What do you consider a red flag when dating someone?

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AmeerX · Accepted Answer

1. Girl too much into pictures. Or make up or looks are number one red flag. I will compliment when I like it. Don't try too hard to impress me. I don't want a doll, women are not things okay they have a heart and if that heart of hers needs superficial things to feel content then I am not the one for her. I am really sorry it will hurt a lot of people reading this but look at yourself girls especially. Do you really only care about yourself when others around you are living in drastic conditions? Don't you want to help others with your time instead of just looking good all the time. I could love a girl who is living on a farm trying to work hard over a girl who is partying and enjoying life like no tomorrow.

2. Too much expensive things. Definitely a red flag. Related to first one.

3. Says things like she is doing me a favor by being with me otherwise she had lots of men who wanted her. Guess what, if you have others than what are you doing with me, go away. That's what my ex said to me and trust me I felt it crossed the line way before the actual split.

4. Calling things like I am illiterate or uncivilized and disrespectful.

5. Doesn't help with my goals or at least appreciate them and not become a hurdle. She shouldn't make me choose her or this, her or that. But say she is with me to the end and I will see to it that she is taken care of.

6. Party girls are not for me. I mean once a while is good but not always.

7. Green flag: Takes care of heirlooms and legacy like it is really something. Like if her parents gave her a house or something tangible, she Cherishes it and never wants to sell it. I actually met a girl once. She had a 150 years old house from her grandma. She told me about it and I think it really made me feel happy and I was instantly attracted to her when she said it meant a lot to her and she won't sell it ever 😊. It shows her roots and loyalty is strong. It's not a bad thing but I really dislike people who say things like "I don't care about what my parents gave me" really then if you don't respect that then how will you take care of your lover? Yeah it's cliche but you will understand it I hope.

8. Is for thick and thin and respects that life is lovers and the world together 😊. Meaning I will love and respect her and her parents too and if she asked me I will take care of her parents for her in old age too provided she extended the same to me:).

9. I love clingy girls but I think too much love bombing is a red flag 😅. I want someone who tells me if something is wrong and is not always trying to sugar coat words. Big turnoff.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I think the ability to listen is a big thing , I think if they are an individual who just has zero empathy , @Beckybooboo , just really reminded me of something , it comes back to point 1 , you are answering a question they asked and they interrupt with either another question , or start answering your answer ! , if that makes sense.

Generally just completely self centered and arrogant , if they made no effort at all to consider price , had some stupid hobby that you know there is no way they afford , or appeared completely financially illiterate , these things , I'd never go back.

An example of last paragraph may be a young guy ( in the OPs case ) who had a really expensive car on HP , and he's just going on and on about this car , as if its a child , and you know what job he has , completely irrational stuff like this , shows a self centred nature.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

One guy stands out. He was extremely arrogant! He would ask me a question and as I’m answering, he would basically jump in and try and finish my answer. If I would tell him about things I’ve done, he had done them three times and better! No, I didn’t go on a date with Wally 😂😂 Another guy was from college. He was such a nice guy and so sweet but on our first date, he proceeded to get so drunk, I had to drive him home, in his car, while pulling over every few minutes so he could throw up, then call for a ride to pick me up at his place, after I basically had to carry him to his room.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Here is a list of red flags If he sends nudes Insecure Talks bad about all his ex's (u chose them dummy 🙄) Mama's boy Plays video games Physical/sexual abuser Gashlighter Low IQ Tattoos ( unattractive ) If he likes teens/kids or any underage person 🤢🤢🤮🤮 Backwoods cap Doesn't go out Bad hygiene Sexually promiscuous STD's & STI's Gets angry easily Always assumes  Immature Incels  Convicts/criminals Liberal/Democrat/progressive Satanist or into magic or satanism in any way is a huge red flag

Account · Answer

-People who are stingy with family and friends. It says a lot about them.
I don't like people who put much value to money and think of every single penny they spend.
We wouldn't be a good match since I am the complete opposite.
-People who don't have empathy.
-People who are cowards.
-People who speak bad of their exes.
-People who don't watch out their hygiene.

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

Usually if they spend too much time telling me about themselves and don’t ask any questions about me. It just shows they’re shallow and self centered. There is often a limited amount of time on a date, so I wanna make sure I tell her all about myself. I really don’t care about her.

DextroShade · Answer

I have a list:

Tattoos
Short/brightly-dyed hair
Piercings other than earrings
Has slutty pictures of herself on the internet
Has pictures of herself in yachts or supercars or at exotic destinations
Talks about her ex
Still in contact with exes
1,000-cock stare
Woke/feminist/libtard
Certain professions like nurse or actress
Is on her phone too much or has Tiktok on her phone

These are just red flags, not absolute deal-breakers like bring fat, single mother, or sex worker.

jcampbell115 · Answer

Any signs of aggression, lots of swearing when out in public (such as at a restaurant table), not doing acts of courtesy such as holding a door open for someone, bad etiquette when interacting with waiters/waitresses (how someone interacts with a public worker often tells a lot about them)

aceleon · Answer

a body count (low or high is irrevelant even 1 is high enough)

feminism, social butterfly, dressing revealingly, not liking animals or kids, having male friends, attention whoreness, atheism/deism/different religion than mine, soclai media retardness.

Staximus · Answer

Hard drugs, excessive drinking, No regard for personal safety, anger issues, not having a job or going to school, being a nut case, promiscuity, being on psych meds, materialism, status chasing, not liking any music besides pop music

Ammyyf · Answer

If they do not treat me like a true princess, I would kick them out of my life

Anonymous · Answer

Selfishness. If she is a feminist. If she is a leftist. If she is a narcissist. hair that is colored something other than natural. Piercings, tattoos, high body count. history of cheating.. Has any history of doing stupid shit like only fans.. Dresses like a thot.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Could be a list of a few things but an important one is when they have no faults, everyone has faults. Everyone has something wrong, it's just human to be so.
If someone's pretending they are perfect I wouldn't trust them with a penny.

AydenHazor · Answer

For me it's if they smoke. The smell of the smoke, whether cigarette or marijuana, gives me an instant headache that will often quickly escalate to a migraine, and I'm not going to put up with constant torture for anyone.

serenalovesramen · Answer

when they won’t stop talking, like that’s our job not urs

mandyfire98 · Answer

Bad hygiene, no pride in their appearance at all, narcissistic, too controlling, thinks they're an "alpha"

Anonymous · Answer

When they think ballerinos should wear joggers & converse

DJB72 · Answer

How they speak to the waitress/waiter on the first date. It tells you everything you need to know about how they'll treat you.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I'm actually very picky but I'll give one, opposite gendered friends, I know people gonna hate for this one lmao

Danny_dan92 · Answer

If they talk to their ex lmao The kid’s dad of my ex would probably lose his shit if he found out my ex calls me to vent and catch up with me when he slips up

scooogy · Answer

I think I'm a red flag, attracting one gold digger after the other.

Bricealan · Answer

Drinking too much, loud maybe rude to someone else?

coolbreeze · Answer

When they have more debt and more problems then you do. That is a big red flag to me.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Not being open and honest, violence either towards me or others.

standardguy · Answer

That she does not want to have arguements with a future boyfriend. That she thinks that the man had to be already perfect and do always the right things.

SotiCoto · Answer

A piece of fabric that reflects light between 620 and 700nm wavelength.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Someone who smokes/has drug or alcohol addiction or had casual sex.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Someone who is rude to others. Also someone who smokes cigarettes or has bad hygiene

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Going on a date and she wants to go to a fancy restaurant and won’t expect anything less. Also if she does only fans or any kind of sex word.

rainbowstarsxoxo · Answer

I have a couple of things but men who verbally abuse me will be cut off in my life. I don’t tolerate it. I don’t tolerate any form of abuse.

Worst · Answer

Not interested in what you need or want in a relationship, or what your boundaries are. It's all about them.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Bad talking people all the time

justabuddy · Answer

Short answer, bad attitude. I don't want to be yelled at for everything and anything.

Slim57 · Answer

Distancing, selfishness, flirting with other people

nawtee_me · Answer

Pro choice I guess. Anyone willing to take another’s life so they don’t have to be responsible is a 🚩

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

you look so good with brown hair.

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

When I find out they have a Swastika Tattoo.

GregorSamsa · Answer

Disrespectfulness

Booklover_90 · Answer

Someone who constantly lies.

jarkitor20 · Answer

If they smoke cigarettes

dudeinohio · Answer

Too many male friends

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Smokers and people who use illegal drugs

FenixG45 · Answer

Poor hygiene, tardiness, lying, talking to herself

MrCharlie13 · Answer

Him being on the phone most of the dates

Jennz6 · Answer

Drugs mostly

In_Trance · Answer

Poor dental health

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

bad breath

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