Should I give him the silent treatment?

[Anonymous]

I recently told my FWB to stop calling me because I wanted more and he didn't, see the thing is, I've done this many times but I always seem to give in and call him/see him. Should I just give him the silent treatment when I see him and not answer his calls (if he calls). I feel as though the only way to get out of this bad situation is to make him hate me and think I'm a b*tch, and for me to keep thinking badly of him, so I will eventually think that way and not want to get back with him.

[Xentix]

Question you really need to ask yourself is.

Do you want to continue down the path you're going? FWB/No where special

Or do you want a relationship?

If you really like the guy and want something more out of it, it's most likely not going to be with him. Because you've now turned into the girl he can skip all the bases and points with and get right to the end. So if now you're going to start demanding he take you out, and actually be boyfriend/girlfriend material just to get where he wants to (the bed room), he may start feeling like its not worth it.

If you're going to move on and actually find a real man to charm you, flatter you, treat you like a lady rather then just someone to roll around in the sheets with, you will need to separate yourself from him. One way or another.

All guys know, if we can get a hook in you (such as, you loving us, or really deep feelings, or virginity, so forth. ), it's almost surefire we can always come back. So if you want more, you need to go for it and be strong around it.

Good luck to you.

[kingbrother]

No need to make him hate you, but deffo leave him to it and ignore him, don't be his bit on the side when he feels like it.

[ajbrown8]

Seriously, disregard anything this anonymous bitch said. She obviously put it as anonymous for a reason because she didn't actually want a confrontation.

ANYWAY.

I don't think you should give the guy the silent treatment necessarily, but make sure he knows that you're cutting off your sexual relationship because you want more of a true relationship then just casual sex. I agree with ionlife, if at all possible I would try to just be friends with him and see how that goes. If he really doesn't want a relationship with you, then you can continue being friends, or break things off entirely if it's just too hard for you to be simply friends with him.

Just keep telling yourself that you don't deserve that. Take yourself out of a toxic situation so you don't get hurt even more.

[epavlova]

Do whatever you need to get out of this relationship -- that's the bottom line. If you can do it nicely and still be friends without jumping into bed with him, great. But if you are worried about going down that path (and it sounds like you are), then just tell him you need some time and space, and don't want to talk to him for a while. If he still keeps calling, you can be firmer, and give him the silent treatment (since he would have already been warned that you didn't want to talk, he should not be surprised or offended by this). But one way or another, you know you need to end this FWB relationship, which is unhealthy for you, and going nowhere good. Be strong, and good luck!

[kiamia]

Be strong, cut off the contact and learn from this for the future - you want the real thing and want to be respected so don't settle for this sort of thing.

I know it is hard to let go of this guy, especially since you have already went back many times previously. But trust me you can do it, you are worth so much more -everything you want, remember this!

I have been there myself and I can promise you, once you get out you will be so happy.

[ionlife]

If it is easier for you to get over him by cutting off all contact then do so. Otherwise, just cut out the sex, just friends now without benefits, and see where it takes you.

[Anonymous]

First of all what the hell is FWB? Second. Giving someone a silent treatment is immature. Just because YOU want more and he doesn't makes you look like a b*tch for ignoring him. Do you really think that's going to hurt him? You're trying to be a b*tch by ignoring him and being like hahaha you can't have me then you're going to run to him a month later after ignoring him and expect to get something out of it? Ur stupid you don't even deserve him.

[Asker]

An FWB is short for friends with benefits-no strings attached, problem is I got attached and he isn't willing to go any further than sex. I have tried to break off this "relationship" because I'm only getting hurt and being used. Every time I go back to him, I'm hoping he'll somehow realize he wants me all to himself and not just see me as his FWB. Giving him the silent treatment, meaning no contact whatsoever, should show him I'm serious this time.

[Asker]

I don't know, is it immature that I don't want to give into temptation? Does it truly make me look like a bitch because I want more than sex? Well if it does, I guess you can call me a bitch all you want, and if your answer has been based on some misconstrued idea of what an FWB was I suggest you make better-informed answers next time. So what your basically saying is that I don't deserve a boyfriend, I deserve meaningless sex?

[ionlife]

Friends With Benefits; Two people/friends who agree to be there for each other for casual sex, no love, no guilt, no relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Hey you got yourself into it. You should have thought about that before you decided to open your legs now you are crying to people about it. Oh well

[Asker]

Um did you have daddy issues or something, are you mad at the world, or have a grudge on the world? It seems that way. Why are you on this website, if your not willing to answer questions in an appropriate manner? Your supposed to help people with their questions, not put them down because you have your own personal issues with the subject matter.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually I'm being quite honest with you. I don't have issues because I'm not stupid enough to put myself in situations like this. Want me to lie to you and be like oh sure go have sex with him. Yeah okay.

[Alphabear]

Who the fuck date a slut. He see you as a slut. No one date a slut