Girls, What are desirable traits in a partner?

[Anonymous]

Do you think a guy who is autistic is capable of having these traits

[IslaTheWitch]

If you are within level one you should be able normally date and find a partner.

I'm Asperger's and I had no problems with dating. It requires some work from your side, like keeping an eye contact, train what and how you want to speak. But it's doable. Know your strengths and use them.

I don't understand most of social situations but I have quick wit and a brain, so I still am able to go through it.

Take as much field experience as possible. We learn by experience. Also directed therapy helps a lot.

[Asker]

So I was just in a 2 year relationship with a girl and she left me because of traits connected to my autism and I also have Asperger’s

[IslaTheWitch]

Unfortunately, it's given.

In the end, we are slightly different. Embrace it and accept it. Find the traits she didn't like and check if there is anything you can or want to do with it. There are a few Asperger's traits I personally like and wouldn't change them.

But I would suggest professional counselling as the first step. Someone who understands what you struggle with can give meaningful insights.

[Asker]

Yeah it has made me extremely self conscious like I always wanted a girlfriend then when it finally happened one thing that I always held close to my heart my true vulnerability I shared because I thought I would be accepted for who I was and nope it was turned and used against me