Boys have you or would you ever control what your girlfriend is wearing?

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ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

Yea I have boundaries and I believe if it's anything that will get me into unwanted trouble, I have the rights to confront my partner on what I would believe will cause trouble cause every partner i date will know that i will break someones face if they wanna play any games, certain styles of clothing can definitely draw more unwanted attention like catcallers, perverts, rapists etc. They all check the box of reasons to break someones face, I'd expect the same back, if something I wear bothers her, she lets me know and I'm not childish enough to make it a big deal, to be fair tho I'm more into classy women anyways or modest? I don't know the word for it.

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

Wife response: the way a woman dresses is a reflection of her relationship and her respect for her husband. The way a husband acts and treats a woman in public is a reflection of his relationship and his respect for his wife. As such a man should not need to control what his girlfriend/wife wears nor should a woman have to worry about how her boyfriend/husband acts. Fairly simple at least in my culture. My husband's culture seems to not understand that which is probably why he married me over a woman from America

AviatorTom · Answer

No, I would never control what she wears. I might make a suggestion but what she wears is her decision.

laraWM · Answer

I'd tell him to mind his own business

SeymourBill420 · Answer

It depends on what she's wearing. If she's wearing something that looks ridiculous, or turns me off, then yes I would because my girlfriend should be wearing something that turns me on versus something that turns me off because I should be the only one that is exclusive in her life. So she should be the most appealing to me versus anybody else. And it's not controlling. It's personal preferences. I mean I don't like it when women wear slut clothing, and have their boobs are hanging out of their shirt versus in their shirt. Those boobs are mine. If you're dressing like a slut or a hooker, that ain't going to turn me on. And women have their own preferences on what guys like to wear. So, they just don't look at it as controlling. But it's a suggestion. And it's a suggestion that you should take into consideration if you're serious in that relationship. Because if you're doing things that are essentially turning them off, then why is he going to want to be with you? But, if you're with somebody that you're trying to express to them that you're serious, then you should act like you're serious and be the most appealing to that one individual.
But, looking at it as controlling is a very immature way of looking at it. Basically what that means is you're not fit for a relationship because you are not willing to compromise. Because, you are not supposed to be dressing for you unless you're going out by yourself. And you should not be dressing to appeal to anybody else other than who you're in a relationship with. And believe me I've seen women wear some pretty ridiculous stuff. Like high heels for instance. And there is hundreds of other things that can make a woman look ridiculous. Really if it has anything to do with the fashion world, it all looks ridiculous. And, if you're not willing to do anything about looking the most appealing to the most important person in your life, then you're not serious.

Miristheiss · Answer

"Control"

Nice buzz word you used there.

I had the freedom to choose who I wanted to be with and who I wouldn't commit to.

I wouldn't have committed to or I would have taken back my commitment and ended things with any woman who chose to dress sexually provocatively.

No one can control anyone. She controls what she wears, he controls if he will commit or stay committed. Both are true at the same time.

More than just the fact I don't want my girl showing off too much of her body and intimate bits for other guys to get to see her mindset would play a role in my attraction to her. Is she longing to dress provocatively? Her heart is yearning to show off skin and get men sexually notice her body and give her attention?

I'd don't think I'd want to be with someone who values this to where she is wanting to do this.

Yea, so to sum up, if she dresses too provocatively and shows off too much leg, chest, stomach, butt and always wants to dress in this way I would just move on.

HawkPerception · Answer

No. I'm an INTP that highly valued freedom of choice. It also means I'm not really for leading people... or following them. I just do my own thing and hope people have similar mindsets.

While I wouldn't ever tell a girl what to wear, I probably wouldn't date a girl that shows off half her ass and shows a ton of cleavage. I'm also not a fan of excessive makeup and fake stuff like nails, lips, booty, boobs, etc.

Like this girl... I would never date a girl like this

Boys have you or would you ever control what your girlfriend is wearing?

Jukes93 · Answer

This is a loaded question and the answer isn't so clear cut. What are you calling "control"? I would definitely have boundaries. I'm not going to literally make her wear a specific thing, but I would expect her to respect me enough to dress appropriately in public. It would be completely her choice not to, but at the same time It would be my choice if I wanted to continue my relationship with her.

Of course, there is no need to argue or get loud or mean with her or anything, but it should be perfectly fine to respectfully let her know that I wasn't ok with what she was wearing. The big key here is to be consistent with my standards.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would never do that. BUT... there is an explanation behind it.

I would NOT want my girl to wear clothes that I thought were too revealing. She doesn't have to dress like a Muslim woman, not even close. But there is a line that she could cross that would be unacceptably revealing in my view because it would feel disrespectful to me. I mean how would a woman feel if I went out in public in nothing but a thong?

However, this would never happen because I have never been and would never be with a woman who would consider something like that in the first place. So it is only theoretical.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

No but I'll remind her that actions have consequences. If you are going out wearing something out of a Cardi B / little Kim video then don't be shocked when you get treated like you're in one. Oh you're going out with "just a friend from work" wearing a see-through top and F me boots? Would you like your stuff in boxes or bags when you return?

NamerOfStars · Answer

I might suggest or request something, but I wouldn't outright veto or mandate anything unless it posed a direct danger; if we're going to a recycling center, she's WEARING non-slip shoes, for example.

It was actually complications from an argument on an incredibly stupid similar issue that ended my last relationship, so I'd be very upfront that with exceptions at the edges, she's free to wear whatever the hell she wants.

Anonymous · Answer

The girls I like don't tend to wear things I'd dislike her wearing in public (such as revealing clothing), so I've never had the need to.

If she liked the idea of me picking out her clothes for her I'd be more than happy to, but I haven't found myself in the position so far.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I have when they wanted me too. I don't really mind what she's wearing. I'm not going to let her straight up embarrass herself and neither would any quality woman let her man embarrass themself.

But if I feel the need to tell you what to wear constantly and it's not seen as a sort of sexual game for fun or it's always causing problems, why would you date someone who stresses you out that much in the first place?

slatyb · Answer

If she's into being told what to wear, then I would enjoy that. But I'm not going to presume to tell her what she can and can't wear. It's not a deal breaker. I was out last Sunday and by far the most beautiful woman on the floor was in a long-sleeved tee and cargo pants. There were other women in leather pants and sequined low-cut tops but none of them came close.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

I like the woman I'm with to dress nice, sexy... Other men will always look so that doesn't bother me. If she dresses sexy as long as the situation is appropriate, so if she was going to see my parents in a micro mini skirt I'd ask her to please put on something more appropriate but many girls know this so you wouldn't even have to say anything.

DextroShade · Answer

If she is with me she can wear what she wants within reason. If she not going to be with me I definitely have the final say over what she wears but in practice I have never had to exercise this authority because my wife has no desire to dress like a whore.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

The thing I don't get is why guys go out with girls who dress very revealing and posting body pics but then later want to tell them not to dress like that. Why even date her if you don't like her style?

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

My boyfriend will ask if I can wear certain stuff. Hell also let me know if he's uncomfortable with anything. But under no circumstance is he to assume any type of control over my attire.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

It's not for him to decide. He can politely share his opinion. Or ask, if it's important for him. We can negotiate. But he never will decide what I wear.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope. If she’s an adult I expect get to figure out how to get dressed. She’s not a little child

rigmarole · Answer

If they don't dress reasonable, then I wouldn't date them to begin with. If they radically shift their behavior one day then I'd just dump them because they are most likely mentally unstable.

HighValue · Answer

If she wears provocative/revealing clothes for attention I'd end the relationship. It is very disrespectful and immoral to do that when in a relationship.

NathanDavis · Answer

Never have... Never would

lightbulb27 · Answer

If i have to do that i got the wrong girlfriend. Yes but it means its a hard boundary and probably better off leaving if possible.

sawno · Answer

I'd never demand her to wear anything, but sometimes I'd certainly make requests and if she asks i'd say.

MemeSupreme · Answer

they'll never control what i wear but if they got problem with something then i'll probably change it unless they're a dick about it

EmmaMary · Answer

@overthinkergirl  My husband wouldn't dare.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Many have tried and all have failed. He better buy a barbie and dress her up. Dafuq

Billlewis · Answer

Oh, no, not at all, under any circumstances. If anything , she'll tell me what to wear.

Dr_CEI · Answer

Absolutely not! That would be controlling and jealous behaviour

Date_a_Snob · Answer

yes and no - he's never told me what to wear or not wear but if I know he really likes me in something I will wear it just for him

Unit1 · Answer

No. However I have some ideas, that I would appreciate if she tried some outfit ideas from me. Ultimately it's the girl's decision.

collie22 · Answer

When I was seeing a boy last summer he liked me in shorts , I didn't think he was wanting to control me.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I never tell my wife what to wear. Sometimes she'll ask for my opinion, but she usually ends up wearing whatever she wants

whistlingwh0res · Answer

They don’t want other mens cheating attention. The plan is make a woman as a wife and then fool around knowing he has somewhere to return after he become old and wearily

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I would never date a girl who dressed like a hoe ever.

Amur8711 · Answer

No, she can wear anything she wishes, I trust she can determine what would be to inappropriate!

HouseMoat · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend. I'm single ad a virgin at 34, you tell me

Anonymous · Answer

Never done it but she sometimes do it to me but in a good way ☺️

James_Likes_PPL · Answer

Yes. I buy lots of her clothes.

RebelinSteel · Answer

No that’s just wrong.

Notherndude84 · Answer

No, I haven’t

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

No way. Wtf

dudeinohio · Answer

Not really.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Always

riverrat3 · Answer

Never

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