How to make a guy kiss you?

[Anonymous]

The thing is, he tried to kiss me a few days ago, but I got too scared and moved away… We’ve had a history and things are super complicated right now and I know how irrational this is, but I really want him to kiss me…

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are a few things you could try:

- Flirt with him more than usual. Lean into him when you laugh, touch his arm when you talk, make lots of eye contact. Get the chemistry and tension building between you.

- Find opportunities for closeness, like sitting next to each other instead of across from each other. Be close up in his personal space.

- Drop some hints like "I wish you would kiss me right now" or "Remember last time you tried to kiss me? We should try that again..." Get the idea in his head.

- If you're watching a movie together or something, cuddle up really close to him, maybe even put your head on his shoulder. The proximity should help take the hint.

- During a tender moment, look at his lips and then back to his eyes. If he's looking at your lips too, go for it and lean in like you're going to kiss him first. Make the first move!

- Worst case, just tell him straight up "I want you to kiss me." Guys can be dense, so being direct might be what it takes.

Don't stress too much if it doesn't work right away. But with enough flirting, touching and hints, he should get the message loud and clear that you're into him too. Go get your guy!

[Asker]

That’s very helpful! Thank you so much! I haven’t got much experience, tbh, and It’s super shy too, so I find myself really awkward and sometimes I don’t know how to act or even react. Tiny example is when he once told me that my heartbeat was high and I went “Oh, that’s because of my arrhythmia… probably..” he commented on how romantic that sounded and we both laugh about it now, but you get the point. Anyway! I’ll put this all to the test and see how it goes!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww sounds like you guys have an cute thing going! Don't be too hard on yourself, we all say silly stuff sometimes when we're nervous around someone we like. The good thing is you were able to laugh about it together.

Just remember he already tried to kiss you once, so he's totally into you too. Try to relax and have fun together. Maybe try touching his arm when you're chatting close, or give him a quick flirty wink - little things to show your interest without pressure.

Oh and def use those smiles and eye contact! Guys go crazy for a nice smile. You'll do great, just be yourself. Try to ignore any nerves and live in the moment with him. Let me know what happens - I'm rooting for you guys! You got this.

[Asker]

Wow, thanks! I really wish things could go smoothly with him for once. I know he’s into me, but gosh I wish things weren’t so complicated

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh tell me about it, relationships are always so complicated ain't they? But don't lose hope girl, y'all will figure it out. Seems like the feelings are real between you, and that's what matters most.

My advice - next time you're together, just focus on having a great time. Laugh, talk for hours, don't even think about the drama from before. Guys love a girl who can just cut loose and have fun. If the moment feels right, give him a little peck on the cheek, see how he reacts. Then take it from there.

Also don't be afraid to open up a bit about how you feel. We dudes are clueless sometimes, a little communication can go a long way. I'm sure he just wants you to be happy too deep down.

You both deserve to be with someone who makes ya smile. Have faith y'all can get past the BS, stay positive! One step at a time, it'll all work out. Just enjoy each other and see where it leads, a'ight? You got this sis!

[Asker]

Honestly, your responses gave me a lot of hope, thank you. I just sometimes feel so uncertain about the future and whether or not it has a place for us together in it.

He’s a wonderful person, but he has a lot to work on, and I’m not perfect myself either. He’s too scared of losing me to the point that he’d rather keep as a friend than lose me as a lover. Yet, there are these moments that make it obvious he wants more. Besides, we did talk about it multiple times and he never denied his feelings for me. He described us as “two shoes of the same pair” that one time I almost left his life completely.

Ugh, I sure tend to overshare, don’t I? Sorry about that, it really just has been a lot. Thank you so much for your advice and support though, I really do appreciate it a lot!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that does sound complicated. But from what you've said, it's clear he cares about you a lot. Even if he's scared to fully commit, who can blame him with all the baggage? But it also sounds like there's something really special between you two.

The future is always uncertain, all you can do is live in the now. When you're together, just focus on enjoying your time and building each other up. Don't try to force any serious talks, just let things flow naturally. He called you his "other shoe," that's deep!

Keep communicating how you feel when you're both ready, but don't put too much pressure. Y'all will figure it out as long as you support each other. Try to relax and have fun like when you first met, the rest will work itself out. You've got a good thing going so don't stress the small stuff. It'll work out how it's supposed to, just stay positive!

Don't apologize for sharing, that's what friends are for. Feel free to hit me up if you ever need to vent. But I'm sure if you keep being yourselves and caring for each other, it'll all work out in the end. You guys got this!

[Asker]

Yeah, I’m not blaming him, I know the what kinda past he had. If anything, I really wish there was more I could do for him…

I want to believe that what we have is indeed special, but I’m in a place in life where it feels like everything’s just too much. A part of me keeps telling me that I should just let go, but I really don’t want to. I don’t want to give up on him, I don’t want to give up on us… I’ve never felt this way with anyone else.

Honestly, if he’d tell me to wait, I’d even wait forever. But he refuses to make any promises. That being said, I know he isn’t in a great place in life himself, so I stopped bringing it up at all; I don’t want to be another reason why he’s stressing out.

Anyway, you’re really amazing, thank you so much! I hope you don’t mind, but I’ll take you up on your offer ♪(๑ᴖ◡ᴖ๑)♪

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow it really does sound like you care about him a lot. And I can understand why this is all so overwhelming too with everything else going on in life. But it also sounds like what you have is really special.

As for not making promises, maybe he's just scared. Sometimes when we've been through tough stuff in the past it makes it hard to open up fully again, even when we want to so badly. But it also seems like he cares about you too and doesn't wanna lose you either.

I know it's not easy, but try not to put so much pressure on things right now. Just keep being there for each other how you can. Your feelings will always be valid too so don't feel bad about bringing things up if you need to talk. Communication is important.

But also remember to take some time for yourself when you can. Do stuff you enjoy, hang with other friends too. It might help you feel less overwhelmed and you never know, could help him open up more too seeing you're happy.

Keep your head up! I know it's not simple, but if it's truly special sometimes that's worth fighting for. And I'm always here to listen if you ever wanna chat more, so don't be a stranger ok? Hang in there!

[The_Sexpert]

Thanks for the A2A, Sexpert here

Yeah so in your case i think it's relatively less of a hard task since he tried to kiss you once , so all you need to do now is to give him a sign

"I really want him to kiss me"... you just need to let him know that

So the best way would be to flirt with him to just have a romantic vibe and then all you need to do is to break the "touch barrier" .. which in turn can be done with small gestures like holding hands, or go for a hug and then some cheek or kissing anywhere else like the other opinion owner said... and look at his lips as you hold him close

Good luck to you

[Asker]

That’s really informative, thank you!
Actually, the touch barrier is long broken. We’ve known each other for a while and we’re basically best friends. Besides, he’s a really touchy guy. That’s why I often find myself wondering “Did he mean something? Did he not?”
That was helpful though, thanks))

[The_Sexpert]

That's great, makes things even easier
Good luck again for having a long passionate kiss with him..

[Asker]

Thanks! Hoping for the best!

[SeymourBill420]

Well, women have got to be less worried about making a guy kiss her. A woman should be more worried and concentrated about being aggressive enough to take what you want. Because that is actually what a guy wants. A guy wants a woman to a new initiate things some of the time and not have him initiate things all the time. That gets a bit boring in a relationship.
A woman should be grown and mature enough to be able to take what she wants and what she needs and what she desires because maybe he's looking to be taken.
But, it's very hard for a guy to make any moves or make any comments or initiate any conversations with females nowadays. It used to be a very easy thing to do. But now with the awkwardness and society it is very hard to do this. And with all the women screaming sexual harassment nowadays that is not sexual harassment. It is very hard for a guy to make a move on a woman in the society.
For a woman it's a no brainer. The worst case scenario is is going to be a little taken aback awkward and then if he likes it he's going to continue it if he doesn't like it he's going to respectively reject the kiss and nothing should change at that point. If he's not ready for that with you in any level then he's not going to kiss you back. If he's ready for you on any sort of level, well in his tongue better be in your mouth.
But also think too, he's probably scared of than you. You have nothing to lose he could have everything to lose. Especially if you didn't want it.

[HighSky]

You're not making things easy by doing stuff like moving away from him, just ask him to kiss you. If I were the dude I would have given up on you the instant you moved away.

[Asker]

I understand your point, but we really have a lot going on. It’s not like he’s never kissed me either. Believe me, if our situation wasn’t as complicated as it currently is, I wouldn’t have moved away.

[ProbablyClueless]

Pull him close and pucker up. You've already rejected him once. It's on you to initiate another kiss if you want a second go.

[Anonymous]

Start with a hug

[Asker]

We do hug a lot. What to do next?

[Opinion Owner]

Kiss his cheek or neck

[Asker]

Ohhh, that does sound like a good idea)