Is it harder for guys or girls to date?

[NadYdnaL]

Guys

Girls

[blueonblack22]

There can be regional variations on this depending where you live in the world. But in western countries is much harder for guys when all else is equal (looks, status, wealth, etc.) and even a slightly majority of women are agreeing to that via poll results.

This is complicated for a whole bunch of reasons. However it really all comes down this: women are naturally more choosy when it comes to mating out of evolution purposes.

For most of human history the mate a woman choose could make or break her very livilihood (even survival). This is no longer necessary in modern times but most women have not evolved out that pickiness nor can anybody realistically expect them too. Seriously, can we realistically expect to defy thousands of years of evolution with just 50 years of “gender equality” in society?

While I don’t expect women to change many of them could do a much better job at respecting what men have to deal with. I think some of them are finally waking up to this too. Key reason being they might of have serious regrets about self-sabotaging themselves and/or they have seen other women ruin good things with selfish choices.

[BarryLiverstone]

Harder for a single guy to get a date but more for a single girl to go on the date

[thatshydork]

Depends on what aspect of dating. I saw an article where the reporter ran a few experiments. He asked three of his guy friends to sign up for tinder and I believe one or two of his friends that are girls. The girls got more dates in the beginning than the guys. Where the guys might’ve gotten like 10-20 matches, the girls got over 50. With the information from this article, it shows that men generally have a harder time getting dates/matches on dating apps.

However, women are also more likely to get SA’d by their date as far as research knows (not saying this doesn’t happen to men, just saying that it happens more to women). It is said that one in five women have fallen victim to a SA. When it comes to SH, women are also more likely to fall victim to it, and that’s just in the United States. With these facts in mind, it is a lot harder to know who to trust when it comes to dating.

[uniquelyshy]

I wanna say guys because of how their seen and treated and expected to act now in society. But then again woman as well, because it's hard to understand ourselves sometimes and so we make mistakes or slip-ups and it's not hard to admit to our mistakes but when we admit them to people we're dating and not even sure will last long it's harder because there still in a way strangers.

Ugh, forget what I've said about woman I'm not even sure of the point I was tryna make but I'll just say it's no competition it's hard for both genders just for different reasons.

[pass_the_celery98]

You pretty much nailed it

[uniquelyshy]

I guess so.

[OlderAndWiser]

Let's imagine that you could actually get a valid and reliable answer to this question. And let's suppose that the answer is that dating is easier for girls.

Now. . . what are you going to do with that information? Feel sorry for yourself? Get angry at girls? Demand sympathy? How does an answer to that question lead you to doing anything constructive in your life?

[AmandaYVR]

Guys. They have way more to prove to girls to get girls to go out with and stay with them.

[Crazyced]

For dating? It's men, 100%, that's not really debatable. Not only are men still expected to be the pursuer and pay for dates a lot of the times, having to prove themselves every step of the way, but the apps have skewed the market incredibly.

Tinder will never willingly publish this kind of data, as it could be devastating for business, but tinder insight gets you close. According to it, for women on average, they gets a match on 33% of her right swipes. For men it's 2.5%. And that's AVERAGE, meaning the highly successful men are inflating that number. I bet if we took the median instead, it would split that in half easily if not go down under 1%.

Women seem to have a very hard time understanding the realities of the average man here, which is understandable. As if she goes on dates with men, clearly 'guys' are getting dates too, right? Women have the big end of the stick and they pick the best they can, which is fair. But what they don't realize is if that guy was good enough for you to fancy him over the mountain of other men, chances are he caught the attention of a whole bunch of other women too. This, in turn, gives those few guys the proverbial big end of the stick.

[Nirmroth]

Comes down to what we're talking about online or irl.

I found that online women simply have the advantages were even the best looking guys get around the same likes as the worst looking women a day.

Irl I would say men have it easier as its still mostly common that the man makes the first move. Kinda leads to situations were a man can talk up to multiple women while women usually have to hope that the right guy speaks to them. At least thats what I sometimes hear female friends complain about always beeing approached by the wrong guys they dont find attractive.

[Nirmroth]

Tho women are way more selective than men meaning as a man you will face way more rejections than a woman troughout your life. If we look at that aspect alone, then dating is harder for men

[ShellyB]

It depends what we are measuring. I think typically it is easier for a girl to get a date, but, it can be really difficult to date somebody you WANT to date and to have the kind of dating experience you want.

If you just mean is it easier for a guy or a girl to wake up today and decide they want to go on a date to actually go on a date today, it is prob easier for girls to do that. However, that isn’t really a girl priority in most cases. JMO!

[Anonymous]

we’re in a time where girls and women feel more valued and with social media and dating apps and higher population yes they will get more attention. But I see a shift happening now where guys care less. Women and girls seek attention. But once guys and men realize not to give that attention, that’s going to cause women and girls to try a little more down the road. Guys should think they are better and neither should girls, goes both ways. It’s one thing to have expectations and wants but pickiness and stubbornness are sometimes unrealistic.

[Opinion Owner]

Shouldn’t think they are better, both genders should value you each other and themselves.**

[MisterWack]

Guys since women are very selective of who they want to date, cuddle, and have sex with. That is a good thing since women don’t settle especially with guys who overstep boundaries / rush her into doing something she isn’t comfortable with.

Guys also have to deal with catfishing just like girls, though it is more prominent to males.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard for both nowadays because they don’t go out as much anymore and they don’t meet other people. Instead, they stay in their rooms, online, thinking about the ideal partner.
When you stay around people in real life, face to face, you don’t care that he is not finance, trust fund, 6’5’ and blue eyes and you don’t care she is not a virgin who looks like Adriana Lima or Ana de Armas, who saved herself for you. You see people for what they are. You forget you have an ideal and you focus on the person around you and on how to make your relationship better

[JHAYES317]

Definitely guys…by far. Guys are judged for height, d size, looks, baldness, physique, charisma, and how much money they make. Girls are only judged for looks, fatness, and maybe hair to some degree. Boob/butt size isn’t really a dealbreaker for any guy as far as I know, more just a preference…

[Anonymous]

overall guys have it harder, the numbers speak for themselves

not being able to find the right one within a large number of options is nowhere comparable to not having little to no options at all

might as well say billionaires have it just as hard as homeless people

[paledreams]

I actually voted women for the simple reason -shyness 😊♀️ if you know, ladies, you know - it's tough out there for women who don't even wanna maintain steady eye contact with their object of male attraction, only they give sneaky glances when he's not looking 😀😀😆 - that's been my life experience on this rock so far lol 🌎🌍 😆 wisdom

[RingOfFire]

I'm going to say it's a tie. The guy has to work for the money pay for it but the girl has to go through all this beauty stuff with the clothes and the hair and the makeup and the jewelry and whatever else they do. You couldn't pay me enough to have to do that.

[Vegasrunner]

It's not so generally, it's broken down more by demographics.

18-24 it's much easier for girls

25- 28 Starts to even out

28- 32 Slight advantage guys

33+ It slants toward guys until the discrepancy is similar to when women were 18-24.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it's harder for girls to get a real date because they have to deal with so many unwanted douches.

A guy will pretty much ask any girl and for the most part not have to worry about what they're like.

[RebelinSteel]

I don’t know many that have it hard, either girls or guys. However if I was to say I would put it slightly harder for guys. The ones that seem to have things the hardest are those with limited social skills.

[CrabCakes11]

Dating as a man is like being thirsty in a desert, while dating as a woman is like being thirsty in a swamp

[Pohjolan]

Swamp water is coming from somewhere meaning that there is a proper water source nearby.

[CrabCakes11]

@Pohjolan and deserts have water if you dig deep enough or look in the right place

[Pohjolan]

Alas not every man has drilling equipment with him.

[Lady_Heart]

I think women, i don't know how men can just go to girl n say all sweet things and even if they get rejected it doesn't put them down. Its hard for majority of women to that.

[MikeTheBartender]

I can't believe 20 percent said girls... Maybe because guys cheat? An average girl will be hit on 100x more than a hot guy.

[Inbox]

And still complain lol

[jshm2]

Girls.

Any dude can get a date, once. But it's that second date where the girls need to make the decision

[HawkPerception]

100% men. Just take a look at this

https://youtu.be/9547hkXTGHw?si=BF2vzErtmeoMixyz

It's all based on stats and it's completely objective.

[Anonymous]

Even the average girls back in college dated top sports stars , rich restaurent and public owners, popular musicians. Many of them got to live and dine regularly in expensive hotels , drive expensive cars for free , free holiday to foreign locations. Even hot guys can't pull those off. Below average girls too can easily get a date.

[chrissykerdock]

girls can get dates but they have to do certain things if they want more dates so to date it's harder for girls

[TommyMountainFigure]

How can anyone answer that, as they have never experienced what the opposite sex has to go through?

[Countrygirl777]

I think both. Tbh
Because u never know what that person been through so they could putting a mask on for u Because that person is in a shell

[Sharkstealth]

I know some women don't get asked out. I also know that whenever I'm talking to a female and get her number she always ghosts me. I'm going to have to assume the girls are all getting laid and going on dates with the same few men.

[Pohjolan]

Statistically guys by mode average.

[HawkPerception]

Sucks I'm part of that 25% 😂

[ProbablyClueless]

Women have a much harder time being taken seriously, but men have a harder time getting a foot in the door.

[bobby_bush_eater]

C'mon it's obviously harder for men but that said finding a good long term romantic partner is not easy for both

[pethouse]

It’s harder for guys to get a date but it’s hard for girls to get a good partner

[OtterMan68]

guys as the onus is on them to do the asking and being the ones to approach the opposite sex in social settings

[Alex-Snow]

I think it is slightly more difficult for guys

[genericname85]

finding a date initially or dating successfully to get into a relationship?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's a bit harder for men because safety is a big problem for women.

But in general is easy for both if the standards aren't high. LOL

[clampfan101]

I imagine it’s 50/50, simply with some differences in why.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not know anyone who has a hard time getting a date.

[Anonymous]

A mentality that I agree with and even some dating coaches say which I agree with and that is men are naturally an scarcity with women but women are naturally and abundance with men

[azbaeu]

If you meant as in it is it harder to date girls than it is to date guys guys are easier

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

Much harder for the average dude than the average chick.

[DishLady]

There are challenges for both.

[Nikki1989]

It is not hard for anyone I know.

[HappyWoman34]

Both, I’d say.

[dustybiker2]

Both. Neither makes it easy on the other.

[thegreenyogi]

I think it can go both ways.

[BigManSAB]

Guys! Because they have to work to get women

[Unit1]

You're a blue user. What do you think?

[DrPepper12]

Girls can be selective so it's harder for men

[Kingofkings1992]

Obviously guys. Everyone knows that

[Anonymous]

Both