How to know if a guy likes you through online dating?

[Anonymous]

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- we just started dating 6 days ago- he keeps asking me for nudes, but I don't send them, I do send him pictures of my face, I show some cleavage.. I don't trust him to send nudes. -he lives in another country.

[Anonymous]

you can only find out so much when speaking to someone " online " which is why an eventually inperson meeting is often necessary to try and determine if there is any connection or not in reality.

online is much different for a guy compared to a girl , girls even average ones tend to get flooded with messages from random guys claiming to suddenly Like them even though they've never meet before. where is guys get like zero first contact messages and often get like no replies even if they send genuine messages out to various girls

[Al_Musafir]

Online.. you get know a guy, you happen to get well with each other. Due do differences in morals and expectations, uneasy feelings related to issues like nudes, sexting occur which often leads to unstable situations.

Since it is in a different country, it is less likely to work out and both the parties are needed to be fully up to it to make it work and petty stuff like nudes and awkwardness related to it should not even be in the question or drain your energy.

It's hard to establish trust and even harder to prove it.

And finally, many a times you don't know the reality of the person... You only know the bits they have told you about them and since we happen to like them, we only wishfully tend to think positive about them. It becomes more dangerous when they mean something and you interpret something else based on your fantasies or how would you like them to be.

[renodnol32]

I don't see a reason for you to trust the guy based on the info you have provided. Seems like he's looking for a sexting buddy.

[Jerre]

That’s a hard one to say. Many guys just want to fuck you.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's what I thought

[Asker]

Not fuck I think he only wants to masturbate since he lives in another country.

[shortster]

How have you dated him if he lives in another country?

[driven159]

you never really know

[Fireguy17]

Maybe ask him?

[Asker]

I did, and he said "girl I'm in love with you, I'm obsessed that much, I don't just like you, but if you wanna believe that I just like you then you can.

[Fireguy17]

The word obsessed kind of makes me go Hmmmm.
He may have meant it as a compliment, but personally never ever under any circumstances send out any nude pictures.
Once they are out online there is nothing you can do about it, they are there forever. He can sell them, use them for blackmail, send me money or I will post them on..., prospective employers can see them, anything.
While there are many people that will just keep them private, there are also a lot of people that won't, and you have no control over what happens.
My thoughts are let him know that you won't do that, and if he keeps persisting and pressuring you to do that just cut off all communication and block him.
Anyone that truly cares about you and your feelings would never pressure you into doing something that you do not wish to do.

[Asker]

Thank you