I think he’s losing feelings?

[Anonymous]

We barely talk. It’s like my boyfriend prefers to do anything else rather than talk to me. He stopped asking about my day or things like that, and last time we had an actual conversation was about scott pilgrim - and mind you, i had just removed 3 wisdom teeth and he did not (not even once) ask about how i was doing or how i was feeling. I’m not sure what to do, I don’t wanna break up because I love him but I can’t stand feeling like this. Any tips Or opinions?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. Losing that closeness and caring in a relationship really hurts. From what you've said, it does sound like his feelings may be fading unfortunately.

A couple things you can try:

- Sit down with him and openly communicate how his distance is making you feel. Tell him you need to feel like more of a priority again.

- See if there are underlying issues bothering him that he's not expressing. Sometimes people withdraw when they're stressed by other things.

- Try reconnecting by planning fun/meaningful date nights, without expecting much conversation. Do activities you both enjoy to bring back good feelings.

- Focus on yourself too - spend time with friends/family, rediscover hobbies. It'll help you feel less dependent on his affection and gauge his interest better.

If talking doesn't prompt real, sustained effort from him, you may need to seriously consider whether this relationship is still meeting your needs. I know that's tough to face. But staying just because of love isn't healthy if the connection is gone. You deserve someone who can't wait to hear about your day! Keep your head up sis.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You love some guy that wouldn't even ask about 3 wisdom teeth being removed? Guys are right, the worst ones get girlfriends 😭

[floatinhigh97]

This is sad to hear. Anyone deserves better than that. The person you choose to know you as intimately as you do in a relationship should be an honor. They should treat as such. You deserve to be thought of and cared about. Not a matter of convenience. Love son yourself for awhile and someone will come around that will see your true value. Not keep you on the wayside.

[Explorer91]

Depends how long this has been going on for. If it has been going on longer than 2-4 weeks then yes there is an issue. If it is less than that, sometimes people just need space or feel overwhelmed.

[slatyb]

It doesn't matter whether you want to break up. He already has. Find someone who actually cares.

[Danny_dan92]

YOU love him. HE doesn’t feel the same way. Think about that…

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just have a talk with him and tell him what you're feeling.

[Asker]

That’s the problem. Last time something similar happened and I tried to talk, he didn’t even apologize. He said he was figuring “life shit” and that i shouldn’t deal with it but he appreciated that i did. So I’m scared i guess

[ThrillSeeker01]

Then maybe you should move on. I don't see that he cares about your feelings that much

[Anonymous]

Set yourself away better for your heart, health, and soul.

[Anonymous]

How do you feel about him?

[bededazzle]

talk to him.

[Asker]

i worry.

[bededazzle]

sorry, i misread it. yes sounds like you need to move on. don’t waste your time on him.