Guys, Would you be ok with a private relationship if the girl wanted it?

[CAPLOVE]

[Anonymous]

It depends on what it’s for. If she’s 16 like yourself w an older man than no. If she’s cheating on her coffers boyfriend I’d say no to that as well. It all just depends on why.

[CAPLOVE]

It's becuse I want my business to be mine. And whenever girls know I'm dating a guy they try to poison the well or steal him from me.

[Opinion Owner]

Than I think I’d be ok w that.

[ShadowYamihiro]

Nope, might indulge her for 2-3 weeks but after that its either public you goodbye, for those 2-3 week, i don't really consider that a relationship but i won't cheat on h er or anything. I'm faithful type of person and always will be

[CAPLOVE]

Good

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Nope, I'm not 17 anymore. Or at least, if someone wanted one, I'd know immediately that relationship is about one thing and one thing only at that point.

[CAPLOVE]

What one thing? I'm 16 so if you were around my age would you

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I went through a lot of phases at that age and with hindsight 2020 vision. I can say that unless I was really THAT into the girl; and at that age if I was it was usually because I wasn't thinking RATIONALLY, or I just wanted to have sex and never really wanted a relationship in the first place. Especially with someone who isn't proud to be dating me.

If you really love a guy and want to explore spending the rest of your life with them, why would you care what anyone besides he thinks about you?

[bowenw]

I assume that means a secret relationship. I would be okay with it, but sooner or later someone will find out about it.

[CAPLOVE]

Secreate and private mean two different things. In a secreate relationship nobody knows you are dating/talking to that person you also never post about them. In a private relationship you keep everything between the two of you and the only people that know are people you choose. You also hide each others faces in your posts.

[CAPLOVE]

Would you be weirded out if a girl never told her friends about you and you never met them? Because I would let him tell whoever he wanted I just would like to choose who I want to tell and don't want are relationship to be super public. I just want everything to be between us

[bowenw]

I'm a private person so it would not bother me if the girl never told her friends or posted anything about our relationship. It may bother some guys.

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, How do you know what type of guy he is? Like how do you ask?

[bowenw]

You may be able to tell by what he posts on his socials. If he doesn't even have any or doesn't include any pics of himself he may be a private person. I think the best way is to get to know him first then just ask.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, thanks

[bowenw]

Best of luck finding what you are looking for

[CAPLOVE]

Thank you

[MementoMori777]

Yea but id like to know the reason why and it would partially depend on that

[CAPLOVE]

It's becuse I want my business to be mine. And whenever girls know I'm dating a guy they try to poison the well or steal him from me.

[MementoMori777]

Then that sounds like a valid reason young sapling, if your guy is fine with it then it shouldn't really be a problem, it all depends on the intentions and your reasoning seems valid and understandable.

[CAPLOVE]

Thanks, whew i'm glad you think it's ok

[MementoMori777]

👍👍👍

[Z1pTD]

Yeah I'm fine with it if there's a good reason. It's happened lol

[CAPLOVE]

It's becuse I want my business to be mine. And whenever girls know I'm dating a guy they try to poison the well or steal him from me. It's happened to you? explain

[Z1pTD]

Yeah that's very fair. I can elaborate, but I'd prefer not to share it with everyone. Is it okay if I DM you the info?

[CAPLOVE]

yeah go ahead

[CAPLOVE]

I hate how everyone needs to know and everyone is so bragy yk. Like why does everyone need to know

[Z1pTD]

Okay thanks

[Z1pTD]

Yeahhh. . . it doesn't seem super smart to me. It's almost like going oh I have a boyfriend/girlfriend for the purpose of showing them off. It's kinda pointless.

[Z1pTD]

I can't DM you because you aren't following me and you have DMs set to following only.
If you DM me that should work.

[CAPLOVE]

EXACTLY!! Did you DM me

[CAPLOVE]

K, I'll follow you and DM ya

[Z1pTD]

thanks

[Freyke]

I would have to know the reason.

[CAPLOVE]

It's becuse I want my business to be mine. And whenever girls know I'm dating a guy they try to poison the well or steal him from me.

[Mansearching]

Of course. I'm in one now.

[CAPLOVE]

coool. I'm glad to hear that. Can you explain how your relationship works

[Mansearching]

Our business is our business. No one knows if we're in a relationship unless we tell you (in general). If you see us together out in about then thats different. We can't help that. If we're having problems then its between us, no one else.
Common sense stuff.

[CAPLOVE]

I love that!!

[Mansearching]

👌👍

[Charliefretz329]

What does that mean? Like secret? Maybe

[CAPLOVE]

A private relationship is a more exclusive form of relationship where two people are committed to one another. The only people who know about their relationship are those close to them and they usually don't talk about it with others. You also don't show each others faces on social media

[Charliefretz329]

Too confusing, I’m out.

But maybe if it’s just a “friends” situation…

Nah I’m too open and honest to hide things

[CAPLOVE]

haha, ok. Well, you like dating. Like you go out and stuff. It's just like not everyone knows

[Charliefretz329]

I don’t feel the need to talk too much about my love life to those it doesn’t matter to but I’m not exactly secretive. That just seems like she’s got too many secrets of her own to hide to ask it of me

[AimeeKyle]

No issues for me.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[CAPLOVE]

I'm trying to say is how would you want a girl to ask you to keep your relationship private?

[Bigjake1995]

Yes why

[CAPLOVE]

It's becuse I want my business to be mine. And whenever girls know I'm dating a guy they try to poison the well or steal him from me.

[Bigjake1995]

Really?

[Bigjake1995]

Who?

[CAPLOVE]

What do you mean?

[Bigjake1995]

Maybe I’m just confused sorry

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would.

[CAPLOVE]

Why would you be? And how would you want a girl to ask for one?

[CAPLOVE]

Does that question make sense?

[Opinion Owner]

If I really liked the girl, I would do almost anything to make her happy. Including keeping our relationship private.

[CAPLOVE]

I'm glad you would do that. We need more boys like you

[Opinion Owner]

If a boy loves a girl he'll do almost anything for her to make her happy