Do I need to workout to get a girlfriend or that only pertains if I want an above average girlfriend?

[Ryan210000]

I dont mind if my girlfriend is average, below average looking (just not below a 3), and I dont mind if she is overweight (just not 350 pounds or more). Since that is the case do I have to work out or not really?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah dude, you definitely don't need to be ripped to get a girlfriend. That's mainly only important if you want someone super hot.

For a regular or below average girl, just having a good personality and being confident in yourself is way more important. As long as you're not massively overweight or out of shape.

I wouldn't stress too much about your looks or workout routines yet. Focus more on putting yourself out there socially and talking to different girls.

You'll find that plenty of average or even less-than-average girls are still cool people and fun to hang with once you get to know them. Don't limit your options based on looks alone.

Work on being a caring, fun friend to girls and let things develop naturally. Hit some parties, join a club - expand your social circle. You got this dude!

Don't worry about obsessive gymbro crap. Just be yourself and see who you click with. That's way more important than trying to "work out for a girlfriend."

[Ryan210000]

I never my whole life minded communicating anywhere (in person, online, text, email, etc. to women of any look range, age, etc. but when it comes to romantic relationships and sex I cared a lot when I was junior high to early college. When it comes to romantic relationships and sex I stopped caring a lot less, like I said early college.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I feel you man, we all go through ups and downs with that stuff. Relationships and dating are tricky no matter what.

Sounds like maybe in Junior high/high school you put a lot of pressure on yourself to only go for certain girls or whatever. That's natural when you're young and still figuring stuff out.

But it's good you chilled out about it as you got older. College is a whole different ball game - people are more open minded and you meet such a wide variety of folks.

Definitely important to not limit yourself. Who knows, you might really click with someone you never expected. And being open keeps more doors open for connections.

As long as you treat people with kindness and respect, that's all that truly matters. Don't sweat the superficial stuff so much - real chemistry is way deeper than looks.

Seems like you're in a good place now bro. Keep doing your thing, putting good vibes out there. The right people will be drawn to your chill vibes, no worries man!

[slatyb]

I had no trouble getting girlfriends after I divorced, and I didn't and don't work out.

But why would you want to be with a woman you didn't find attractive? That's just mean, or desperate.

[Ryan210000]

Since late High School or early college I didn't mind if she is average, below average (just not below a 3), and overweight (just not 350 pounds or more). I just dont mind.

[IslaTheWitch]

No, you never should do something only to catch attention of others.

You should move your body, do some sports for your health and mental well-being.

[Ryan210000]

I seen always how average, ugly guys, fat guys,(you get it), get romantic partners without being muscular. I think it has always been an emphasis when it comes to the guys I listed to get muscular if they want an above average romantic partner or if they want a woman that is a gym rat but not for other women. Do you agree?

[IslaTheWitch]

As I wrote. Whatever you do, do it for yourself, not to impress others. Then you have no expectations and you are healthier and happier. Other people are different. I know a guy who is fat. But also very funny and easy going. Do he has million friends and a girlfriend. We are in relationships with minds not appearances.

If you are healthier and happier with yourself, you will attract proper people to you.

[Sevenpointfive]

no. you're 32. most girls your age have come to terms that they look 32 as well. but working out is a personal choice and a good one! you'll definitely have more success with a better body.

[Ryan210000]

If I dont HAVE to have an above average looking girlfriend, do I have to work out? I dont mind if she is average, below average (just not below a 3), and overweight (just not like 350 pounds or more).

[Sevenpointfive]

if you don't have a girlfriend now then you have to do something to improve yourself. if you think your body is keeping that from you then work on it. if it's something else then no, you don't have to get a better body.

[Ryan210000]

I never had a girlfriend in my life but I am no longer desperate for one. I dont mind if I have one or dont have one. And average and below average looking guys that never worked out, get girlfriends in their league or below, so it has never been my looks as a big issue. I think it has always only pertained to only average and below average looking guys that want above average girlfriends. I think the issue has always been my awkwardness and shyness.

[Sevenpointfive]

definitely. get out more. talk to girls. gain girls as friends to help you understand why you aren't attractive to women. i guarantee you, the more girls as friends you get, the more it will help you. i did this! i was hopeless, but it turned my life around in the love arena.

[Ryan210000]

Yeah the guys that have always put an exaggerating emphasis on working out to get a girlfriend, most of the time always just wanted an above average looking girlfriend. Cause with that I always agreed the exaggerating emphasis, but average to below, fat women, emphasis makes sense but not that much Cause like I said why have there always been average and below average looking guys with romantic partners in their league or below without working out. And it also always made sense for guys of any looks range to workout for hookups of women of any looks due to so many women of any looks ranges only wanting to hookup with muscular or above average guys. But we are talking about romantic relationships.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'll ask you this. can you get a girl to be your friend?

[Ryan210000]

Always easily.

[Ryan210000]

But do you agree with everything I say?

[Sevenpointfive]

if you easily make friends with girls then what's the problem? why aren't you "THEIR TYPE"? get a personality and stay in shape and have money. that's it. that's the key.
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you don't seem to socialize much so if i were you i'd get out more and talk to a lot of people. or you could pay a psychologist?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've never had to, and most of the women who hit on me were gorgeous.

Unfortunately they were mostly all boring, so I either rejected them or dated but ended up breaking up.

[Ryan210000]

You must be hot and I think it has always been an emphasis to get muscular for above average looking women if you want them as romantic partners or if you want a gym rat romantic partner but for other women it has never been an emphasis. Do you agree?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm not muscular. The women who like me go for the cute type, not the buff type.

[getwiththepg]

You need to workout to stay disease free & live 80+ without being in debilitating pain.

[Billlewis]

It certainly can't hurt.

[Ryan210000]

But if I dont need a good looking girlfriend do I NEED TO? I dont care if she is average or below average looking, just not below a 3. And I dont mind if she is overweight, just not like 350 pounds or more. Be honest.

[Billlewis]

Working out at the gym will increase your chances of success, regardless of how selective you are in your tastes.

[Ryan210000]

I know it would increase but is it something I desperately need if I dont mind an average looking girlfriend, etc? Also, I am no longer desperate for a girlfriend. I dont mind if I have it or dont have it. So since that is the case, what do you think?

[Billlewis]

In today's environment, yes, you need to get every advantage you can, because millions upon millions of guys are at risk of being virgins their entire lives.
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[Anonymous]

Working out will help as would being rich