I started talking to this guy over the summer. I met him at my university and we became friends and would hang out sometimes. We live in different states so over the summer we would text and facetime and we knew we liked each other. When we got back to school this semester we started dating. I'm a really shy person and I wasn't completely comfortable with him yet since we hadn't spent that much time together. He would get mad at me for being quiet when we were together and he'd just leave. He said he didn't understand why I couldn't just open up because we had been talking all summer. I told him its something that has always been hard for me, but I want to get through it with him. I only saw him like twice a week for a few hours since his track schedule is so busy, which also made it hard because I wasn't able to spend enough time with him. He continued to get mad and wasn't understanding, which made me feel even more uncomfortable. After three weeks he started to ignore me and then finally sent me a text saying "we're done" and then wouldn't reply. I finally got a reply saying "the relationship sucked and nothing changed" and that he was "fed up." It had only been three weeks and we hadn't even spent that much time together. I let him know that I would get there in time. We're both 20. I'm a junior and he's a sophomore. Was I wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
No you're not wrong.
If someone pressures you into anything you're not comfortable with, it isn't meant to be.
I'd honestly say you're better off out of that situation, you made the effort to work around his schedule to meet up with him. Instead of appreciating it and making you feel special, it wasn't good enough.
Put it down to experience and don't pretend you want different things from a partner just so that you can be in a relationship quicker. It takes time and practice to find a decent partner.2
Most Helpful Girl
No, you weren't wrong. Not in the least bit. You can't force yourself to open up to someone, that sort of thing takes time. Even though you had been talking to him all summer, it's different when you haven't actually spent time in person with someone. He should have understood that and been accommodating in order for you to eventually open up to him.
That's not something he should have gotten angry at you for. I would say to just take this as a blessing in disguise. Clearly this guy wasn't right for you since he was so pushy and mean about something as trivial as you being shy. You deserve much better. I'm sure you're upset and that's understandable, but really, none of this is your fault so don't blame yourself.3