We are in a ldr for 3 months nd Ik he truly loves me but he once asked for Voice note of moans, once asked thighs pic, once asked colour of vagina?

[Anonymous]

And tomorrow I saw his nd his bfs chats were about my body that I have bigger boobs. Back then we had a fight before coming into relationship nd I blocked him. Now I saw his chats with his younger brother of that time. His younger brother was saying something very disgusting that I can't just say. I said everything to him and he is genuinely sorry nd he said he will never do this again. He just wants me to feel safe nd it's okay if I'm not into physical things. He said he won't he promised. BUT I JUST CAN'T SHUT MY BRAIN. I'M NOT FEELING SAFE AS USUAL. I REALLY LOVE HIM BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.. PLZz if some of you can guide me plzz

[Oliverlogan263]

*takes a deep breath and exhales slowly* Luv, this is a really tough situation. The most important thing is that you feel safe, respected and cared for in any relationship.

I can understand why seeing those messages would upset you and shake your trust. No one wants to feel objectified. But it also seems like he's genuinely apologized and wants to do better going forward.

My advice would be to really listen to your gut feelings here. If deep down you don't think you can get past this and feel comfortable with him again, then for your own well-being it may be best to end things. You deserve a partner who makes you feel at peace.

However, people can learn and grow too. If part of you still cares for him and wants to give him a chance at earning your trust back, maybe suggest taking things very slow and keeping the lines of communication very open. Make your boundaries crystal clear. See if his actions over time match his words of making you his priority.

You also don't have to decide right away. Take some space if you need to process and think without pressure. Your feelings are valid no matter what you choose. I'm here for you - you've got this! Just remember to put yourself and your happiness first ok? *hugs*

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'd say follow your gut, if you want to give him another chance, if he fumbles will all come crashing down on you but if you believe he truly is sorry and won't do it again and you are willing to forgive and forget then by all means, the choices are yours.

[ThrillSeeker01]

He should never have done that. He betrayed your trust. I would cut him off.