Why is it that women who go on about "fat positivity" never actually date fat men?

[Anonymous]

[BrownSugar00]

They're insecure and hypocritical. Plain and simple

There are many good looking and good hearted overweight men in this world. They're just overlooked, underappreciated and underestimated by people everyday.

Look at me... I'm a slim, thin milkshake of a woman. I'm young, getting an education, setting goals, traveling and insecure, like pretty much everyone else in this world, unless you're a narcissistic. But I'm also still single. I've never had a boyfriend. Does my value of worth go down, despite me having some conventional qualities and traits people look for in a woman? No.

Personally, I've seen many overweight men and woman with lovers on their arm, while I'm still searching and not searching for mine. If they can be picked, so can you. But don't go comparing yourselves to them, because you're not them and you don't want to be them!

Look at some of these actors/comedians throughout the years:

Jack Black

Chris Farley

John Candy

What do they all have in common? They're all overweight. You can even include Eddie Murphys fictional character Professor Klumps. They're are very smart, sweet, kind, loving, caring, generous and have a good sense in humor. Sure they may be or might've been insecure about their looms, but they still attracted women. Why? Because of their qualities. How they treated women. How they portrayed themselves. Their confidence. This I'd something not only you, but me and all of us have realize and work on.

So don't beat yourself up over something that could be genetic. But do improve yourself and never stop. I would also tell you to go see a therapist to help you with your inner self and maybe a nutritionist, if you want. I'm not saying this out of judgement, but if this is something you want to change, don't do it for the women, do it for yourself. But have a healthy mind and attitude about it!

[BrownSugar00]

Realized you're a woman, but still, this is for the men and the women to read 😊

[BrownSugar00]

I could've also included Heavy D (whose a rapper) in this, but do not want to keep taking up space.

[Biancam13]

They're being hypocritical and entitled when they do that. They expect others to cater to their feelings to make themselves feel beautiful, when they don't allow the same grace for overweight men. Body positivity is a good thing but should be equal for both genders.

Also, often the people we wish to date are the people whose qualities we admire or wish we had. I might want a guy because he has qualities that I wish I had but feel I do not. So if I felt insecure about my intelligence, I might want to overcompensate and date an intelligent guy, in the hope that it will prove my worth as equal to his, and in the hope that his good qualities will rub off on me. This is just human nature.

[Biancam13]

It's the pursuit of status by association.

[nastyb]

Lets face the truth, fat men aren't as ridiculed as much as fat women. Womens looks matter way more than mens looks

[Biancam13]

@nastyb Eh, I would say both are criticised equally.

[nastyb]

@Biancam13

Women are 5x more likely to develop bulimia. The average age of onset for bulimia is eighteen, with an overall prevalence of 0.3%. Broken down by gender, bulimia develops in 1.5% of women and 0.5% of men, making it five times more common to develop in women.

withinhealth.com/.../bulimia-facts-and-statistics

Women have anorexia at rates three times higher than males: 0.9% of the population versus 0.3% of the population

https://bulimia.com/anorexia/statistics/

[Biancam13]

@nastyb Those figures don't mean that men aren't as ridiculed for being overweight. Both genders are ridiculed. It just means that women typically respond to the ridicule in a different way or perhaps are more sensitive towards it. But I do think that the reason women are more body-conscious is because there is more of a pressure on women to be beautiful. Our main currency is beauty, while for men it's important but not as much.

[nastyb]

@Biancam13

"Heavier women tend to earn less," the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis said in a 2011 report, which analyzed the results of multiple studies on the topic. "These penalties have not only increased over the past few decades, but continue to increase as women age."

However, men don't seem to face a similar weight bias. Some studies even found that white males seen as overweight actually earn more. However, the wage penalty for women seen as overweight was consistent in each study.

www.npr.org/.../women-weight-bias-wages-workplace-wage-gap

Female interviewers judged heavier men and women applicants as equally unattractive. But men gave their own gender a pass for being overweight, ranking male applicants' attractiveness as less of a problem while expressing a noticeable distaste for overweight women.

ca.news.yahoo.com/...d-more-harshly-135649161.html

[Biancam13]

@nastyb I get what you're saying but that is just one study. Other studies have said otherwise:

medicalxpress.com/.../...women-discrimination.html

"Overweight men just as likely as overweight women to face discrimination. Men who are overweight are just as likely as overweight women to experience interpersonal discrimination when applying for a job or shopping at retail stores, according to new research from Rice University and the University of North Carolina, Charlotte (UNCC)."

Also, in real life what you said is not what I personally experienced. The guys who are overweight aren't likely to get women attracted to them, and they are taunted by other men for their weight. From what I have seen, overweight girls are more successful in romantic relationships that overweight guys.

Perhaps we are from different countries where overweight men aren't ridiculed. So we have different experiences and therefore differing opinions.

[Biancam13]

Although, what a man dates an overweight woman sometimes he is accused as having a "fetish". Which totally isn't okay.

[nastyb]

@Biancam13

Because overweight women can still look good being overweight. Large breasts, thick waist, huge hips can still be very attractive to men. Its deemed as "curvy" even if she does have fat on her waist.

But when it comes to social pressure to look thin, women bear most of hte ridicule and brunt.

why do you think women go under anorexia , bullinmia at much higher rates than men?

why do you think women go to mexico or 3rd world countries for liposuction/ surgeries for brazillian butt lifts then die as a result of botched surgeries?

you never see men going through this type of shit.

what about beauty pageants? why are 95% of beauty pageants female?

why do women obsess over their fashion choices, wear heels?
you don't see men obsessing over the same things.

men obssess over money, cars, wealth, success rather than looks.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@nastyb We don't develop bulimia as often because we commit suicide at 3x the rate of women.

[blueonblack22]

Because they have an entitlement complex and think crying victim can literally change male dating preferences which is insane.

Why should any fit/athletic man be shamed for not feeling physically attracted to a big girl? Especially when he himself put in the hard work to diet and exercise properly. Why should he be shamed for wanting to date someone who isn’t at least semi on par with that?

Men found a long time ago that we get literally zero room to complain about female dating preferences regardless if they are fair or not. And even if someone gave us a shoulder to cry on will that magically change female preferences? Of course not. We are forced to accept what women want regardless how fickle some women can be.

[DextroShade]

Body positivity, like sex positivity and feminism, exists only as an attempt to spare women from the consequences of their own foolish actions. The disgusting obese pigs in this movement not only demand access to the same level of men as fit women, but also that all airplanes, cars, and buildings be renovated to accommodate their massive unnecessary bulk. These miss piggies now believe this bullshit themselves so now you have Lizzo and other pigs saying they are 10's while thinking that fat guys are beneath them. The whole thing makes me 🤢🤮

[coachTanthony]

I don't think that there are that many women who believe this "fat positivity" nonsense.

[Siri137]

It's just pure, unadulterated hypocrisy. There's nothing "positive" about being fat anyway, so the whole silly "movement" was a mistake, an attempt to make people (of the female gender only) feel better about their poor dietary choices and lack of character and self-discipline.

[Anonymous]

Thats like asking why someone who supports BLM isn’t dating a black person. Supporting something does not mean you have to identify by it. And most people who actively support fat positivity are literally fat themselves and fat women date fat men.

[DreamLife7]

Because fat men don't want other fat women. Opposit attracts. If you watch my 1000lb life the men attracted to them were skinny. You need to go outside and touch grass, socialize and meet people because you seem like u lack friends and experience it's weird

[Nik1hil]

No one wants a fat man around their house!..

Last time a FAT MAN, Fell in Japan. It leveled the whole building to dust!.. Damaged the whole block, vaporizing everyone. And radiation poisoning killed thousands of people in the city!

[Anonymous]

I think it's the transitive property of being thin. Like if she gets a thin guys then in her mind that means she must not be fat. I used to work with a girl like this. She was kind of chunky but she would ONLY date skinny guys.

I think with just as many fat women it works the opposite way as well. Like some fat women want to be with a husky guy because she feels being with a big guy make her look less fat.

I guess it depends on the woman.

[JacobJordan]

Simple everyone deep down knows fat isn't healthy. They are trying to virtue signal but fail to realize their body proved them a liar because they aren't even attracted to fat people yet claim it is "beautiful"

[worldscolide]

Hypocrisy.. Nothing more. Those same women idioticly and falsely believe they are 10's and deserve the top 1% of men.. When in reality they are dollar tree bottom of the barrel..

[myloveforuisinfinte]

💀💀lmao that was so heartbreaking 😂

[nastyb]

there's no evidence thats true. You're just making crap up

[Taylorbb]

I know a fat positivity woman at my workspace who said she will never get with a fat guy. she's also the same woman who will wear tight inappropriate clothes because she thinks that is good looking for some reason.

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

because i know you're just making shit up.

[Taylorbb]

More like you are in denial.

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

i just know you just like to hate on fat women.

[Taylorbb]

Do you hate fat women?

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

i can see you do.

[Taylorbb]

But do you hate fat women?

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

why would it matter to a fat hater like you?

[Taylorbb]

That didn't answer my question.

Do you hate fat women?

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

im am not obligated to answer anything

[Taylorbb]

That's because you DO hate fat women... read you like a book.

[Taylorbb]

Because I know you are pretending to support fat people when you really hate them, right?

[nastyb]

@Taylorbb

nobody cares what a "fat hater" says...

[WhitneySnow]

That’s not true. At least not universally true.

[Miristheiss]

They are women. All women are perfect as is.

Didn't everyone know that?

[Anonymous]

Women have more options while they are young. Fat younger women still have way more options than fat young guys. I have seen overweight girls with totally fit guys, and gym bros all the time, the opposite is hardly true.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, you are really a fat man posting as a pink, right?

[Pohjolan]

To a extent its reducing their female competition.

[Twalli]

Usually they only go on about it because they're fat.

[Anonymous]

And they encourage men to act like women, but they would never date them.

[Anonymous]

Because fat is very gross, they are just some idiots.

[Billlewis]

I think some of them do.

[Anonymous]

The generalization is crazy lol

[Anonymous]

Because they can’t hide from their own delusion

[_no_one_]

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