Do you ever wonder why you’re not enough for relationships?

Question

I do all the time. I can do literally everything a guy wants me to do but it’ll never be enough.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because I am old school , I value traditional relationships, but sadly these days , relationships are not the same , Finding a girl that truly values relationships like I do , is sadly hard to find these days , mainly because of how selfish people have become , I blame social media for a big part of it by how social media fills our heads with useless nonsense that everyone is a cheater , everyone back stabs and betrays each other. Why most people are scared to get into a committed relationship these days with someone , mainly because of all the shit we see or read or hear about , most people have a harder time trusting each other. I been on multiple dates with girls ‘ that say they want to fall in love and find a man that stays loyal and faithful to her , that loves her and stays by her side , but she leaves out the part , that she won’t be loyal and faithful to him for the long haul , most girls’ I meet have a list of other guys’ to choose from , that she runs to when things don’t go her way weighing her options , that can’t see eye to eye , I am not saying I am perfect what so ever , but I know I give the same way , I want to receive in return , but sadly I haven’t found a girl that can do that for a long period of time , all relationships are great in the beginning , when we meet someone that blows us away , but once the infatuation period runs dry , she moves on to someone else , or gets bored and thinks she is missing out. I know a lot of guys do this as well, so i don’t want you thinking , I am just pointing fingers at you girls’ It just seems everyone has back up plans, if things don’t go their way , Sadly Love will never grow between 2 people if one of them possesses a selfish mindset , basically my way or no way mindset. Most people in general are selfish people that only really care about what’s best for themselves , that don’t consider their partners’ feelings , and sadly that’s why most relationships don’t make it. A lot of people think grass is greener on the other side once they get bored with someone or they meet someone else that they feel is better than their current partner. People sadly are cheating on each other left and right these days , because they only care about themselves. I had my fair share of selfish girls that lied to me to get me in bed , to find out she was already in a relationship or married to someone else. So now I have a hard time trusting girls’ mainly from the shit I experienced with girls’ that lied and backstabbed me , when things didn’t go her way or she got bored , or her friends filled her head that all men are assholes and you can’t trust them, go hook up with that guy instead , he will treat you better. and sadly Guy’s hear the same shit from their friends as well. My advice to everyone is to not get yourself into a relationship with someone that doesn’t make you their top priority and don’t get into a relationship with someone that you can’t make your top priority , it sadly will just be a waste of time , sadly a lot of people
Have a hard time being honest , without honesty , you have nothing

aceleon · Accepted Answer

not enough because

-i'm impatient, selfish/self-centered/self-serving, unemphatic, rude, dominant, lazy, irresponsible, independent, aloof, too easily giving up, prone to violence, reckless, possesive.

-i don't see anyactual point in dating since i can get everything i want in relationship from somewhere else, sex, kids, house chores done, companionship, sentimental need for romantic moments all of them can be reached by other means, a relationship is not rewarding at all while youcan have it somewhere else.

-like i said before i am irresponsible and self centered, i can'tbe botheredby someone elses burden, i want to be free to do whatever the hell i wanna do and i don't do things i don't wanna do there is no US with me it is ME AND OTHERS.

-real life romance is boring, did you ever think why no one likes sequels? because every good thing needs an end otherwise it gets dull and uninteresting, time makeseverything got plain and rotten.

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

Yeah sometimes I do I think maybe it's because Iam 17 stone and then I think it's because I rift and fart a few times not loud farts but I believe if a guy gets away with being aloud to do it in relashionships so the fuck can I and if they don't like me being myself they can fuck off and maybe I think it's because I like Uma Thurman so much and my room is coated in posters and loads of other essentials of kill bill and comment about how hot she is or that it's because I like Disney movies or other films like free willy or the sound of music or cats and dogs and other stuff because of good childhood memories or maybe because it's that am quit emotional when it comes to talking about sad things I don't like guys that don't show there emotions act tough like they are a hard man but everyone crys some men just don't like to show softness act tough I believe in just being yourself is the best instead of being fake and if they don't like it fuck it am happy with my seven inch dildo on a stand with a remote and my butt plug collection if am horny real cock is so much better but I. This day and age in Glasgow it's quit difficult to find a decent guy or nice looking one all the good ones have been taken

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I used to feel that way but then I realized that he was just taking me for granted. I was nothing but nice, caring, affectionate and understanding. I became his emotional punching bag and didn’t complain, I never nag on him, wasn’t clingy or pushy, never yelled at him, I blew him regularly, did anything he asked for in bed, I was basically walking on eggshells with him but apparently it was not enough for him. The moment I “ask” for some reciprocation he would flip out on me.

I questioned myself for so long, he made me feel like I was not good enough and that he was the best thing that could ever happen to someone like me. But in reality, he wanted perfection. He wanted me to act exactly how he pictured everything inside his head, he wanted a doll that he could control. I finally realized that HE was the problem and that I deserve someone that can appreciate me.

So I put my foot down. Now I know that no one can make me feel like I’m not good enough (unless I actually performed poorly lol), so if someone is not appreciating you and is taking you for granted. It’s not you that’s the problem, it’s them that is not good enough for you.

NathanDavis · Answer

I knew why I wasn't... when I wasn't

I was very young, I had no experience... and I was not in the best place, mentally or emotionally

I knew I had to work on that, but not with the goal of relationships, I had to do it for myself and my own sake... I knew I had to be a better person for myself first

kind to myself, important to myself, caring of myself... a true person, and also honest with myself... so this is what I worked on, for most of my teen years, and eventually, once I made it out of this blur... I realized that I would be fine with a relationship then

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've never had anyone say no to a relationship. Presumably if I wasn't good enough they wouldn't have kept dating me, so it seems and odd question. Like asking someone to marry you. You really ought to already know the answer by the time you're on one knee. I don't understand how that situation plays out in real life where I'd be shocked that someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. I'd generally assume that if they dumped me.

Meropatrick · Answer

Just find a guy who finds u enough. U didn't date every guy so u can never say that about all guys. Princess diana was never enough for charles who found Camilla to be enough for him. That would stay the most mysterious secrets of our time. What did charles see in Camilla but not in Diana. Some people will never accept u no matter what. Learn to move on life is too short for being with people who mistreat u

Mark987 · Answer

When I was younger, I would say " Yes", but as I got older I find that when you're younger you're always looking for something better ( not everyone is). I find when you get older certain things don't matter, you just want that person to understand you, have things in common, good conversation, and laugh a lot.

electromagnetic · Answer

I do even in my marriage now.
But I also remind myself that if I ever feel that way, I need to communicate it right away. Otherwise it builds and at some point, I’ll snap like a twig and there fizzles my marriage.

Thestupidusername · Answer

No I don't think like that. There are serial killers out there married lol. The problem is you need to love yourself before someone else can. That takes time though. And won't be like Hollywood makes you think.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I don't wonder.. I know why I'm not yet.. But you don't know that yet.. You gotta meet the good guy first..

bededazzle · Answer

no. i’ve learned that feeling like enough can only come from within, though this is still quite a work in progress.

Pohjolan · Answer

I'm going to be brutally honest; your looks are less than satisfactory. That's why.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Don’t please them. You do you, and let them please you. You deserve it. You’re worth it!

rebeliouse · Answer

maybe your trying too hard or just get with someone that expects too much

Anonymous · Answer

You can't be with someone who expects you to be perfect either Sashie.!

elizamichale1 · Answer

Well i think i m enough

Yannae · Answer

No, we're still together after all.

dudeinohio · Answer

It'll be enough for the right guy.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

So do more, to keep your relationship

Anonymous · Answer

I have more important things to do.

collie22 · Answer

MM. .

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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