If people know a women is abusing her partner why would they defend her?

[Anonymous]

Like I was completely isolated and at a disadvantage no one would listen and I couldn’t even call the police because that was a perfect storm I’m a biracial man and she’s a white women everyone knows that they would immediately take her side and my life would be in danger. So I was just stuck taking the abuse

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All this insight is helpful in processing what happened

[Guccigabbana18]

They either don't know the full story and only see the woman's side of events, they are the woman's friends or family and are therefore biased (they don't want to believe that their loved one is abusive) or they are predisposed to thinking women can't be abusers because they are supposedly the weaker, more empathic and gentler sex. I'm sorry to hear you went through this. I've seen similar situations and yes usually the woman is defended when she is the abuser, especially by other women. People don't usually do this on purpose, they are just ignorant to what is actually happening.

[blueonblack22]

Thank you for acknowledging that with “ I've seen similar situations and yes usually the woman is defended when she is the abuser, especially by other women.”

Here is a directly related question about this screwed up issue:

Are men more likely to call out other men for misbehavior (that make the rest of us look bad) or are women more likely to call out female misbehavior? ↗

[NamerOfStars]

Decades (lifetimes, for most people) of Feminist indoctrination that tells them women aren't responsible for their actions- just ask Erin Pizzey.

Alternatively, decades (lifetimes, for most people) of traditionalist indoctrination that tells them women aren't responsible for their actions- just ask Shane Seyer.

[Avicenna]

I don't know exactly what's going on in your relationship, but if it's abusive, you need to get out of it ASAP

[robhazelnut]

My sympathy, man. I guess it's mostly from people being more instinctual than principled. Explanation- A woman can get pregnant far less often than a man can impregnate women, and requires a lot of care and resources while so. Therefore, each individual man is far less biologically valuable for keeping the species populated.

[DextroShade]

You can thank feminism, #metoo, and the fucking Duluth Model for your predicament. Your only recourse is to record the abuse like Johnny Depp did to Amber Turd. Because of this feminist insanity I now automatically assume a woman is lying when she claims abuse unless she has irrefutable proof or I know her well enough personally to vouch for her character.

[Staximus]

That's why you remove yourself from the situation, drive to the police station, and file a police report. Calling 911 is not the smartest thing to do in this situation unless your life is in danger.

[KrakenAttackin]

They would take her side no matter the race.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't