You ever dated someone that changed their mind about dating you, read below?

[Finchie40]

They decided they no longer wanted to date you and told you to move on, so you moved on , and ended up in bed with someone else Why would that person you dated first , be upset with you when they find out you met someone else? Why would they even care that you met someone else? They are the one that decided not to see you anymore and told you to move on? Why do people do this? Is it some sort of game? I experienced girls’ doing this to me but never really noticed guy’s doing this to girls’ but I might be wrong who knows , it’s definitely something I don’t do.

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5 mo

The way I look at things is if someone can walk away from me and choose to move on from me, that person truly doesn’t love me or value me , cuz if they did they wouldn’t be walking away from me period. Never leave Sucker written on your head and never be a convenience to someone that isn’t giving you the same in return. We can’t force someone to love us all we can do is treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return , so never chase someone that is walking away from you

[Summeroflove]

Sure. That’s what dating is about sometimes people aren’t meant to be and there is no hard feelings. Better to end things on good terms for both of your sakes.

As for people who are jealous and angry. They’re the ones who ended it. They have narcissistic delusions of grandeur that make them feel like they can control people, even people they aren’t even with anymore. They are offended someone could move on from someone like them.

Maybe they even think they are gonna crush you by rejecting you. But seeing you move on HURTS… It also shows them maybe they are the problem. Because they see someone whose worth their salt with them. It makes them look bad

[Altheavas]

Yes, when they can’t make up their minds of what they wanted, when I was single and dating them. I break-up with them, If I found myself catching feelings and we weren’t sure where we stand. I don’t like being emotionally hanging on someone.

Now some are back, they don’t care, if I’m married and have kids. Then I pity myself, to play reverse psychology using my situation, some leave me alone, then I cut them off quick. Some don’t even care I have kids and a husband. I just don’t get what going on in their brain. I don’t mind staying friends online with them but I’ll never meet them in person.


Why would anyone chase an X who is married and have children? It’s not like we ever rebounded back after a brake up, but they keep chasing….!


I hope they find their right person.

[Finchie40]

Honestly girls’ do this as well , I had my fair share of girls’ that didn’t care if I was single or not , that didn’t care when I was married with kids etc, bottom line there is a lot of people that don’t care about someone’ else’s relationship status period. When someone wants someone , they go for it , so it comes down to your own personal decision on whether you allow it or not. Sadly a lot of people don’t care about their own relationship status and they allow things like this to happen. So it just goes to show how selfish people can be , why I no longer jump onto a committed relationship with a girl until I really get To know her and she proves to Me she isn’t a selfish person and proves she is loyal and faithful to me , but the truth is , we can’t stop someone from cheating on us , someone can tell you they love you until they are blue in the face, but it doesn’t mean they are being loyal to you behind your back , and it doesn’t mean they are being honest with you either , all we can do is treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return, and hope they do the same for us in return Sadly a lot of people only do what is best for themselves , and they don’t care about what other people think or say , especially their own partner , I have slept with married women that lied to me and said they were single , I hooked up with girls’ that lied about having boyfriends as well, I had girls tell me they loved me to find out they were cheating on me behind my back , so my trust for relationships has changed a lot through the years mainly because of my own personal experiences , sadly there are a lot of people that can not be honest period and do what they feel is best for themselves , people cheat left and right , we all know cheating is wrong but people still do it when things don’t go there way in a relationship. , instead of foxing what is broken they run to someone else thinking that new person will
Save them , all of a sudden their so called partner

[Finchie40]

Means nothing to them , whether they got bored of them or they had a change of heart , they all of a sudden not attracted to their own partner anymore etc. People can be very selfish people
And don’t care about their partners feelings and don’t care if they hurt them because it’s whatever is best for themselves. When people come across a window of opportunity , they go for it when things aren’t going their way in their relationship. I have witnessed and experienced so much of this shit to the point I don’t allow myself to ever have Sucker written on my head again , when a girl chooses to walk away from me , I let her go , because we can’t force someone to love us , if that person actually loves you they wouldn’t be walking away in the first place

[Altheavas]

Thanks for the reply, I’m so glad that I don’t have to deal with all of those. GoodnessGracious!

[DizzyDesii]

I dont fully understand wym. But if someone breaks up with you because they realize you’re not right for them, its understandable that they’d still be hurt if you moved on so quickly. One of my exes found out 5 years later that I started dating someone new like a week or 2 after we broke up and he was mad. I found out he had sex with someone else like a year after we broke up and i was disappointed. I mean if you loved eachother at a point, then you don’t technically want to see them with someone else. I mean mature people will wish their exes happiness with someone new. Im just not that mature lmao no matter how OVER someone i am

[Finchie40]

Yea but that’s their problem , not mine , I wasn’t the one walking away in the first place , they chose to walk away , so what do they expect for me to do? just sit there waiting to see if they are going to come back to me or not? Am I not just some wind up toy that they can play with when it’s convenient for them, So my actions shouldn’t mean anything to them , if I actually meant something to them in the first place , they wouldn’t be walking away in the first place , is how I see things. When I like a girl , my intentions is to see her more and more and have her coming back for more and more hoping she feels the same way about me. hoping her and I make it the long haul , I can’t read her mind and I don’t truly know what her intentions are , if she chooses to walk away from me and tells me she no longer wants to see me , I let her go , I am sad but I know I can’t force her to stay by my side , so I move on , if another girl is there that is showing interest in me, and I find her beautiful and attractive , I am going to go for it because the way I look at it is I am single. Her so called friend found out that she moved on from me so she saw her window of opportunity and showed up on my doorstep throwing herself at me , so I fucked her, because I am single , I wouldn’t of fucked her if she didn’t walk away from me. So does that make me wrong?

[DizzyDesii]

So you fcked her friend? Single or not thats just low

[Finchie40]

Not really a friend just an acquaintance, but yes I agree that her friend did that to her behind her back which did cross my mind , but at the time it was happening I was t really thinking anything , I was just getting laid lol

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but you were the boyfriend. Thats greater than an acquaintance. So as an ex, you did her more dirty than the birdie

[Finchie40]

See, I felt she did me dirty by leaving me and giving up on us , so I felt I did the right thing by moving on , whether I screwed another girl or not , I moved on

[DizzyDesii]

Don’t be too stubborn to see where what she did wasn't the only problem

[Tim2nice]

Yes. I had a good date with this girl who came with her roommate on the date for security reasons. At the end of the date I dropped her home and she gave me a long and deep kiss on her doorstep and said she couldn’t wait to meet again. I called her the next day and she was somewhat distant. The day after she didn’t answer my call. A male friend of mine who was supposed to go on a date with her but changed his mind and set me up with her instead called her to hear what was happening. She told him her roommate told her horrible things about my country and she was too scared to go out with me.

[Anemone978]

Got back in touch with this guy I knew for years he told me he loved me and was saying he wanted me to move in with him, but then I don't know if it was because I was hesitant, he found someone else, or he just didn't like me anymore but he completely changed his mind 3 months later and wasn't into us having a label or moving in, but he kept saying he loved me and won't leave me. I assume it was he got to know me more and just didn't like me, but was still hoping I would fuck him. Because he was constantly talking to other girls online even complimenting girls nudes. I don't know but I was the one to end whatever that was, and it killed me tbh because I was in love.. I am just glad I never had sex with him because I don't think I would have recovered from that. But he didn't care I ended it, which made it hurt more. LOL

[virtue2332]

Because people have egos and some even play weird games for attention like ending it hoping you will beg inflating that ego even more. I'm firm on it never reward bad behavior. I'm not a mind reader and shouldn't have to figure out a complex riddle of behaviors or clues to figure out things. You did right she wasn't ready no matter how you look at it. I'm like next I wouldn't have even given her the time to know she was upset about it. Don't have time for that.

[_Cleopatra_]

I am guilty of doing this to a guy but back when I did this I was just 17 and really immature.

But I don't think there's any genuine reason for someone who is above 25 doing this. They are just playing with your emotions, trying to guilt you. And only reason I can think of as to why other person who earlier told you to move on is guilt tripping you, is because that person didn't found anyone "better" than you and now wants you to come back to them.

[Finchie40]

I agree , it’s immature behavior period , I no longer tolerate this type of behavior from anyone , I had my heart shit on too much to even consider tolerating this type of behavior from anyone anymore , especially an adult. We aren’t mind readers , when someone tells me they no longer want to see me or be with me and they need space from me to figure things out , that’s all fine and dandy , but don’t expect me to sit around waiting for someone to change their
Mind , it’s common sense that tells me to move on , I am not just going to sit there like a sitting duck waiting for someone To change their mind , when I was younger and didn’t know any better , I did wait, thinking love would save the day , to realize if they truly loved me to begin with , they wouldn’t be walking away period. All I was doing when I would wait , was hurting myself by thinking she was going to change her mind and come back to me. Through my experiences with shit like this , was never a good experience. Someone that loves you doesn’t walk away from you period , when I get into a relationship with a girl she becomes my top priority , I wear her shoes hoping she does the same for me as well , I can only give to her what I want to receive in return , We weren’t put on Earth to be someone’s convenience and someone’s constant punching bag. You either stand by me and we get through whatever obstacles come our way together , or go be selfish and go do your own thing , but don’t try to drag me along and string me along for
Your selfish decision, I don’t get into a relationship with someone to live my life single , if I wanted to be single , I wouldn’t even pursue a relationship with someone period , It would be a waste of time and pointless to me. I take relationships seriously , I take commitment seriously , Don’t expect me to do for you if you can’t do for me is how I see things , if you choose
To walk away from me when I wasn’t the one walking away to begin with then don’t worry about what I am

[Finchie40]

Doing , how I see it is I am single again , If someone can’t fight for you, they shouldn’t expect you to fight for them period , it needs to go both ways or the relationship will not last period l. You can only give so much to someone without receiving in return

[IslaTheWitch]

If you join the game of dating or relationships, you must consider rejection at any stage. It's part of the game, simply. You can always ask for the reason but don't expect the truth.

[Nikki1989]

Nope, but I have changed my mind several times.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody for a few months and she decided she did not want to date me anymore and she went back with her old boyfriend.

[LiamJHayden]

A lot of people do not want to experience just how replaceable they are.

[Joker_]

yeah I used mind control techniques on them

[NathanDavis]

nope