Is it true that women prefer abusive men because they aren’t boring the way good guys are?

[Anonymous]

Like I have done spontaneous dates, I took her out to one of her favorite shows, she said I was really good at eating it, I bought her nice things. Nothing seemed to be enough like I don’t get it. Because maybe I should try to date if that’s what to you have to be to maintain it cause I simply can’t be that

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[normalice]

Women don't prefer abusive men. Abusive men try different women and the women who have the most trouble with conflict end up stuck with them.

[Asker]

So if I was doing everything for her, her family liked me I never called her names, never abused her in any way was by her side when she was sick but I was called as not as exciting as her ex who sexually abused her and cheated on her

[normalice]

I'd have to know details to come up with an objective explanation, if you are interested in one. But if you just want someone to tell you it's her fault and be done with it I'm sure you'll get plenty of that from others on this site.

[Asker]

What sort of details because the honest to god truth is it hurt to the core I invested my whole heart into this relationship e-card I thought she was a good person. and anything I could do for her I would

[normalice]

I'd have to know more about her. She sounds like a anomaly, not the rule.

[Anonymous]

Why do people believe thing like that. Where I’m from, we pampered and catch them while they asleep then torture them tied on the bed.
He won’t ever do that again!

[Nikki1989]

Why men believe any of this garbage is a mystery.

[Asker]

Well I just had this happened to me so it’s not a thing of belief like she vocally said that she wanted those sorts of things and I said that first that’s not healthy and toxic and secondly that I could never be that person

[Billlewis]

I think he could have worded it better, but as a whole, he's somewhat correct, in my opinion.

[YourSong]

What do you mean nothing seemed enough? For what? Did she say it wasn’t?

[Asker]

No about of how I cared seemed enough and she had said that she preferred someone closer to her ex that was abusive

[Asker]

No amount of how I cared was enough

[YourSong]

Sounds like she had trauma

[Asker]

Yeah she came from childhood trauma her mom and dad beat the shut out of each other. Her sister would beat her up as kids

[YourSong]

How sad

[Asker]

But she said she wants to find someone else with trauma

[YourSong]

Let her

[Asker]

So is there anything I could have done differently

[YourSong]

How? You just said she’s looking for someone with trauma

[Anonymous]

Only if she also has a list of problems.

[Asker]

Like what

[Opinion Owner]

She's also abusive. Toxic people date other toxic people. Decent people won't put up with it.

[Opinion Owner]

Girls who go for "bad boys" aren't worth being with.

[dudeinohio]

Yes. It is true.