Why do girls think they have it harder than guys when it comes to love, dating, and relationships?

[Anonymous]

Why do girls complain a lot, whine, and think that they have it harder than guys do when it comes to love, dating, and relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.? Seriously, more girls should realize that they have it so much easier than many guys, because it's easier for a girl to get a date and boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a date and girlfriend. Girls do not have to step out of their comfort zone and they can get a date or a boyfriend without having to overcome shyness, however, guys can't do the same thing, us guys have to do work in order to get anything from a girl. A girl is automatically accepted by society as a girl; whereas guys have to prove themselves at every turn. A shy girl WILL get asked out without having to over come it. Guys have to work more on themselves than girls do. Guys must have confidence, real self confidence, that is not based solely on how they look, but rather understanding and acknowledging their self worth in order to approach. Building up this type of confidence takes time and understanding.

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Whats interesting is that girls don't have to put even half the effort compared to guys and they have every possible advantage in the singles life, and dating and relationships, and yet they still believe that they have it harder than guys do.

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I know it's tradition and been that way for a very long time, for centuries, for the guy to make the first move and doing the pursuing and chasing, but not every guy is born a Casanova or ladies-man.

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In a way, love just comes to girls, us guys have to fight tooth and nail for it, and nice always just about all the time always finish last, I hate how girls say that is not true and that they love nice innocent guys, but they never give them a chance.

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Since all girls have to do is wait, waiting around is better than getting rejected all the time.

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So why do girls think they have it harder?

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all girls have to do is say Yes or No, all they have to do is approve of the date and relationship, they have the final say for everything, c'mon, more girls should realize that they have it easier.

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I FUCKIN' HATE HOW GIRLS SAY IT'S HARDER FOR THEM SINCE THEY HAVE TO WAIT, WELL WAITING IS BETTER THAN BEING REJECTED AND GETTING TEASED AND LEAD ON, girls always have the final say before anything, that's why they have it easier!

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I seriously wish I was a girl sometimes, I hate being a guy.

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Girls can have any guy that approaches them, but guys can't have every girl that they approach, girls always get to do the choosing, so that's why they have it easier.

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us guys need to watch our weight as much as you girls do, anyone who is fat or on the chubby side, of either gender has it harder, gaining muscle is harder than losing weight.

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As long as a girl is cute, has a pretty face or nice body, etc. That's all she needs to attract a guy, whether it is for a hook-up, one-night stand, or for dating, an actual relationship.

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for guys it always or usually comes down to their money, or social skills, confidence, attitude, conversation skills, body language, the way they walk, the words that come out of their mouth.

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If a girl is hot, cute, or good-looking, that's all she needs to attract a guy, she doesn't have to work herself up more, however, us guys have to work on themselves more than girls do, both looks-wise and mentality-wise.

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One girl told me this, she said "Girls are Takers", well she nailed it!

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Being a Taker is easier, and it's better.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe that all girls have it harder. It all depends on the person and how well they can bounce back.

Girls definitely have to come out of their comfort zones. At least for me, it's hard to open up to anyone, so when I find someone who I can easily talk to it's amazing.

Are you kidding? Girls definitely suffer from self-confidence issues - just go to the "style" forum and you'll see every other post is a girl trying to reach out. And this is solely because of the media. The media portrays women in an unrealistic light that a lot of us feel like we have to live up to in order for us to feel "beautiful" or "accepted". And the truth is, no one cares what you look like, and if they do they're not worth anyone's time.

We get rejected allllll the time. We sit around dwelling on situations, waiting by the phone, etc. etc.

As I keep looking above to read what you've written I've come to the conclusion that this entire post is just completely inane. You obviously aren't in contact with many girls. And if you are, you seem to be quite ignorant of those around you. Just take a look at the women in your life and the impact anything has on them. If you think men are a lot more sentimental and emotional than women... hahahahah

My point IS: No one has it harder. It depends on the person.

[Asker]

How do girls get rejected if they are not the ones approaching guys or starting conversations, asking them out, etc.?

[tnoell]

I am a girl, and I've started plenty of convos and approached plenty of guys. just becuz ur a male doesn't mean your the only one who has to start anything.

[Asker]

Well more than half the time it is the guy that starts things, like 80 or 90 percent of the time.

[Anonymous]

It's a guy's goal to get a date and eventually hook up with a girl. We have it easier on that aspect, but that's not what we want. Most girls want a successful relationship with a guy that treats them with respect and is honest. It's easier for anyone to get a date than it is to find a good man. So no we don't have it easier.

You sound really whiny and like you're trying to make excuses. OMG I'm sorry that you have to go through all that trouble to open your mouth and actually speak to a girl! Wow I know that is soo hard life isn't fair girls just have it so much easier!

Do you really think girls don't get rejected? Yes we do. Love does not just come to us. Look at all these questions on GAG, most guys at a young age are not trying to settle down or fall in love so how is it that a girl can just find love so easily?

And if you get rejected all the time by every single girl it's probably something you're doing wrong. Realistically and objectively look at yourself and see if there is something you can change to get a girl to be more receptive to you. Of course you don't come out the womb being a ladies man but how hard is it to talk to a female? I talk to people all the time I think you make it harder than it is.

[Asker]

Well this is how I see things, girls reject guys for many different reasons, while guys reject girls for only a very few reasons.

[Asker]

Plus there are a ton of people out there that are in good, great, serious, committed, long-term relationships, and most of them were initiated by the guy, so yes, girls do have it easier, even for the guys that have no problem approaching a girl or initiating anything with them, the girl has it easier because all she had to do was wait, sit back and relax, and say Yes or No.

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't matter why- a rejection is still a rejection. No one is obligated to go out with you just because you asked them out.

How do you know most of those relationships were initiated by a guy, did you ask all of them? It could be because when a woman initiates things and shows more interest most of the time the guy doesn't take them as seriously and the relationship doesn't make it to long-term. A guy might take a girl up on a few dates if she initiates it but that doesn't mean he will

[Opinion Owner]

Want to be with her long term. Asking someone out is totally different than maintaining a relationship. A girl could get 5 dates a week but if none of those guys want anything more than sex she really isn't too successful. And no girls don't get to "sit back and wait", guys will rarely approach a girl if he isn't sure she is interested. She has to flirt and let him know she likes him too. He might ask her out but that doesn't mean he did all the work.

[Asker]

That is bullsh*t, well for me, I would love and like the girl even more if she made the first move and asked me out, initiated things, how come the guy will not take the girl seriously then?

[Asker]

How do girls flirt and let the guy know they are interested? because girls never initiated flirting, they never break the ice or start conversations, at least not with me.

[Opinion Owner]

That's just you. Maybe you say that because you are so unwilling to make a move on a girl so for you to date in the first place she'd have to ask you. A lot of guys will not turn down a woman's advances even if he doesn't like her because he still has a chance at having sex with her. In most cases if a man doesn't approach a woman there is a good reason for it (not that interested). Most guys will go after a girl they are interested in

[Asker]

No it can go both ways, a lot of times a man will approach a woman and yet the man is only looking for casual sex, and no serious, committed, long-term relationship, it doesn't matter who takes the initiative, it can go both ways.

[Asker]

So why do girls say the guy will not take the girl seriously if the gender roles are reversed?

[Opinion Owner]

Because usually they don't. I have seen countless times when a girl is chasing a guy and showing that her interest level is really high in the beginning, the guy usually takes advantage of it or sees her as less desirable. Simply her worth goes down. Instead of complaining that girls don't ask guys out, just ask more girls out. That's like women complaining "guys get to sleep with a lot of girls but they're not considered whores" sorry but that's just the way it is. Gender roles for ya.

[Asker]

Whatver, I still think you women have it easier.

[Shantal2501]

I agree with you. Guys have it a lot harder. I'm not a shy girl, but just the thought of going up to a boy out of no where and trying to get his number like guys have to makes me nervous. Also I think many women are so complicated in relationships. They love to instigate arguments and want to shape their boy friend like play-dough into what they want. Having a harmonious relationship is actually quite easy if you try.

[Asker]

All girls have to do is say Yes or No, that's all, they control the outcome of things.

[Asker]

You girls have it so much easier!!!!!!, why can't you girls just get it through your heads!!!!

[Cosmicflow]

You know I'm a good guy. I know this and that's enough. Life isn't all about finding a girl or a guy to hang with, once you learn who you are and treat yourself with respect the path too love gets a lot easier. I went 19 years without a single kiss. 19 fucking years! All I am saying is that it's all about character man. You have too be willing to take the pain of rejection and have your heart torn out whether your a guy or a girl. It hurts man. It's also shit scary, but years from now you will be kicking yourself because you never had the courage to just approach that random girl and spontaneously ask her out. You don't need a pick up line or any special clothing, you don't need too be stick thin, or even be super ripped all you need is the courage too put your ego on the line. In the end girls should recognize that while your blurting out whatever you had enough courage too say, you took a chance and said it. Dude this shouldn't even be on your mind. Next time you see a girl just smile at her, acknowledge how beautiful she is, say goodmorning, whatever, and just like that let her go by. Do this and I promise you man. YOU WILL HAVE SUCCESS.

[MohammedF479]

Yeah I agree that girls in general have it easier than guys when it comes to love. But if that's the case, then that amazing girl we meet after going through all those hoops would cause us to realize that the hard work was worth it and make us actually value that amazing girl a lot.

So just keep trying until you find that amazing girl.

[tnoell]

honestly, I don't think the girl or the guy has it harder.

i think its just about even.

most girls are way too shy to ask a guy out...

so they try to impress guys. and its not always easy to impress a guy you like.

guys, yes, they can have it hard too I see where your coming from,

you have to work up the courage and ask a girl out.

but honestly I don't really find either super hard.

i think the only hard thing about finding a 'date' or a 'relationship' is finding someone you have a connection with that feels the same connection with you... and that is hard on both females and men.

[Asker]

Girls get easy dates just standing still.

[Asker]

You girls will have it easier until the last star falls from the heaven.

[Npie111111]

Bro I know it can suck... I know I've felt this way at times but you just got to man up. Be a man. In the end you will be happy you had to jump through all these hoops to find great women. You will become a better person. Life is not handed to you so fucken take it.

[Asker]

lol, wow, answered an old question

[Asker]

as for life is not handed to you, you are absolutely right, and i'm sure it applies to men more than women

[Cjrathbun86]

It's funny because everything in this question has still not been pointed out girls can wear makeup hens it makes it easier for a lot of women to get a date if your a guy and your physically unattractive your fucked you could have the best clothes the best personality and the best hair anything like that but you could have a ugly face and bam chances are ruined because women's standards are so redicullusly high they say they that all they need in a guy is personality but it is about how attractive they are I feel like girls are liars to people and everyone else they just can't admit it

[Anonymous]

Why are you still on about this? Whining about it isn't going to help your situation. You know or at least think you know what you need to do to be attractive so go do it and stop complaining. There are people born with severe disabilities and here you are complaining about this

[Asker]

Because I want more answers that's why, and you are very right, whining never helps, in fact, nothing ever helps me, so I just choose to because I fail all the time no matter how hard I try.

[Opinion Owner]

Well since you know that come to terms with it and move on.

[dwright0994]

What about the nice shy girls who get treated sexually for their natural looks? I mean that's out of their control. Yeah girls get a lot of attention. But it's usually only for sex. Regardless of the type of girl. As long s she has a pretty face. She gets guys all over her. So it's not easier. It's a curse. So only spoiled ones have it easier. But the shy girl you ignored and rejected in hs that grew into her natural beauty has it the hardest.

[Anonymous]

us guys have it harder and this is why. I go ask this girl out I'm not shy girls say I like a guy with confidence and that what I did I looked in her eyes smiled and said would you go out with me? she said and I quote "ew no your too ugly why would you think I would go for a guy like you your to fat" its crazy because after that a couple days later she spread a rumor about me it got so bad I had to switch schools

[aldine6633]

I get you dude. Women are horrible people. They constantly judge others but they get all pissed off when you judge them.

[HowTerribleLetMeHelp]

There may be nothing you can do to change what happened but that doesn't mean give up on everything and it also doesn't mean fill your heart with hate. Remember who you are inside and out. Anybody that says anything negative of you is simply wrong you have to tell yourself that. Dont show signs that what they say bothers you either people eat that s#!+ up! Just remember how handsome and fun and funny and cool you are. Remember the world is diverse if you start seeing yourself as handsome so will many others.
And if someone fails to do that its not your fault they got dropped on their head as a baby and fail to see anything truly amazing right in front of them. You have to believe this. Without confidence in yourself you will never get a date. You have to keep being confident keep being you and be stubborn as hell. Dont let the next wench ruin you. There's a girl out there for you no matter what anyone says. Go from one to the next until you get a yes

[Anonymous]

It is hard for girls because guys can pick who they want, while I have to wait for someone (that I'd actually be interested in) to talk to me. A lot of guys that do try to talk to me do not have the best intentions or they're just not interesting. I won't talk to a guy first because of past experiences. If a guy comes for me, I'll know for surethat he actually has interest in me. Just feels more natural that way, with him taking the lead. Guys get their pick of the litter, while we hopelessly wait for the right guy. I don't even think it's a matter of girls being too picky. If a guy can have a girl that he's really attracted to, I don't see why a girl can't say she wants a tall, outgoing, hardworking, faithful guy that can act right! It's unfair. But I do see where guys are coming from. It's hard to approach a girl cause you don't know what to expect and some girls can be really nasty to other people. It's hard for guys AND girls.

[Asker]

Wow still getting responses to this old question

[Anonymous]

Girls have to worry about the unrealistic beauty standards that are very hard to get in order for a guy to even like them. If beauty does not come naturally to a girl, they have to go the extra mile to be considered "beautiful". And in general, it is also hard for a lot of girls to get boyfriends. I am not saying that guys do not have it hard too, I am just saying that before you make a big deal about it, why don't you also think of the other side of the argument.

[Anonymous]

I agree us girls have it much easier all we have to do is look nice then guys will come to us and ask us out really the only bad thing about being a girl is the periods, pain during puberty and spending more money on clothes because of bras

[camsgirl1]

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[Asker]

What the hell is your problem?