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It's a guy's goal to get a date and eventually hook up with a girl. We have it easier on that aspect, but that's not what we want. Most girls want a successful relationship with a guy that treats them with respect and is honest. It's easier for anyone to get a date than it is to find a good man. So no we don't have it easier.
You sound really whiny and like you're trying to make excuses. OMG I'm sorry that you have to go through all that trouble to open your mouth and actually speak to a girl! Wow I know that is soo hard life isn't fair girls just have it so much easier!
Do you really think girls don't get rejected? Yes we do. Love does not just come to us. Look at all these questions on GAG, most guys at a young age are not trying to settle down or fall in love so how is it that a girl can just find love so easily?
And if you get rejected all the time by every single girl it's probably something you're doing wrong. Realistically and objectively look at yourself and see if there is something you can change to get a girl to be more receptive to you. Of course you don't come out the womb being a ladies man but how hard is it to talk to a female? I talk to people all the time I think you make it harder than it is.111
I agree with you. Guys have it a lot harder. I'm not a shy girl, but just the thought of going up to a boy out of no where and trying to get his number like guys have to makes me nervous. Also I think many women are so complicated in relationships. They love to instigate arguments and want to shape their boy friend like play-dough into what they want. Having a harmonious relationship is actually quite easy if you try.42
You know I'm a good guy. I know this and that's enough. Life isn't all about finding a girl or a guy to hang with, once you learn who you are and treat yourself with respect the path too love gets a lot easier. I went 19 years without a single kiss. 19 fucking years! All I am saying is that it's all about character man. You have too be willing to take the pain of rejection and have your heart torn out whether your a guy or a girl. It hurts man. It's also shit scary, but years from now you will be kicking yourself because you never had the courage to just approach that random girl and spontaneously ask her out. You don't need a pick up line or any special clothing, you don't need too be stick thin, or even be super ripped all you need is the courage too put your ego on the line. In the end girls should recognize that while your blurting out whatever you had enough courage too say, you took a chance and said it. Dude this shouldn't even be on your mind. Next time you see a girl just smile at her, acknowledge how beautiful she is, say goodmorning, whatever, and just like that let her go by. Do this and I promise you man. YOU WILL HAVE SUCCESS.30
Yeah I agree that girls in general have it easier than guys when it comes to love. But if that's the case, then that amazing girl we meet after going through all those hoops would cause us to realize that the hard work was worth it and make us actually value that amazing girl a lot.
So just keep trying until you find that amazing girl.0
What Girls & Guys Said
honestly, I don't think the girl or the guy has it harder.
i think its just about even.
most girls are way too shy to ask a guy out...
so they try to impress guys. and its not always easy to impress a guy you like.
guys, yes, they can have it hard too I see where your coming from,
you have to work up the courage and ask a girl out.
but honestly I don't really find either super hard.
i think the only hard thing about finding a 'date' or a 'relationship' is finding someone you have a connection with that feels the same connection with you... and that is hard on both females and men.32
Bro I know it can suck... I know I've felt this way at times but you just got to man up. Be a man. In the end you will be happy you had to jump through all these hoops to find great women. You will become a better person. Life is not handed to you so fucken take it.12
It's funny because everything in this question has still not been pointed out girls can wear makeup hens it makes it easier for a lot of women to get a date if your a guy and your physically unattractive your fucked you could have the best clothes the best personality and the best hair anything like that but you could have a ugly face and bam chances are ruined because women's standards are so redicullusly high they say they that all they need in a guy is personality but it is about how attractive they are I feel like girls are liars to people and everyone else they just can't admit it10
Why are you still on about this? Whining about it isn't going to help your situation. You know or at least think you know what you need to do to be attractive so go do it and stop complaining. There are people born with severe disabilities and here you are complaining about this2
What about the nice shy girls who get treated sexually for their natural looks? I mean that's out of their control. Yeah girls get a lot of attention. But it's usually only for sex. Regardless of the type of girl. As long s she has a pretty face. She gets guys all over her. So it's not easier. It's a curse. So only spoiled ones have it easier. But the shy girl you ignored and rejected in hs that grew into her natural beauty has it the hardest.30
us guys have it harder and this is why. I go ask this girl out I'm not shy girls say I like a guy with confidence and that what I did I looked in her eyes smiled and said would you go out with me? she said and I quote "ew no your too ugly why would you think I would go for a guy like you your to fat" its crazy because after that a couple days later she spread a rumor about me it got so bad I had to switch schools12
It is hard for girls because guys can pick who they want, while I have to wait for someone (that I'd actually be interested in) to talk to me. A lot of guys that do try to talk to me do not have the best intentions or they're just not interesting. I won't talk to a guy first because of past experiences. If a guy comes for me, I'll know for surethat he actually has interest in me. Just feels more natural that way, with him taking the lead. Guys get their pick of the litter, while we hopelessly wait for the right guy. I don't even think it's a matter of girls being too picky. If a guy can have a girl that he's really attracted to, I don't see why a girl can't say she wants a tall, outgoing, hardworking, faithful guy that can act right! It's unfair. But I do see where guys are coming from. It's hard to approach a girl cause you don't know what to expect and some girls can be really nasty to other people. It's hard for guys AND girls.1
Girls have to worry about the unrealistic beauty standards that are very hard to get in order for a guy to even like them. If beauty does not come naturally to a girl, they have to go the extra mile to be considered "beautiful". And in general, it is also hard for a lot of girls to get boyfriends. I am not saying that guys do not have it hard too, I am just saying that before you make a big deal about it, why don't you also think of the other side of the argument.0
I agree us girls have it much easier all we have to do is look nice then guys will come to us and ask us out really the only bad thing about being a girl is the periods, pain during puberty and spending more money on clothes because of bras10
'NO THE HELL WE FUCKIN DONT' STOP BLAMIN CUTE LIL GIRLS 4 UR ON SELFESH PROBS1
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I don't believe that all girls have it harder. It all depends on the person and how well they can bounce back.
Girls definitely have to come out of their comfort zones. At least for me, it's hard to open up to anyone, so when I find someone who I can easily talk to it's amazing.
Are you kidding? Girls definitely suffer from self-confidence issues - just go to the "style" forum and you'll see every other post is a girl trying to reach out. And this is solely because of the media. The media portrays women in an unrealistic light that a lot of us feel like we have to live up to in order for us to feel "beautiful" or "accepted". And the truth is, no one cares what you look like, and if they do they're not worth anyone's time.
We get rejected allllll the time. We sit around dwelling on situations, waiting by the phone, etc. etc.
As I keep looking above to read what you've written I've come to the conclusion that this entire post is just completely inane. You obviously aren't in contact with many girls. And if you are, you seem to be quite ignorant of those around you. Just take a look at the women in your life and the impact anything has on them. If you think men are a lot more sentimental and emotional than women... hahahahah
My point IS: No one has it harder. It depends on the person.
How do girls get rejected if they are not the ones approaching guys or starting conversations, asking them out, etc.?
I am a girl, and I've started plenty of convos and approached plenty of guys. just becuz ur a male doesn't mean your the only one who has to start anything.
Well more than half the time it is the guy that starts things, like 80 or 90 percent of the time.