will likely not make any move at all if we think you are interested in someone else so don't flirt with others around the shy guy you like.

4. When it comes to initiating things consider being the ones to do so. Some shy guys can and others can't but regardless, chances are they have liked you for quite some time before they are able to.

Things to keep in mind

1. Again patience is key.

2. Any move a shy guy makes or any contact (not necessarily physical) is a big step for a shy guy and took a lot of effort.

3. Remember to be understanding of his situation.

Others feel free to add to this, its late and I am sure I have left some things out.

I hope I have been able to help my fellow shy guys and any girls with a shy guy in their sights. And here is to the one in a billion chance that the girl I like reads this and despite my f*** ups gives me a chance and lets me take her ou
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Another thing that I forgot to add. With most shy guys its best to be direct but how you feel about us. If you like us let us know (you don't necessarily have to say it out right) but it helps to be obvious about.
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