Is it fine If I give my boyfriend the silent treatment tonight?

[Anonymous]

I planned to spend the whole weekend with him, even told my friends I wouldn't see them. He agreed, but now he's seeing his friend on Saturday night. I expressed my hurt, and he claimed we didn't have set plans to go out or go anywhere, but I just wanted to spend time at home with him. But he doesn’t understand it. He thinks we need to go somewhere in order to have a plan.

[Angelo75]

"The silent treatment" means taking away something in a relationship that is supposed to be in a relationship. "Communication".

You can't fix one "problem" in any situation by introducing another "problem".
You're supposed to introduce a "solution".

It's in the direction of a situation where a couple is having a big argument and eventually the man tries to fix the "problem" by introducing "his fist". (extreme example)
This will only get worse because now there are two "problems" in the situation.

Think more about what is supposed to be inside a relationship.
Love, communication, self-sacrificing, warmth, being-there-for-each-other, the list goes long and long.

Also maybe (seeing your age) you're both a bit on the young side.
Making it harder for "both" of you to be in a relationship with the right mindset.
So you'll both be dealing with the "youthness of mind" of each other until you guys mature more and start fully choosing for your relationship instead of choosing for yourself.

[AviatorTom]

You can do whatever you want, but, speaking as a guy, you might want to save the "silent treatment" for a situation where he does something much worse than going out with friends.

[provokeesmokee]

Silent treatment isn't going to help you communicate why you're upset, the difference in your expectations, or how he can avoid this in the future.

Just talk to him honestly.

Listen to what he's saying: he thinks if you don't make plans with a destination, there are no plans. This is obviously not your intention - your plan was stay home all weekend with him (which is a lot, tbh).

Talk to him tonight and tell him explicitly you wanted the whole weekend, at home, with him. Ask if he's willing to cancel on his friend.

Then figure out how you two need to communicate to avoid this sort of problem in the future.

Silent treatment doesn't help either of you one bit. It's just childish, immature, and dramatic.

[LazerBean]

Sounds childish. Either forgive and try to improve future communication, or break up.

[Anonymous]

Giving someone the silent treatment isn't typically a healthy way to address relationship issues. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend about how you feel. Explain your perspective and try to understand his as well. Misunderstandings can happen, and talking it out can lead to a better resolution than silent treatment. It's important to maintain healthy communication in a relationship.

[Longshanks1968]

Grow up and get over it, stupid silent treatment is for children, relationships require communication and most people lack the ability to communicate adequately.
Learn to communicate with him on an adult level and he will likely enjoy spending more time with you.

[TallGuy8383]

In all fairness, you gotta be straight forward with guys. If there weren’t set plans then that gives him free range to make plans. But if you said to him, hey I wanna keep it low key and hang out all weekend, then you sent the message in which he would make note of it.

[BourbonAndBacon]

Giving him the silent treatment could be interpreted as giving him space and that's kinda nice for a guy sometimes. So don't assume your actions will be received in the manner in which it was intended. Just say what you are feeling

[Anonymous]

It’s never good to give the silent treatment, just talk it out

[spartan55]

Yeah, go ahead. See how that works out for ya.

[chrissykerdock]

only if he knows your pains

[jahaims]

Sounds like you are both just poor communicators

[BigDog1989]

The immature, only ever date the immature