I'm a good person that is all about making real friends and being a good loyal friend to all... I'm not all that shy, I'm good-looking and I'm a cool guy with a lot of talents, I have a job, I have a lot to offer in terms of friendship and a relationship...
I'm 19 in college, and I'm pretty mature for my age, I never tried to conform to the ways of my high school, and now college aged peers. I'm not into drugs or drinking (drinking since I'm underage)... SO I never tried to be the popular "it" guy. The thing is, girls don't ever seem to want to date a guy like me, or not even with dating, but I've tried to just be friends with a girl one time and she ignored me after I tried to get in touch with her again... Friends never really invite me to hang out with them...
I just end up spending most of my time with my family. I didn't go away to college, so I'm not around my peers (something that I think I could really use) but I didn't have the money to go away. SO I'm stuck at home for another couple years.
I feel as though no one understands me, or cares much about me. It causes me a lot of pain to feel unwanted even as a friend seemingly. I have the world to give, the best intentions... In terms of relationships I just look for a companion, someone to love and care about, I'm not looking for sex. I'm all about waiting for that...
I just wish someone could understand and appreciate me for being the good guy, with a good head on his shoulders, and everything, but I don't feel appreciated or understood whatsoever by my peers. I've never been on a date before, never had a GF... I cry a lot because I just don't feel like I belong. I don't know why or how things got like this... In high school I felt like I had so many friends and we were all close and cool with each other, but once school ended it seems like a lot of them don't really care for me at all deep down.
I just feel so lonely and sad and depressed even sometimes. Totally misunderstood... I don't know if its the same for other so called "good guys" but this one really is in a lot a pain and I have absolutely no understanding as to why... I wish I knew someone actually cared or tried and made the effort to understand me. Especially a girl. If I could just spend some time with a great girl and cared for me and actually loved me, someone to feel close to and someone I could hold and love back.
But also just knowing I actually had some real friends would be nice.
Does anyone feel the same as I do? I don't even know what to really do with myself anymore. I mean I guess I have to keep going but I can't go forever like this. I wish things would get better. :'(
Thanks for reading... Any advice would be greatly appreciated...
I'm 19 in college, and I'm pretty mature for my age, I never tried to conform to the ways of my high school, and now college aged peers. I'm not into drugs or drinking (drinking since I'm underage)... SO I never tried to be the popular "it" guy. The thing is, girls don't ever seem to want to date a guy like me, or not even with dating, but I've tried to just be friends with a girl one time and she ignored me after I tried to get in touch with her again... Friends never really invite me to hang out with them...
I just end up spending most of my time with my family. I didn't go away to college, so I'm not around my peers (something that I think I could really use) but I didn't have the money to go away. SO I'm stuck at home for another couple years.
I feel as though no one understands me, or cares much about me. It causes me a lot of pain to feel unwanted even as a friend seemingly. I have the world to give, the best intentions... In terms of relationships I just look for a companion, someone to love and care about, I'm not looking for sex. I'm all about waiting for that...
I just wish someone could understand and appreciate me for being the good guy, with a good head on his shoulders, and everything, but I don't feel appreciated or understood whatsoever by my peers. I've never been on a date before, never had a GF... I cry a lot because I just don't feel like I belong. I don't know why or how things got like this... In high school I felt like I had so many friends and we were all close and cool with each other, but once school ended it seems like a lot of them don't really care for me at all deep down.
I just feel so lonely and sad and depressed even sometimes. Totally misunderstood... I don't know if its the same for other so called "good guys" but this one really is in a lot a pain and I have absolutely no understanding as to why... I wish I knew someone actually cared or tried and made the effort to understand me. Especially a girl. If I could just spend some time with a great girl and cared for me and actually loved me, someone to feel close to and someone I could hold and love back.
But also just knowing I actually had some real friends would be nice.
Does anyone feel the same as I do? I don't even know what to really do with myself anymore. I mean I guess I have to keep going but I can't go forever like this. I wish things would get better. :'(
Thanks for reading... Any advice would be greatly appreciated...
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I guess what I'm trying to say... In my experience, it's not easy being the "good guy" :(
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