What is generally your opinion of girls with resting bitch faces?

[Anonymous]

I am one of those who pretty much always has a serious resting bitch face. 😂

Do such people intimidate others and so people are afraid to befriend us or make conversation with us?

[Ozanne]

I do not like the term 'resting bitch face'. This is a sexist implication that a woman cannot simply be 'rested' without coming across as a bitch, something that men seem to get away with, but women cannot. It suggests that women must appear pleasing at all times because if we don't, we appear to be in worse shape than the men. Words matter. Women do not owe it to anyone to put on a smile if they simply don't feel like it, while their resting face is no more resting than a man's.

Women have come to be expected to be approachable, friendly, and pleasant looking, all expectations made by men. While it is meant to poke fun at women to call them a bitch, to look uninterested is equated with being bitchy, something we certainly are not if we're just sitting still, with no expression.

I personally have learned to not look at a woman's expression and assume she is a bitch, any more than I see a man's expression and assume he's a bitch either. We do not owe it to others, especially men, to make sure we are presented as willing happy women when there are times we just simply don't feel anything at all, and have no actual reason to have smiles plastered on our faces.

I'm sure your own resting face is just fine, and has no more implications about your character than anyone simply trying to guess who you are, when they don't know you at all. I'd be happy to see the term RBF retired, and we just go back to expression our emotions--or not--without worrying what someone might be thinking of us.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"This is a sexist implication that a woman cannot simply be 'rested' without coming across as a bitch"

That's not how the term is used or meant, but I think you know that. Most women can be rested without coming across as a bitch, it is the fact that the anomaly exists that it HAS a name. If all rested women had RBF we'd just call it "face."

[Ozanne]

@BoopBoopBeep I don't agree. There is still no defense on why a woman's facial expression when rested needs to be described with a negative connotation, yet there is no equal one for men? The term was coined first as a joke, and has just remained in our culture as a jab at women to be conscious of her looks--even when relaxed. I did my own research, and you are welcome to do the same on how the term came to be, and why it's considered sexist.

[zagor]

You don't seem to understand what RBF is; some women have a natural expression that projects negativity. Think Rihanna, a classic case of RBF.

[Asker]

I think when people say RBF they mean more like when you have a very stern and serious slightly angry look. Like it just looks like you don’t want to be bothered - it is basically a stern/straight face. It’s good because it tends to keep unwanted people away. I just wanted to know what people think when they see people with duch a stern face. My face is naturally stern in public settings. I only smile around family and close friends or if I am daydreaming but if I break out of a daydream and catch anyone looking I become stern again immediately unless it’s a nice lady smiling then I’ll smile back but if it is some man I’ll be stern and serious. That is partly my conditioning and partly nature.

[Ozanne]

@zagor And men don't?

[Ozanne]

@zagor What is it when men have resting faces? Resting Asshole Face? That's not even a thing. I certainly have written what RBF is, and why it's sexist. I already wrote out what the expression denotes.

[zagor]

Yeah, some men have a natural mean face. I had a friend in college who was about 6'6, 270 with a face only a mother could love, scary to look at but one of the nicest guys you could meet. But men are usually expected to do the approaching, and for a woman a natural GTFO expression can be a major hindrance to meeting guys.

[Ozanne]

@Sarahr123 I know very well what it means. I don't require being schooled. What I'm saying is that it's become a sexist way to identify women's expressions and how people think women ought to be mindful of it, whereas men do not have this same issue. They do not get accused of "resting bitch face" because the word "bitch" is meant to insult women, not men. And there is no such term as "resting asshole face", because men aren't held to the same expectation to look pleasant at all times.

But I see your topic is clearly meant more for people to look at your picture and give you their thoughts on how you look. I have decidedly taken a step to point out that the "resting bitch face" term is sexist, and whether or not you choose to smile is not reliant on what other expect of you, but, when this issue is not the case for men.

[zagor]

Just not smiling is not RBF. Most women, people in fact, have a somewhat neutral expression.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"the face, when rested" is not what resting bitch face means. There MUST be an angry/stern/joyless look associated with it for it to be RBF. Men get called douchebags, women do not. There's a whole lot out there that doesn't apply to both sexes that seem pretty inconsequential.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Also, who said men don't get called bitches?

[ta-ra]

I have RBF. People always tell me they are so surprised to find how nice I am. They often tell me I'm Intimidating. I don't mean to look mean it's just I always have a billion things I'm thinking about. I don't have a poker face either. Lol

[KostasKouvalis]

Are you kidding me? I've seen girls with far worse resting bitch face, then yours. You just need to smile more and do better poses.

I could say I'm a little hesitant, yes. But I've talked to you in PM and have seen some of your posts and your face does sort of match your attitude. LOL But I've seen many resting bitch girls like this.

You are very beautiful though, and I know you're capable of smiling and looking goofy in your pics :)

[zillllll]

You never know who they are until you speak to them, I have a resting I don’t fuck with y’all face so it’s none new.

[Pinay_ako]

Pretty much. I now smile more coz I don’t want people to avoid me 😂 and I feel better when I smile!

[TipsyFr]

I try as much as I can to avoid spending time with people who bring me down. Time is too precious, If you seem like talking to you will be a pain I’m not going to attempt it. I’ve stopped initiating meetups or inviting people to events when they start to turn sour. It’s different with long time or close friends obviously but yeah if you look your going to bring me down before I’ve even met you I’m not going to ✌️

[sheenagwapa]

i have a resting bitch face but the people i am with alwsys like my classmates before for instance know that i sm friendly. it's just that i have a boyfriend before and he is my world and i was beinh OA so i didn't spend much time with them a d spend it all with my ex.

[Lyndsielee666]

It’s definitely hard for me to make friends Lmfao even in college people told me I looked like I was mean so they avoided me

[BoopBoopBeep]

We're not intimidated, we're just going to pass you by for the person that doesn't have it.

I'm not intimidated by eggplant, I just don't care for it, so I don't buy it at the store.

[Asker]

That’s not the point. Some of us make it a point to look unfriendly and unapproachable.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Great. Good for you. That changes nothing I said. I don't care WHY you're doing it, I'm still passing you by for the person that doesn't have/do it. If that was your intent then we both win :)

[Asker]

Why do you think I would care if you passed by and whatever your reason would be for it? I think men these days give themselves too much importance. I am not dying for your attention love. 😩

This is exactly why I believe in exclusivity - it leaves no room for misunderstandings.

[Pegases]

Women with resting bitch face aren't intimidating to me. They just appear anti social, which simply deosnt invite interactions from others, irregardless of gender.

[Anonymous]

More or less yes. Since guys assume you're a bitch, chances are you develop bitchy behavior. Since you intimidate good guys, only bad guys are interested in you. So, why to be friend of a maybe bitch?

It doesn't apply to ALL girls, but there are good odds. Of course, if you are nice and lovable, people will understand it: it is jot an unavoidable issue.

Giod luck!

[YesterdaysChild]

Who has a resting bitch face?

[lightbulb27]

Its not an rbi, its a broken heart.


Takes a special high energy person to tolerate constant negativity.

[TallAnon]

It's not intimidating, you just don't seem worth talking to. We'd rather talk to someone who seems friendly.. Because they seem like they will be more friendly. It's pretty simple, haha

[DryGermanGuy]

"No Rest for the Wicked." :-D

- Biblical proverb

[catarecute]

i pull that face on purpose when i want people to leave me alone.

[MisterTee]

I personally get scared... Like I do NOT want to trigger her. LOL

[Cheerfull009]

I have seen many post by you and we have been in contact with each through messages, you are nice, beautiful girl, having Indian roots but now in UK

[Asker]

What do you mean now in the UK? I was born and bred in London. If I have ever spoken to you then you would know my family been in the UK for four generations.

[Cheerfull009]

@Sarahr123, I did not say, how long you are in UK, sorry, may I have mistaken the username of that user, extremely sorry for misunderstanding

[Asker]

Yes because we don’t have a chat history so I was very confused

[Cheerfull009]

@Sarahr123, thank you, be relaxed

[Lokiion]

They look pretty to me also they not intimidating from my experience most of them are pretty chill people

[loveslongnails]

I go more by the vibe than the RBF, unless it's SO bitchy looking that it scares me away!

[ThebestIndian]

I don’t actually think anything. Because, they if ur open up and stay close with those they like instead of that resting bitch face. If they are the same with everyone, that would be fucking annoying.

[Starrrboy]

It can be off putting, depends on the girl...

[spartan55]

Women like that are invisible to me. Invisible people don't intimidate me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Who ever started this great "intimidation fallacy" movement has done women a great disservice.

[spartan55]

Agreed. It may just be a poor choice of word (s), but annoying nonetheless. It makes it sound like men are afraid some woman is going to give them a beatdown or something.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"She frowned at me! Alas... then promptly piss ourselves.

[Asker]

If a person is antisocial they don’t want you to interact with them in any way whatsoever. Not even smiling at them. Absolutely nothing. That makes the person appear a million times more serious and the more antisocial you are the more seriously you’re taken in general.

[spartan55]

I don't agree with that at all. Why would I take anyone seriously who won't interact with people?

[Asker]

Because when you give them the time of day you lose your value. You only give people time as and when it suits you. You don’t unnecessarily befriend any Tom, Dick or Harry. If you’re available to anyone and everyone then you have to worth. Exclusivity increases your value.

[spartan55]

So that's really what drives that behavior, the self-perceived exclusivity?

[Asker]

It’s not self-perceived. Jews are exclusive because they don’t mix outside their community. It’s principle.

[spartan55]

So say you are Jewish and you snub another person who unbeknownst to you is also Jewish? Where's the exclusivity fall there?

[KrakenAttackin]

Usually there is a resting bitch behind the RBF.

[andy530]

They are frustrating because they are hard to read lol

[Jennz6]

It doesn’t bother me

[bowenw]

I have never thought that to be an issue.

[Minahh]

I'm one and don't care what people think 😃

[Still-alive]

eh it happens. no big deal

[BLP11520]

Well you have a pretty face

[Asker]

Thank you

[BLP11520]

You are welcome

[balyai]

I'm fine talking as long as they aren't rude.

[abc3643]

I married one.

[abc3643]

And you shouldn't call it resting bitch face because that's actually stupid name. The original name is better and more accurate: bitchy resting face.

This is the original video that created this phrase...
https://youtu.be/3v98CPXNiSk?feature=shared

[MementoMori777]

Eeehhh

[Jkgordon]

Attn seekers