What is the best advice related to relationships that you can give to someone?

[Anonymous]

Having a long healthy relationship

[teamvic]

Hmmm I'd say try your best to not let that honey moon phase go away
And also be yourself forsure

So many people send their representatives of themselves to dates and in the beginning of relationship to catch them. So for example let's say I'm tryna get a girl. Obviously ima try my best to show off the good things about me. And not so much my flaws. So what happens for a lot of people now that they got the girl or guy slowly but surely their true selves and what they're comfortable doing starts showing again. That's why so many people always say, " they weren't like this in the beginning " or "he's changed" when in reality they never changed they just got comfortable enough to finally show how they really are. Now back to my original point about keeping thst honey moon phase going because it ties into this. People say it's natural for honeymoon phases to come and go but what's happening is each person is trying their best to make the other happy, to impress the other and "catch them" and it does work, that's why its always the peak of the relationship because both are putting in effort. Like buying the girl flowers, cooking him food , WHATEVER, my point is after a while once they see they've got them the effort slowly starts declining, and then that's how girls start wondering if the guy still loves them or when he wonders if she cares cause she ain't randomly sucking him off or she doesn't tell him she loves him as much as she used to🤔😂. My point I'm trying to make is. There's only one person you need to make happy romantically. So why should you stop making the effort to let them know how much you care about them? Or how much they mean to you?

Oh and also communication. if either has a problem. No matter how small, be sure to express how you feel. And together discuss howto fix it. Do all that and theoretically that relationship should last😌

[Asker]

I did that🥲 I'm very passionate person, i write him sweet text messages, bought him gifts that he likes, gave him space, told him to go out with his friends to enjoy his time etc etc . In the end he told me he felt trapped, and we broke up. Now he contact me and says he misses me and wanna meet , and in the same time he is in a relationship with a girl. ( we have been together for 5 years). I don't understand him, he's confusing me.

[teamvic]

You just didn't have the right person. You did all that but it seems he didn't.

Also it explains why he says he misses you while in a relationship, he probably saw what you were doing was way better than what the other girl is

You're just gonna have to find that right guy. But i guess that's easier said than done. Everyone's been trying to do that

[Nxtawm]

Great advice, basically what I had in mind too but now I don’t need to write it

[teamvic]

Thanks buddy

[BoopBoopBeep]

Don't be someone different up front. Better for them to hate you for who you are than like you for who you're not, and you'll never keep the facade up forever

[jennifer_bloom]

This is counsel that people might find too burdensome to use but what people say is - chase your health and your personality growth and your pay cheque and education and your house keeping skills and a guy will fall into your lap when you are strong enough to deal with it.

Cause I know girls who work at their careers and their health and they never read dating books or buy cosmetic make up but they always have endless guys who want to date them.

My cousin was an outcast in her teenage years and would work out like crazy cause she thought a thin body was her future ticket to marriage and a few years later, she was the cream of the crop when it came to being attractive to popular guys at school and it never ended. She was attractive to men til the day she got married.

[sheenagwapa]

I don't know if this is even good but i'm really expressive of what i feel especially when it comes to romantic relationship. i think that's why i'm addicted to romantic relationship is because with SO i can be myself and the most comfortable with SO. with my ex i am so comfortable then i meet T and A ( these are not my romantic partners) i find them menopausal tbh i feel like they need some chill pill ibut i am suler duper ultra uber grateful to them. but my soulmate is A who i owe a lot.

[ManOnFire]

Don't have conflict with your partner. It really is a must. I know a lot of people seem to think couple's arguing/fighting is healthy or is supposed to happen, but I don't really believe that. It's one thing for two people to squabble over something dumb in the grocery store, or how one partner wants to decorate this or that, but these are minor head butts most couples will have. What I'm talking about is major conflict because one person is unhappy and wants to tear the other person's world apart, or take something out on them.

Do not do it.

It's simple. Live in peace with each other as much as possible. Don't do things to manipulate the other, get under their skin, or use their weaknesses against them. That's not love, and if you're doing these things to the person you're supposed to be devoted to, then you don't really love them.

[Dboy97]

I think the thing that gets missed a lot in relationships between everyone, friends, family, and partners, is to remember that this person is your ally and not your enemy when there is a disagreement. Everyone has fights eventually, even couples, the trick to not leaving damage that will accumulate over time is to remember IN THE MOMENT that it’s you 2 vs the issue and not vs each other, and just as important, let the other person know you are aware of that.


There are several ways to do this. For example, say you’re having an argument over something and it’s a very cut and dry issue where the other person did something wrong and you’re arguing about it. A lot of times people won’t admit they’re wrong simply because they’re feeling attacked and it’s an instinct. Saying something mid argument like “look, I love you to death, but when you do this/did this, it made me feel x” can completely change the tone. Another example would be, say you and a loved one are having a disagreement about a topic or plan or something and it’s heated. As soon as you realize it’s getting heated, stop dead in your tracks and insist the person hug you before you will continue. It breaks the negative energy build up and forces the person on an emotional level to remember that they love you and vice versa. Worst case scenario say it’s just one of those really bad disagreements and you don’t catch it until you’re both super pissed and you don’t think a hug is enough…. Insist that you continue the discussion while hugging. Sounds absurd but I promise you, it can work wonders to deescalate and help you guys find a solution.


Point being, in times of conflict, remember the person is your loved one, and remind them that you love them no matter how mad you are, and do something (like a hug) to remind them they love you too.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Remember to be empathetic, be careful not to immediately assume something is what it seems on the surface, remember to be a team.

Also don't let the relationship become ridgid, do fun stuff, switch things up every once in a while. Space apart like going out with friends from work allows you to have stuff to talk about as you grow together.

I always find it helpful when things aren't going so great to remember that all my relationships were the happiest and most productive when we were two best friends trying to have a good time enjoying life together. That's really all a healthy romantic relationship really is I think.

[Yannae]

I will never be able to match teamvic in volume. I can try with pointers.

Avoid misunderstandings, insecurities and fights by simply talking to your partner. Is there something you want to know about him? Just reach out and ask.

Relationships are giving and taking. You can't expect to get love if you don't give it. Your partner may have a different love language too. Find out what makes your partner happy. How he shows his affection to you.

Relationships take hard work. Don't give up if there is a fight, try to resolve it. Some fights aren't worth breaking up over.

[Dargil]

To women.
Do not give yourself away as a party favor. Let fondness and familiarity build before you move into sexual intimacy. Giving PIV sex away in the first few dates almost guarantees there won't be more. Consider the 10-date rule (or maybe 6 or 8)

6-10 public-venue dates where he provides the arrangements, cost and transportation before you do the deed.

[OfMiceandMen]

Always take time out for the two of you. The kids can stay home with friends, a sitter, or family once in awhile. It's in their best interest and yours to spend some quality time together to keep your relationship healthy.

[Spongebobssocks]

Open communication. If you need time to gather your thoughts say that. If your partner is upset about something you think its dumb try to be understanding. Communicate your needs.

[ShadowYamihiro]

Key ingredients are : communication, honesty, faithfulness. Without those 3 any relationship is doomed to fail sooner or later

[Anonymous]

Controlling your anger, and being aware of what you say during a big argument. Saying hurtful things, name calling, shaming your partner, yelling and cussing to them when you’re angry is something that should never happen. A lot of people end up doing that even if they dont mean it and they can't take any of it back. It will be in your partner’s head for the rest of your relationship, if there’s still going to be one.

[thatshydork]

Talk things out. Communication is key to any relationship, not just the romantic ones.

[Anonymous]

You mean beyond choosing the right partner to begin with?

Because this is where MOST women fail. You cannot build a level house on a crooked foundation.

After choosing the right partner the best advice I can give is the 2 case communication and compromise.

[Anonymous]

Do not expect them to act like someone they are not.

[Kaamraj]

For men, to not lose their leverage and always know their self worth and never tolerate disrespect.

[inhua]

speak to your grandparents if they are still alive and together

[Paris13]

Trust and No Jealous and Open Communication or it is Doomed. xxoo

[CubsterShura]

Dating life will become much more enjoyable when you accept that rejections are normal.

[CubsterShura]

Oh and I do believe it helps with having a healthy relationship because you don't settle due to fear or rejection/feeling guilty to reject.

[Vegasrunner]

It's actually something I recently learned.

Women view men the way men view jobs.

Men view women the way women view money.

[Iron_Man]

Compromise. Always appreciate each other. Come up with clever ideas make different kind of date plans travel together.

[Ava1993]

For me it’s to communicate communication is key keeps trust.

[coachTanthony]

Don't settle.