Why do I feel the desire to baby the men I like?

[Anonymous]

Not in a he's my child way but I just feel the strong need to care for someone on a really extreme and not just normal relationship like level. My friends tell me I have I can fix him disease which is true but still it's not the same

I don't like wimp guys at all it's exclusively really manly guys who I feel this way for maybe because I feel they never get to let their guard down? Like recently I was with this hot metal guy who was literally built like a viking dressed in all black and all and who was like 13 years older than me and something just died inside of me again when this huge guy who others perceive as dangerous just fell asleep on my chest like a baby while I scratched his head I held him lol because usually the other guys who I was with are not vulnerable like that. I just want to look after someone I guess, I told my best friends though and they told me I'm crazy lol

What do you think and what could be the reason I am this way

[provokeesmokee]

What's your mom's relationship like with your dad?

Probably, you're just being influenced by the relationships you've seen in your life. Most married men (certain not all, but a statistically significant amount) and certainly most boys in your age range, are quite childlike in their abilities and function.

It's likely your family has a lot of men who display what's called weaponized incompetence. When men are so unable to take care of their own lives that they push responsibility for themselves onto the women in their lives - and many women will naturally think "I can fix/train him" or "he'll get better".

Nope.

That's just how many men are.

[Anonymous]

"... this huge guy who others perceive as dangerous just fell asleep on my chest like a baby"

And therein lies the reason women love bad boys.

[AmeerX]

I think it's because of have come to understand that your man is out there in the cold world

[Emanon25]

You have a sweet heart.

[pickles77]

That’s nice, it sounds intimate