Got this text after a first date"can I ask you a question? are u actually the same age as me? I got the sense u may have shaved a few years off" ?

[monkeyman666]

[SueShe]

There is more to a person than just the looks. The behavior, intellectual maturity and a plethora of other details can make a person look older/younger than she/he actually is.

Perhaps that is the case in your question and the person that made this statement based her comment not just on your looks but the sum of a number of other details.

Her comment may be seen both as positive or negative. We were not present at the date and are not in a position to evaluate on which basis she made her comment. Best for you would be to ask her how she came to that conclusion.

[monkeyman666]

Thanks for the thoughtful and thorough feedback - turns out it was based on things we talked about
apparently not my looks- i also wanted to get the feedback before sending a text in which i might have taken it the wrong way - thanks SueShe - for taking the time!!!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a fair question, so what is the problem?

[monkeyman666]

it feels as though she is saying i look older than I am when in actuality about twenty people have told me i look a lot younger that i am (as much as 10 years younger). Those people of course may be just being nice or might have poor eyesite. Just wondered if it sounds like she is kind of looking to start something in a passive aggressive way. When we left it off on Thursday i said I would contact her on Monday - perhaps she had wanted me to ask her out for another date which i did not do yet. I am probably overthinking it all. I am pretty new to texting though

[CarolineW]

Ask her why it matters

[andreasderjuengere]

Not knowing HER age, I don't see the full context.

[monkeyman666]

my age 49

[In_Trance]

Ok great