Is dating harder for guys or girls?

[Anonymous]

Guys

Girls

[ObscuredBeyond]

For girls, it's about the end goal. Men have to deal with sadists who are too obsessed with framing someone as a predator to virtue signal catching a predator to see the irony in their own cruelty and insanity.

For women, it's about if they want stability or sex. If the former, they tend to make all kinds of bad decisions more often than not, and it ends badly. For those only wanting sex, they usually find it. Because anyone telling them it's a bad idea, even if correct, will be judged a prude, and treated even worse by modern society than how sluts used to be treated long ago. Lost modern society is quick to crucify anything that prevents fornication from happening, as if it were a sacrament. The only difference being that men judged as unworthy by the shallow criteria of third parties can be prevented from having a fair chance to even properly befriend a woman of interest, much less pursue sex, and presumed lack of sexual worth is automatically an excuse for bullying.

At which point, those who cross that line are of more concern to me than finding a date or not. They need to be broken for how over the line they become.

And some tormentors from my own past should be glad I left them for God to sort out. Because if I'd given them what they deserve for their cruelty, I'd probably be labeled a terrorist. I only hope they come to their senses before it's too late. Hell is hot.

[Anonymous]

The dating experience can vary greatly depending on individual circumstances and personal preferences, so it's challenging to make a definitive statement about whether dating is harder for guys or girls. Both genders can face their own unique challenges and obstacles when it comes to dating.

For example, men may sometimes feel pressure to initiate and take the lead in romantic pursuits, which can be intimidating and nerve-wracking. They might also experience societal expectations related to financial stability or traditional gender roles. Additionally, some men may face difficulties in finding compatible partners or receiving positive responses from the people they are interested in.

On the other hand, women may encounter challenges such as dealing with unwanted attention, societal beauty standards, or navigating potential power dynamics in dating. They may also face pressures related to finding a balance between personal goals and societal expectations, such as career aspirations and family life.

It's important to recognize that dating experiences can be influenced by various factors, including cultural norms, personal preferences, location, age, and individual circumstances. Each person's dating experience is unique, and it's not accurate or fair to make generalizations about which gender has a harder time dating.

Ultimately, open communication, mutual respect, and understanding between individuals can contribute to more positive dating experiences regardless of gender.

[ShellyB]

I think it can be hard for both, it depends what you focus on.

What I mean is, if you are for example a guy who is trying to date but you keep getting shot down and you can't seem to get a date, at least not more than one or two, you will be aware that it is harder for a guy to get a first date which is true. That is easier for girls on average.

However, if you are a girl and you're frustrated about why all the guys you date seem fake or wishy washy or only want sex or don't pay attention to what you say etc then you may think it is harder for a girl to feel like she is in a good healthy relationship which (in my opinion) is also true though I am not sure and could be wrong about this one. JMO!

[Anonymous]

This can honestly depends. I find it hard as I know what I want and I think I found that in a guy but very bad texter but really good in person. I think he likes me back but I don't know. And for guys according to my old coworker, who wasn’t bad looking, said that I have a better chance at finding a guy then he does finding a girl on the apps because girls basically have the final say. I don't know I have my eyes on one guy and like I said I think he likes me back but it’s really hard to know over texting. Pretty bad. He’s willing to help me for my test which is really great of him and really sweet as he doesn’t have to do it. I just hope he answers my text when I have a question! Lol

[ManOnFire]

It's typically harder for people who are very serious about a relationship and who are more mature about it, both men and women.

Guys who are angry with women will say it's harder for guys. But women also do want men to feel like it’s harder because they take pleasure in men feeling insecure or struggling with dating, and they do want men to have less opportunities, and not be able to have sex or a relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

Assuming that you find a way to measure how difficult dating is for both sexes, WHY does it matter? If the answer is that dating is more difficult for men, are you going to have sex change surgery?

[Avicenna]

It’s hard for anyone go find someone compatible. But usually not impossible.

[nitsuj86]

Women will try to say them, or both. But we all know the real answer.

We have to work for attention, work for sex, work for a relationship, work for marriage, work to keep her happy after marriage and children. And I am a married man. I've dated all types of women. They almost always expect way more than they provide in return.

This is the domain where women retain most of their power. They don't want to give it up. They like "traditional men" who do a bunch of shit for them, but they like to be independent women when men start asking what they get in return. Suddenly we aren't owed anything. It's all dumb as hell.

Find a woman that appreciates you, not one of these millions bimbos out here looking for someone to take care of them. If they aren't willing to take care of you at all in return. Let someone else deal with that future divorce.

I've never heard a solid reason for how women have it harder in dating. Only women think that.

[pass_the_celery98]

Agreed

[Tomisworthless]

Women provide nothing of value to men but sex and children.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Actually I think it is about even.


Nice girl meets nice guy. Nice guy starts acting like an asshole. Nice girl turns into a bitch. The nice guy meets a bitch. Bitch make nice guy an asshole.


Now everyone puts their best foot forward to attract someone new.


Wash, rinse, repeat.


More women these days see that to protect themselves they have to be more like guys. All guys want from girls is sex. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.


So now everybody has their guards up expecting to get fucked over. But both guys and girls every once in awhile continue to try make relationships work only out of fear of loneliness.

[John_Doesnt]

Girls want to be treated equal but they never want to pay for a date. Also, they use the excuse "If he asks me out then he should pay" while at the same time saying "Guys should be the one asking out girls". So yeah, it's much harder now to be a guy because of the feminists. In the older periods it used to be equal but now it's in favor of the girls.

They have no right to complain about getting paid less than guys do. It's a tax for paying for all your dates.

[Lionman95]

I´d say guys because guys are said to be the proactive part of looking for a relationship and they have to spend more effort in convincing a woman.
Another issue is that while many women know young if they want to have a family or not guys have to figure out all that for themselves. At the same time women have learned to help each other while guys don´t help each other.

[EricSummer]

The level of difficulty is about the same, but in different ways.

It's easier for a shy girl than for a shy guy for example.

It's easy for a woman to get sex, but difficult to get a committed partner.

There's one thing I certainly do not envy women for: Most women are naturally attracted by guys physically stronger than themselves. It must be really tough at first when you do not know them well, as the guys could be dangerous.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s hard for both. It’s hard for some guys to get any girl to pay attention to them that way and it’s hard for a lot of girls to find a guy who really likes them and wants to commit to a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

Guys learn to deal with the fear of rejection and the actual rejection.

Girls never really learn to take agency. They hope and pine and dream until the right guy (or a tolerable guy) asks them out.

Girls have it harder. But it's kind of their fault.

[Tomisworthless]

Definitely men, I come across a women that finds me attractive once every 5years and after about a month or so she loses interest and then another 5years go by. I have almost no options for dating so marriage and children don’t seem like a reality for me

[Paul09]

Mostly men do the all the work. So definitely harder for men. Most women just sit their looking pretty and wait to be asked out. Wow must be a hard task. Then man apparently has to pay for everything. Then if you like all that overrated marriage b. s. The man yet again has to purpose, has to but a overly expensive useless ring. Men have to do everything first.

[imfreeze95]

Women are more picky than men are when it comes to dating. Honestly I don’t blame them.


They know if they get to involved with someone they could get pregnant. Men don’t have to worry about that. So if they do get pregnant they have to worry about what their boyfriend will do.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a matter of perspective. Men certainly have to endure exponentially more rejection than women. But women also have this antiquated perception that they aren't supposed to ask men out. So that relegates them to whoever asks them out. Which might not be who they want asking them out.

So in my perspective I say men because they can't make a woman attracted to them. But a woman can choose go on the offense and her dating pool will increase exponentially.

[Anonymous]

Dating in this day and age is harder for guys because of the me too movement. A guy could compliment a girl back in the day and get away with it but now it could be considered harassment which is just fucked up.

[cosmosis181]

A REAL date? Probably for girls, since so many guys are off that boat, for obvious reasons. Just picking people up? Guys, because each girl has 80 suitors to pick from from any online profile at any given moment.

[Anemone978]

It used to be easy back in the day but now it seems hard cuz guys don't want to date because all the options. So I say now days its harder for girls to get a man.

[Dan_5001]

A lot of guys still want to but are perceived as good guys and not super attractive and therefore discarded.

[DamianJ97]

I think guys have it harder at the start. Not that women have it easy though. I think it is more that guys are mostly the one who has to start everything. (Luckily it does happen the otherway) never had that happen to me though

[noamazia]

okay, there are aspects:
getting a date - men.
trying to stay safe - women.
financially - men.
time consumption - women (probably)

[ARWINGx1]

One thing I'd add is that I feel that a guy like me, who also have autism, is making it harder than it already is.