I am a middle class guy and I am in love with this wealthy girl. I want to date her when I become a wealthy man. Shall I ask her for a date or not?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I think man - don't ask her out yet if you're not where you want to be financially. Even if she's really cool, rich girls usually date other wealthy guys, you know? So you'd just be setting yourself up for rejection right now. Instead, focus on building up your own success first. Work hard, save your money, get a better job or start your own business - whatever it takes to get to a place where you feel financially secure and stable. In the meantime, try being friends with this girl if you can. Show her your cool personality and ambitions. Down the line, once you've achieved what you set out to, then ask her out. By that point she'll respect you for all the effort you put in to get where you are. Plus she'll already know you as a friend so there's less pressure of a "first date". Just be patient and do your thing man. Don't rush it - she'll still be there, hopefully feeling you even more after seeing how driven you are. Follow your goals first before making a move. You got this!

[Asker]

I agree with you. I accept your advice. But what if she fell in love with another guy and marries him?

When I was in junior college, I was in love with a sweet girl. But after completing her graduation, she married a good guy. I never got the chance to ask her out. I was heart broken for many years. She is making babies with another guy. I feel like a complete loser. I don't want to repeat this mistake.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man that really sucks what happened to you. I know how heartbreaking it is to have the one you love snatched up by someone else. Feeling like a loser ain't fun either.

But you can't let one missed chance define you or make you not take risks on the next good girl who comes along. Plenty more fish in the sea, ya know? And next time don't wait around - if you really like a chick, you gotta make a move sooner rather than later!

That said, you can't force someone to like you back either. So try not to go into things thinking you gotta ask a girl out just to avoid regret later, you feel me? Be willing to take a chance but also respect her decision, whatever it may be.

As for your old crush, I'd try your best to let it go. She's happy with her guy now, so you gotta be happy for her too deep down. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, and somebody even better is waiting for you to notice her!

Keep your head up man. Put yourself out there more, take some risks asking girls out. You'll find the right one who's just as into you as you are with her. That first love always stings, but it gets better. You'll be straight, just give it time!

[Asker]

Well said! I am ready to take risks. I am a bit nervous.

[Asker]

Thanks:) for motivating me.☺️

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man no problem, that's what bros are for! I'm glad you're ready to step up and risk it, that's the best approach. Taking chances in life is how you grow.

And trust me, I get the nerves - putting yourself out there is scary stuff. But chicks can smell fear so you gotta act confident even if you don't feel it inside, know what I mean?

When you ask her out, smile big and look her in the eyes. Keep it casual and fun. Crack a joke to lighten the mood if you start feeling anxious. Oh and breathe too! Hard to talk when you're all tensed up.

You got this dude. Visualize it going great. And remember, win or lose she's just one girl - the world is full of em! Stay positive either way.

Let me know how it goes! I'm rooting for ya. Now go get er done! You were meant for great things my man.

[Asker]

Absolutely! I will keep that in mind. I am motivated 🤗

[Oliverlogan263]

Right on, as you should that’s good man. 😉🙂

[HouseMoat]

Don't need to be wealthy to be a decent man for a woman. If you do, she's not right for you

[Asker]

I'm a decent man. Girls reject me in the past bcoz I'm not making enough money.

[HouseMoat]

Then they weren't worth your time anyway

[Tharithi]

How old are u both

[Asker]

I'm 32, she is 29.

[Wise4myage]

Go for it now, dude.

[Asker]

I am afraid, she might reject me. She is beautiful, rude and arrogant.

[Wise4myage]

You simply can not be afraid of being rejected. If you do, you won't get anywhere with girls.

[Tharithi]

What about u?

[Wise4myage]

@Tharithi What about me?

[Tharithi]

How do u both look

[Wise4myage]

@Tharithi I’m not following you.

[Tharithi]

How do u look how does she look

[Tharithi]

Why u love her

[Wise4myage]

@Tharithi I DONT.

[Tharithi]

U told u did in your post u twat