Here's my view on what I feel needs to happen. First off, you need to take in the fact that you've must have been not trusting him for a long time. I don't think it's been a few times, it must have been for awhile, or he wouldn't have been this hard on you. To a certain degree I think both of your need to grow up a little. He needs to understand that it's a 2 year relationship, and there's a lot of time invested, and he can't just throw all that away. Secondly, you've gone through a lot, even though it shouldn't have any relevance to his trust. But it does show why you didn't trust him. We all have things from our past, and present time in which it affects our reaction to people. Meaning you might have had some feelings from the breakup of your family, saw things, and even felt things that you may have been feeling in your own relationship, that could have been turned into what you may have thought was going on, but in reality wasn't happening. Thridly, and I'd hate to go off on your boyfriend, but he needs to talk lake a grownup, and work some of these things out. It's pretty obvious your completly in the wrong, and have a lot of trust issues you need to work on, but that doesn't mean you both can't work these out. Again, it's a two year relationship, and that's got account for something.
As far as for you, rather than trying to talk, I'd be putting a lot of emphasis on apologizing for what has happened. Sometimes people can't see sense, because there so hurt over what has happened, and it does take time to heal. And at that point, I can understand why you two aren't living with each other. He needs time away to think things through, but in a judge advocate role in which I see both sides, he needs to start to grow a pair, and work these issues out. Even though he might be stubborn, and feel bad about himself, because you didn't trust him. It's obvious you care about him, and understand what has happened, and now have put yourself out of your family's problems, and back into your life, and that's exactly what the core issue is all about. And that needs to be addressed... There doesn't need to be any discussions, or fights in which he's screaming at you. It sounds like you need to hear him, rather than him seeing any sense. And as far as reading that, it sounds like you two have been arguing back, and forth, and that's why I've said, "emphasis on apologizing". Sometimes we have to put forth, and be humble, and take what there saying, rather than getting into screaming matches... Anyway I hope I've put forth some things that might help your next encounter with your boyfriend. My advice is to sit down, shut up, and listen, and sometimes that's the best way to fix things that have been broken.
Most Helpful Opinions
You blew it.
It's over.
You need to accept that.
It's over.
He told you exactly what would happen. You did it anyway. Now you live with the consequences.
You will never convince him otherwise. And even trying, will just annoy him further.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
1Opinion
Well you have to trust him, you can't really be in a relationship without it. Your how old? That divorce between your parents shouldn't even affect you.
Learn more
Most Helpful Opinions