Guys, Have you ever been cheated on?

[MaxUsefull]

Yes

No, never

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+1 y

Apparently, statistically, it is unlikely that a man has ever been cheated on

[Finchie40]

Yes a few times and sadly it fucked me up and made me look at relationships a whole different way from before I was cheated on , I now have walls up protecting my heart from being betrayed and backstabbed again , I learned to focus on myself and realize I can only give what I want
To receive , if a girl chooses to cheat on me or walk away from me I just let her Go and let the other guy have her , I realize she isn’t the girl for me period. It sucks and hurts to lose someone you gave your heart to , but the truth is most people in general are just selfish people , that only really care about themselves and do what they think is best for them , so I keep moving forward , hoping to find a girl that chooses me like I choose her , We can’t force someone to love us and stay loyal to us all we can do is treat them the same way we want to be treated in return , if they choose to cheat or lie that’s something they have to love with and deal with knowing they are a piece of shit and suffer the consequences of Their actions , I no longer tolerate selfish girls’ if a girl has selfish traits and behaviors , she isn’t relationship material to me , she is just something
To do , Basically thank you for a good time but not a long time, Best of luck to you , Don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out , if a girl can’t stay loyal and faithful to me, I sure as hell won’t stay loyal and faithful to her , it needs to go both ways or it will not last long

[MaxUsefull]

That’s sad dude

[Finchie40]

Yes it is sad , but also true for the most part , pretty Much everyone knows cheating is wrong and horrible to do to someone , but sadly a lot of people still do it , whatever the reason might be , it’s still a selfish decision on their part , People should not get into committed relationships with someone if they do not know how to remove selfishness from within themselves first , and don’t know how to resist temptations for their partner as well , but people still do it making excuses for their own selfish actions because they are scared too admit the truth , Most people that cheat are scared to admit the truth when they are busted red handed , they make every excuse they can find for their own selfish behavior, acting like they were this victim when really they are a piece of shit , Most people do not wear their partner’s shoes when it comes to making decisions, They just assume things need to just go their way always , why so many relationships fail these days ,! because most people only really care about what is best for themselves they don’t really care about what is best for their partner, I have been in relationships with girls’ that said They wanted love and happiness and loyalty , a guy that stays loyal to her and stands by her side , I told her I wanted the same , things would be amazing between us until all of a sudden she decides she feels like she is missing out on things or she decides she is bored , and before you know it she is giving herself to another guy that she feels will treat her better , or makes more money then her partner , or has more status then her partner does etc. I am not saying all girls’ do this , but sadly a majority of them do. Instead of fixing what is broken in the relationship they run to someone else thinking they will save them. I have been on both sides of the spectrum and the shot I experienced and witnessed with Girls’s through the years it’s pretty sad , I am not saying guys can’t be assholes as well , I am just

[Finchie40]

Sharing my experiences, When someone can go from being head over heels for you to all of a sudden not interested anymore and starts treating you like shit for no valid reason or starts to not include you like they use to before , that person is more than likely cheating on you or planning to cheat on you if they have no valid reason as to why they are treating you that way all of a sudden , Do not waste anymore of your time with someone that doesn’t prioritize you the same way they expect you to prioritize them , if it doesn’t go both ways and everything becomes one sided , you are best to end it and walk away from them , they are more than likely investing their time into someone else , instead of fixing what is broken with you. kick them to the curb where they belong and move on , Love only grows between 2 people that prioritize each other , if your partner isn’t prioritizing you then they are not the person for you , They no longer value you or appreciate you because they found someone else. A loving partner wants to bring happiness to you not constant misery period. I have slept with married women that likes to me
That they were single , that told me everything I was attracted to , to get
Me in bed , we would have amazing sex to the point I felt like I finally met
An amazing girl to eventually find out she was married or already in a relationship with someone else , Why I no longer give my heart completely to a girl right away until I feel she is really
In it for The long haul and
That she has been nothing but honest with me , Honesty is something that attracts me the most to a girl , If she is honest with me I will be honest with her ,

[XingQi]

Yup.

It was a girl online. I was stupidly naive to think she could possibly grow up and move on from her self-inflicted horrible past.

She was 19 years old at the time, lived with her parents, was high-functioning autistic, and had a bunch of health conditions. At first, she seemed fine. But as time went on, she was beyond childish:

• She cried over not tying a knot correctly
• She thinks she's entitled to an apology being acknowledged
• She assumed I held a long grudge towards her over something petty when I had to study for university
• She pretty much expected me to emotionally babysit her- it felt like that
• She claimed to be "complicated" and an "old soul-" that really was not the case.
• She was needy, dependent on others for a purpose, did not know the basics of how a relationship worked, and thought dating would solve her problems.
• She cheated on me with another guy because I wasn't always there with her and being sexual. I really had bigger priorities than her- my own education.

Fast-forward, we broke up and everything seemed fine. Months later, I made a decision to follow the Lord Yeshua and she got extremely angry and controlling over it. My decision did not even affect her, yet she tried gaslighting me on my happiness, lifestyle, claimed I was labeling others, and items.

She was just nothing more than a spoiled brat to be honest. After seeing dozens and dozens of 18-23 year olds having breakups, seeking validation online, and what not, I knew where she was going. So, I threw her away. I'm sure I dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have, one in my late 20's and again in my 40's in both cases I realised early that the girlfriend was up to something, nothing that I could put my finger on at first, I was an attitude shift in both, not wanting to snuggle/sex, always going somewhere with the 'girl friends' the first one guarding her pager (yes it was that far back) the second guarding her phone like it was the Crown Jewel's lock code changed.

I found out for sure with the first one when I returned home from work. found her and the Affair Partner in bed, I packed and left the same day.

The second one a friend said he'd seen the girlfriend in the lobby of a hotel when she was supposed to be at work, I did a bit of checking (Phone bill, card statements) found out the Who, When, Where, then I employed a PI who only took a couple of days to give a me proof (sight and sound) I took time to clear my belongings from the flat we shared to another flat I found leaving my clothes for last the girlfriend was so far in the affair fog she didn't notice anything missing from the flat. Come move out day she went to work as normal, I packed what clothes I had left in the flat, put the evidence from the PI on the kitchen counter along with a note saying "I hope he was worth it", pinned it down with the keys for the flat, and left making sure the door locked behind me and went to my new flat, then I changed my Phone number closed all of my social media accounts, changed the passwords to my bank accounts, and locked my credit, then told my family what was going on so they knew the whole story for when she called trying to find me, also gave my employer a heads up as to what was going on, they wanted to give me some leave, but I asked if they had a overseas contract that needed to be done, I had 8 month away working which gave me time to get my head straight and with it being a demolition job gave me somewhere to dump my aggression. When I got back there was a letter waiting for me from the Ex containing the usual 'you've got it all wrong' & 'Its not what it looks like', I did not reply to it, it went straight in to the shredder, and I got on with my life.

[FellowTraveler]

ALL European studies regarding infidelity show that women are just as likely as men to cheat on their partner. STOP this naivete' that women are somehow the only aggrieved party in these circumstances.

It has been my observation that a great deal of women on this website ask questions from a woman's perspective entirely. What is remarkable about this website is the ability of men to opine about the same issues, and just as astonishing is when we men indicate that MOST men are affected precisely by the same behavior when a women transgresses; it is justified en masse by women by any multitude of reasons. To the women that read this -please STOP playing both sides of the fence.

We hurt just as much as you - period. Just read the mens opinions below. In closing, this behavior destroys families.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes. I had an ex wife that cheated (which is why she’s my ex). I found a compromising email and that was that. I left without even confronting her. What’s the point of arguing about it?


I also think, sadly, women cheat more than most men think they do. It’s literally beyond easy with offers and opportunity at every turn and women are generally far more capable of being secretive than men.

[Nirmroth]

Oh wow I am suprised how many guys here have made bad experience.

When times were already bad with me and my ex, she told me she was confused about her feelings towards a work colleague. I don't know if that is considered cheating or not.

I personally think not.

[msc545]

That's interesting. It's 70% of the guys that answered this at this point say that they've been cheated on. These are just the guys that know about it. The other 30% don't think they've been cheated on but what they really saying is they haven't caught the girl cheating on them yet. But they will.

[nonyabeez-wax]

All 4 of my serious relationships, including my ex-wife.

Wherever you got that stat from, it has to be fake.

[JustMeQ2]

No. But have witnessed it more than enough times, on both sides.

[MaxUsefull]

It seems that nowadays it is very common unfortunately

[JustMeQ2]

Sadly, yes.

[Tomisworthless]

No thank God im unattractive and creepy relationships would just make me resent women more than I already do

[Unit1]

Pretty sure yes but I can't prove it (nor do I need to). Good riddance to that gold digger.

And who's not getting cheated on these days with toxic social media here to stay?

[exitseven]

I got dumped b a girl who went back with her old boyfriend. I do not know if she cheated on me or not.

[Avery64]

I actually just had that happen last week. If it happened to you I'm sorry man, I am still feeling the pain from mine, I understand.

[slatyb]

not as far as I know. If I was cheated on, it was by my ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Yes, two years ago and I'm still getting over it. It caught me completely offguard. We were engaged when I found out (she did it before I proposed). The silver lining is that I found out before we got married.

[ohmyguy]

But figuring it's like to happen n there's. nothing. i. could have done about it sure doesn't make it more pleasant to. endure..

[FunkyMonkee]

Wasted 10 years of my life being loyal to that bitch!

[SolitarySolace]

Every girl I've ever been in a legit relationship with has cheated on me. Stopped almost 9 years ago

[SolitarySolace]

Stopped having relationships 9 years ago, if that wasn't obvious

[NewgodOmega]

Can you name one guy who was not cheated on

[Pete671]

yes and I loved it,

[MaxUsefull]

Oh gosh 😞

[LiamJHayden]

Not that I know of.

[Sparkie460]

No it has not happened

[Anonymous]

Yes, by two different women.

[MaxUsefull]

🙁🙁

[Anonymous]

No, I haven’t

[Slim57]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully no.