Boyfriend broke up with me because I didn't trust him, but I don't want to, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me at the worst possible time. We haven't been getting along or a few months although we Le each other. Late last year he home my trust by telling a massive Le, since then I have found it hard to completely trust him and because I am going through a stressful time with my family's divorce and work I sometimes accuse him of things or he jealous when I know deep down it isn't true. He warned me a few weeks ago if I happened again he'd leave, I don't know if I believed him, we were so close. To make matters worse I've just moved into his house s month ago so we haven't had time to adjust yet and now he doesn't want me anymore? He said I pushed him away and it's all my fault and that he needs to be on his own and focus on him. He said I made him feel bad about himself, but I never really did I was very supportive. He is quite insecure about himself even though he's gorgeous. Whenever I try and talk to him or make him see sense he screams at me and won't listen. He's very stubborn and I'm worried he won't want me back or will hook up with someone else. He deleted me off his Facebook relationship status and hanged his picture to him on hs own.I love this man more than anything in the world and want a future with him, I'm 100% on that and I'm ready to put the past behind us and move out but he s adamant he won't. Please help I'm defeated, crying non stop and can't eat or sleep.

[Gustafsone12584]

Here's my view on what I feel needs to happen. First off, you need to take in the fact that you've must have been not trusting him for a long time. I don't think it's been a few times, it must have been for awhile, or he wouldn't have been this hard on you. To a certain degree I think both of your need to grow up a little. He needs to understand that it's a 2 year relationship, and there's a lot of time invested, and he can't just throw all that away. Secondly, you've gone through a lot, even though it shouldn't have any relevance to his trust. But it does show why you didn't trust him. We all have things from our past, and present time in which it affects our reaction to people. Meaning you might have had some feelings from the breakup of your family, saw things, and even felt things that you may have been feeling in your own relationship, that could have been turned into what you may have thought was going on, but in reality wasn't happening. Thridly, and I'd hate to go off on your boyfriend, but he needs to talk lake a grownup, and work some of these things out. It's pretty obvious your completly in the wrong, and have a lot of trust issues you need to work on, but that doesn't mean you both can't work these out. Again, it's a two year relationship, and that's got account for something.

As far as for you, rather than trying to talk, I'd be putting a lot of emphasis on apologizing for what has happened. Sometimes people can't see sense, because there so hurt over what has happened, and it does take time to heal. And at that point, I can understand why you two aren't living with each other. He needs time away to think things through, but in a judge advocate role in which I see both sides, he needs to start to grow a pair, and work these issues out. Even though he might be stubborn, and feel bad about himself, because you didn't trust him. It's obvious you care about him, and understand what has happened, and now have put yourself out of your family's problems, and back into your life, and that's exactly what the core issue is all about. And that needs to be addressed... There doesn't need to be any discussions, or fights in which he's screaming at you. It sounds like you need to hear him, rather than him seeing any sense. And as far as reading that, it sounds like you two have been arguing back, and forth, and that's why I've said, "emphasis on apologizing". Sometimes we have to put forth, and be humble, and take what there saying, rather than getting into screaming matches... Anyway I hope I've put forth some things that might help your next encounter with your boyfriend. My advice is to sit down, shut up, and listen, and sometimes that's the best way to fix things that have been broken.

[Belgie]

You blew it.

It's over.

You need to accept that.

It's over.

He told you exactly what would happen. You did it anyway. Now you live with the consequences.

You will never convince him otherwise. And even trying, will just annoy him further.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Well you have to trust him, you can't really be in a relationship without it. Your how old? That divorce between your parents shouldn't even affect you.

[Asker]

27. I got very badly caught in the middle of the divorce. Stupid thing is I do trust him!

[Xx_DRE_xX]

haha what's with women?