Why is it that all of these "fat positivity" women never date fat men?

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Hawaiikai · Accepted Answer

Um maybe they were high school lovers and care about eachother despite physical changes?… everyone is different. I think good looking girls would probably get offended or be like what the eff why is he choosing her and she looks like that when I’m thin, and such a bombshell. Which I think it’s a normal reaction. Reality is physical attraction is what comes first whether big or small. It’s about personal preference. I mean not every guy is into thin, big fake, tits and a**. That’s just superficial attraction to me at least. Super models still get cheated on. Maybe personalities just didn’t mesh well and maybe she was just shallow with nothing to exciting about her. And he probably found a “fat” chick that he meshes very well with and is acutally meaning full. I know a guy who likes big butts instead of big breast. I don't know it’s all about personal preference to me. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

Why do these fit men even pick these fat women? Because they’re white? It doesn’t happen in the case of non-white women. White men are FAMOUS for picking women who are consistently less attractive than them just because they’re white. Correct me if I’m wrong.

Look at the most naturally good-looking man:

Henry’s girlfriend when he was in his physical prime 🤮

Breaking up with this woman ruined his mental health the most 😒

His current girlfriend whom he called brilliant and “beautiful” 🤡

If people weren’t racist, they would accept the FACT that many regular non-white women look better than these rich women. Some men just want a white woman even if they can date Adriana Lima. This question only applies to fat WHITE women. Only they’re glorified. The rest of us aren’t considered attractive or 10s even with flawless skin, hair, body and face.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Because they want men who are better looking than them, and they want the world to see it and want the world to wonder how she was able to snag such a guy. They also want other women to be envious of it as well. And a poor self-esteem thing is part of it where they want men who are very fit like the one in your photo, because they think he will not only be strong but also energetic in bed, they want white men because they believe a white man is king and the image of superior desire or masculinity, and they want rich men who will spend on them or put them in a nice house.

But we're forgetting that these guys are still dating them back. Because they like fat women and find them to be better in bed. It's a two-way street.

buzzword · Accepted Answer

It's probably some humiliation ritual for the guy. He has to do fat chicks publicly to move up in his secret society. Sacrificing himself for the cause shows that he's loyal to the organization and he puts his orders above his own interests.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

People appreciate what they have difficulty finding.

A fat person has difficulty finding a skinny person so they value skinny dates.

A skinny person has difficulty finding a rich person so they value rich people.

A rich person has difficulty finding a good person so they value good people or humble people as opposed to rich people.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Obviously, fat "positivity" is bullshit.

morganherrel · Answer

I think many people can agree that it's self-serving. And they can have it their way right now given the structural dynamics of the dating market that give women all the power.

Eventually men can and should push back.

Stop. Dating. Fat. Women.

(Unless they are actually attractive enough for you... which they are generally not, because fat is almost universally unattractive).

genericname85 · Answer

they don't typically get dudes like the guy in the picture. but a long time ago, i read something that for insecure low value men it's actually a psychological thing to go for a fat chick. cause in their mind they know they can't provide for a woman. so they will pick one that's not gonna starve any time soon. i'm not even joking. but yeah. usually these girls don't get hot guys.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a fat guy, girlfriend is a bigger girl at 6'2 and 330lbs. She is 140lbs heavier than me and she's taller than me too. i like her British sense of humor and wit, low body count, good personality and I enjoy the sex with her.

She keeps encouraging me to put on some weight though :P

Kelley1 · Answer

Because unlike fat men, fat women have options.

Anonymous · Answer

fat positivity was never meant for men despite feminism supposedly standing for "equality"

fat men are seen as lazy pieces of shit who deserve criticism

fat women are seen as cute and are victims of shallowness

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Fat positivity is basically a coping mechanism, not cause people have issues with overweight people but because these overweight people deep down have an issue with themselves.

Gwendoline · Answer

I know a lot of very good looking fit guys that always seem to be with overweight women. My husband says its because there are so many fat women in America that they've no choice.

Flower7 · Answer

Maybe men are more willing to accept overweight partners than women are.

boggboss · Answer

Being fat don't make u attracted to fat people that goes for both guys and girls

Apple1996 · Answer

It's always the gym rat buff guys who like bigger girls

Agape93 · Answer

Hard to enjoy sex when they're crushing you and struggle to breathe

BetaBucks · Answer

Because there are enough guys that have the bbw fetish or are gold diggers, so they never have to be stuck dating guys they aren't attracted to.

RavVid · Answer

I won't say she was fat positive but a girl had the effrontery to criticize my belly when she did qualify as obese and I was middle BMI.

Anonymous · Answer

Because some fat women think a fit man legitimizes them. Like through the transitive property of being fit if she's sleeping with a fit guy by extinction she becomes not fat.

marshmallowcream · Answer

Great question , I never thought of it but now I’m wondering why too

MoonFace2 · Answer

I’m fat. I started off slim but my medical conditions made me fat. I’d date fat men. As long as they were cute.

anon1903 · Answer

Fat men may not prefer them? Ever think of that? Dang

RowdyYates · Answer

I like the looks of a bigger woman that holds her weight right. But you will never see that in reverse.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You must walk around with your eyes closed.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, there is probably LITERALLY nothing i care about LESS than who fat women want to date!

Staximus · Answer

Because they're full of shit. To talk about how it's okay to be fat but then they don't want to be seen with a fat guy

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Please !!! I can't unsee that broad !!! And "fat positivity" like most slogans, is 90% BS.

Anonymous · Answer

Fat women mostly dates dark skinny masculine guys 🙍🏿‍♂️ with huge packages like 8 inches and plus 🙍🏿‍♂️🍆.

Money is a bonus with them

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Hanrej · Answer

With very few exceptions no one is fat positive. They just want other people to be.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they could always get fat guys even without a movement to make them feel good

Twalli · Answer

Because they should have standards on the people they find physically attractive, but men shouldn't.

Slim57 · Answer

Because some women are the biggest hypocrites ever?

Adana01 · Answer

A fat woman is cute, but a fat man is very stupid...

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Sadly fat men don't have stamina in bed..

paledreams · Answer

Probably speaks what it's not speaking 👀 🧠🗣️

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

They are the ones who are the losers

RedInnocent69 · Answer

One might also ask the corollary

Anonymous · Answer

Fat men dont date fat girls too i think

Why is it that all of these "fat positivity" women never date fat men?

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