"I genuinely see them as family and I’ve known them since high school. It’s been 10 years. If something was going to happen, it would’ve happened by now."
I know you believe that, and that on YOUR end it's just platonic, but I'd bet you 10:1 that some/most of your guy friends would bang you inside of 5 minutes if you offered. The only reason nothing has happened is because YOU make sure it doesn't - NOT because they aren't interested.
The vast majority of men see sex the way a mouse sees cheese: they're going to get it whenever the opportunity presents itself, AND they're going to do whatever they can to increase their opportunities. Just because they "behave" when you're in the room or when you are looking doesn't mean they aren't thinking about it. And often they'll hang around, hoping to catch you at a weak moment - when you're lonely, or when you have a fight with your boyfriend, or when you're depressed and just want to feel good - and you'll give in.
And here's the thing: every guy knows full well that this is what guys do - in most cases, it's what THEY themselves do - and so guys know better than to trust other guys with their girl. They know that they can't count on the guy AT ALL to prevent cheating from happening - and they know girls all have weak moments on occasion, and if that weak moment happens when the other guy is around, all bets are off.
I've known a guy who hung around his "friend" for 16 years, until she got in a huge fight with her mom and was feeling sad and wanted to be comforted, and to no one's surprise, she ended up sleeping with him. That's exactly what happens - it usually just doesn't take that long.
Most women simply can't grasp the concept that men prioritize sex over everything else when it comes to relationships with women - and all that that implies! - because women prioritize relationships over sex, but you cannot apply women's priorities to men, because men simply don't work that way.
That's why men almost universally say they can't be "just friends" with girls, even though girls usually think they can be "just friends" with the guy.
absolutely! As long as she sets boundaries with those guys, especially the guy friends that has feelings for her then I'm good.(Every girl with guy friends has those guys with feelings...)
ohh and if her guy friends are actually cool and not total dicks then I'd be even more open about her friendship.
I wouldn't be with a girl that I dont dont.
Yeah, sure. As long as the boundaries are set and the guy friend doesn't try to cross them, it's all good.
You wouldn't be my girlfriend. Someone else can be your sucker.
Of course but there are boundaries that will be set.
If you were already friends with them before, then I have no problem with it. I'd feel more weird about it if she was developing a friendship with a guy while we were in a relationship
No because guys don’t want to be just friends. They are just waiting for an opportunity to get with her.
It's fine for my to be girlfriend to have guy friends but of course if she only has guy friends I probably wouldn't like that.
Yea I'm fine as long as she sets boundaries and doesn't hide anything.
Of course. Just coz she’s dating, doesn’t mean she can’t socialise with other guys anymore
Nothing wrong with that
It depends on the guy
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