So last night, my boyfriend of nearly 4 years broke up with me because “our life paths are different, he wants to focus on his business and feels that I’m weighing him down.” He tried breaking up with me before in January and i managed to talk him out of it, asking why he felt that way. We sat down and did a 5 year plan, one that we agreed on everything, showing that our goals are similar. I also asked him how I could be a better girlfriend and I have been actively working on it, by being more patient and checking in on him.
A thing that bothers me he has talked about breaking up after coming back from California for work, which he meets his guy friend who I’m not a big fan of (and I’m not alone. Even his best friends don’t like the guy.)
I talked to his best friend and he said that my ex is having tunnel syndrome, he is being blindsided because he wants to reach his dream of building his own company, which I’ve been very supportive about, so I don’t feel that I’m weighing him down.
his best friend also explained to me that my ex thinks that he can’t worry about me and he wants to put all his effort and concentration into the business. I feel as if this is counterproductive as I want to help him and if he sees me moving on with my life, and we still love each other, wouldn’t that make it harder for him? He is now alone in our big townhouse and he has no one to help him.
another thing I wanted to add in is that this past Monday, we had a disagreement as my ex wanted us to move in with his colleague that no one likes. He wanted us to share an apartment with him for 6 months and perhaps I said it wrong, but I would’ve been open to 6 months if he was willing to help make it more comfortable for me, as like I said, I don’t like the guy and the guy doesn’t clean.
looking for some insight. I have been doing no contact for the past 24 hours. Wanting to text him in the morning about talking about the breakup and also need to pick up our cat.
