How do you know if you’re someone’s type without knowing much about their dating history?

[BananaNanaa29]

[dynamicyandere]

If you immediately feel the chemistry and sense their attraction to you when you’re interacting with them, then you’re their type.


Like a magnetic pull that only gets stronger the more you get to know each other and spend time with each other.


This can all happen subconsciously and indirectly. It’s something that happens in the background. It’s something that you sense and feel rather than systematically analyze.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I wouldn't worry about someone's history, there's a reason they aren't still with those individuals. Sometimes we don't know or can't pinpoint exactly what makes us happy, so we date others, and see if they are compatible and bring a new element to our life, which hopefully brings more happiness than you already have.

[BananaNanaa29]

That’s a solid point! There’s this guy I like who won’t ask me out and it’s making me self conscious.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Perhaps the best thing you can do is to have your own standards for yourself, and perhaps set them high. I'm a true believer, that if you do things that make yourself happy without the assistance of others, your intimate relationships will somehow be simpler. Whenever I tried to date after being dumped, it never worked out. When I met the woman who is my wife, I was just a happy person, and life was going well. It seemed like the right time to start dating again.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

No, please, don't think that my marriage is perfect and harmonious, because it isn't. However, we do try to work through our issues without making them overly complicated.

[BananaNanaa29]

Thanks for that insight. I think my other issue really is that I’m going for guys who are in their late 30s to late 40s and I’m 27 so I don't know if they take me seriously.
Im not sure how much age is factored in here for why it doesn’t work out.
Im always conflicted if it’s age or type issue.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

They might be thinking you're younger and aren't interested in a long-term serious relationship. You might just have to be a bit more forward.

[BananaNanaa29]

I’ve expressed in my dating profile I’m looking for a relationship. They always ask why I don’t go for someone my age so not sure if they’re just perplexed.

[Billlewis]

If I want to serve her badly enough, I just tell myself that I'm going to do exactly as I'm told, and not settle for anything less than her complete satisfaction.

[KrakenAttackin]

You don't. Also, often people change their "types" over time.

[InspireGlow678]

Knowing their personality is all I need to know.