He keeps lying about this chick, why?

[Anonymous]

My ex (and a friend... also ex) texted with this chick from work all the time. I asked him probably more than 10 times (whether as a joke or plain forward) whats going on and why/what is he hiding.

All of those 10 times he denied having a relationship with her nor liking her (that way). He admitted texting though. This resulted to our break up, bc I even recorded him secretly and he freaked out.

Anyway... I asked him one final time again. Told him exactly "now when we are basically strangers again, tell me the truth". He denied again.

I mean was he lying once again or I lost my mind?

I see them online on both Viber and Messenger at the exact same time.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's super sketchy. Why would he keep lying about it unless there was something shady going on? No good reason to deny someone that many times.

My guess is he did like this chick but didn't want you finding out while you guys were together. Or maybe they were flirting behind your back and he wasn't tryna get in trouble. Either way, clearly he wasn't being honest with you about talking to her all the time.

I wouldn't think you lost your mind at all for feeling suspicious. Like why was he so scared when you recorded him? Innocent people usually don't freak out like that. And them always being online together is more proof something was up.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet breaking up anyway if he can't even be real with you. Who wants a dude lying to their face that many times? You're better off without all that drama. Don't waste your time worrying - just move on and find somebody who'll treat you right from the start.

[Asker]

Do you think there is a chance he was telling the truth? I mean... he did continue denying after our break up. I don't get it. He could have said... I do have relations, I just didn't want to tell you while we were together.

[Oliverlogan263]

I mean, it's possible he was telling the truth, but honestly it seems pretty unlikely at this point with all the evidence stacked against him. Guys usually don't text other girls that much if there's nothing going on. And if it was totally innocent, why keep denying it over and over instead of just being honest?

If he really had nothing to hide, he could have easily said something like "We're just friends but I know it seemed suspicious. I'm sorry I wasn't fully transparent before." The fact that he keeps lying about it, even now that you're broken up, kinda proves he's still hiding something. I feel like if there was nothing there, he would have come clean by now to clear his conscience.

I know you want a definite answer, but at this point even if he said he was telling the truth, could you really believe him? Trust is broken, you know? Maybe he's still lying to make himself feel better or not look bad. I'd say just try to move on from it cause you'll probably never get the 100% truth. Not worth stressing over some dude who treated you shady.

[jaskin777]

It technically none of your business.
Maybe he likes her maybe he just friends with her..
Maybe this or that
It his personal life. That he not willing to share

[Asker]

It was my business, bc we were a thing. I expected him to be honest as I was. It's non of his business to ask me whom I'm going to Turkey with too, but he did. So if he can ask me that, why can't I ask him about something going on during our relationship?

[jaskin777]

True u got a point
U was a thing
But ur not a thing no more
So if he doesn't want to tell u rn he doesn't have to
Let him come to you... for him to tell u the truth not u go to him and ask him questions over n over again