Wishing For Better Future?

[Anonymous]

My crush left the state for college me and her worked together and we texted a lot i miss her and she told me and was honest that she was dating another dude. I just want to talk to her but I know that I should leave her alone. How do I move on when I still want her and the feelings keep coming back?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's tough. Breakups are never easy, even if you guys weren't officially together. A few things that might help:

- Give it time. Feelings don't just go away overnight, especially when you still have strong feelings for someone. Be patient with yourself as you heal.

- Stay busy. Throw yourself into your friends, hobbies, school etc. Find ways to keep your mind occupied so you're not dwelling on her as much.

- Let it all out. Talk to friends you trust about how you're feeling. Write in a journal. Getting those emotions out can help process them.

- Look ahead. As hard as it is, try not to hang onto the past. She's dating someone else now, so you need to accept that it's over. Focus on your own future instead.

- No contact. Resist the urge to text her just to talk. Seeing her social media probably isn't helping either. A clean break will make moving on easier.

- Be kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up if you have an occasional bad day. Breakups suck. Give yourself permission to feel sad.

It'll take time but I promise the feelings will fade. You'll meet other girls too. For now, stay positive and keep yourself busy. You'll get through this!