What is a deep conversation? What topics does it actually cover?

[Insecure2]

A lot of people and even dating coaches say that a deep conversations helps to decide if someone is opening up to you and, therefore, actually likes you or not, but what are deep conversations? What topics do they cover? Of course, not the weather nor the price of a bread roll, so what then? How do we know that this topic is good for a talk with a friend or an acquaitance or that one is better for a woman/man we like?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ve often shared my onion theory. When we meet a stranger and we don’t trust them yet we are like a whole onion. All our insecurities and past experiences are wrapped up and tight to our hearts. However as we start to have deeper conversations and see that person is reliable and can be trusted we slowly become more vulnerable and can peel back some layers.


Deeper conversations can be those layers being peeled. Might cause tears when it’s painful and heartfelt. These are talks that involve our honest feelings and we are cautious because others can judge us and not accept how we feel. But the topics are about our lives and far reaching. And when opened up the two people often feel more connected after they talk and feel more accepted after sharing.


Does the onion theory make sense?

[Insecure2]

I think I understand the metaphor. But still do you think that let's say a talk about our difficulties at work would be small talk or deep talk? How about sharing na opinion on our smoking addictions and ways to quit IT? Or talking about where we would prefer to live in the future? Or talks about health? Each of those can be powered with emotions and we can be judged while talking about them.

[serious]

Well, it can be related to anything. Paranormal, love and relationships or about movies/series, books, novels and about understanding certain things. It can be anything if both the people involved have common interest and likes.

[Nxtawm]

Topics I usually talk about are love/relationship talk, insecurities, relationship with parents/family, self reflection questions in general (like what they like about themselves, what are their toxic traits, how they’ve changed)

[Anonymous]

You talk about different things; your childhood, your hopes and dreams, what you want out of life, what you’re looking for in a partner, your insecurities, your passions, the good, the bad and the ugly.