Are dates a way to know if someone is your type?

[Anonymous]

Going on dates is often seen as a way to figure out if someone aligns with what you're looking for in a partner. But are dates actually a reliable way to tell if someone is your 'type'? Can spending time together help reveal shared values, chemistry, and attraction or do first impressions sometimes get in the way

[DishLady]

Yes and no.

Spending time alone with a person helps you learn a little more about them in the sense that you're able to ask questions or have conversations that aren't ok to pursue in public. It's also a chance for you to hone in and observe how the person behaves without the social buffer of friends and family.

But spending time in group settings or at a public activity helps you see how the person engages others and if you're socially compatible. (You have to have WAY MORE than just "chemistry" to be right for each other.)

[DannyUk2017]

Ofcourse! Is not "blind date/marriage" is it? How you suppose to know/like someone if you don't spend time with them? Imagine you "blind" meet someone, and say, oh want to be with you, then a few days later you start getting messages/texts/calls that He saw you with such & such, and you 2 were too close etc? And you better stop seeing that person couse "he doesn't like it". And this matter keeps pressing on and on and on... What are the first thoughts coming in to your mind?"this guy he's narcissist, he's stalking me, he's pushy messaging/calling every 5 minutes, he's dangerous and unpredictabe" etc... What that tells you? Run! Block him everywhere, etc... So if you don't know someone, if there is No Chemistry, Arousal, Desire, Pleasure in Meeting/Knowing that person, how can you "blindly dive" in to the... Unknown?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Can spending time together help reveal shared values, chemistry, and attraction"

... Yes? I mean VERY obviously yes? 🤔

I don't see how anyone can say no to that? What the hell lol

[Caroline91]

I see two purposes for dating. One is to just have fun together. Not every one is looking for a permanent relationship, depending on how old they are, where they are in their life, and their personal belief/desire for that type of relationship. Then, the 2nd reason is to find a match for a long term relationship or marriage. Dates are just the beginning stage of getting to know each other. And yes, first impressions can get in the way in either a positive or negative way.

[Anonymous]

They SUPPOSED to be. But you're seldom going to meet that person. You're going to meet that person's representative. You're going to meet the version of them that is going to project whatever they THINK you want them to be. You probably won't meet the actual person till the second or 3rd date.

[alli-112]

I mean. Literally how else are you supposed to figure that stuff out without dating someone?

[RHK36]

Pretty much unless you have some good conversations beforehand. Meeting in person is better for that interaction.

[EmmaMary]

How else are you going to know?

[jahaims]

Wtf is a date for lmfao

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[In_Trance]

It's the only way